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Author:  THaywood [ Thu Dec 09, 2010 2:28 am ]
Post subject:  Not sure how to move this one on

Right heres the situation, I'm started uni 3 months ago, theres a HB9 living upstairs, first night of uni i meet her for the first time, run good game on her (with a playful and teasing style) and get her number. when I add her on fb I found out she's got a boyfriend, and focus my attention elsewhere. over the next couple of months I date a couple of other girls, but i see her regularly as we have mutual friends. everytime we were together there was great chemistry, flirting from both sides and we had some pretty intense dancing on a night out. about 10 days ago i found out she got dumped by her boyfriend (of 3 years).
I planned to show some respect and not make a move quickly, but i see her on a night out 4 days later. with little effort on my part we start making out. i say goodbye to her on the stairs (as she lives upstairs) and go back to my room, 5 mins later she texts me asking to go up. I thought about the consequences for a bit but couldnt help myself and went up to see her. after 5 mins of flirting we are in bed, she's on top of me kissing me passionately. I made a move to escalate it towards sex, but she said "i cant", so we carried on kissing for a bit, and then went to sleep.
the next morning, i could tell she felt guilty, it had only been a few days since she broke up with her bf. she also apologised for asking inviting me upstairs saying 'it was wrong to use you for tlc'. i knew i had to try and prevent it from being awkward, so i stayed the same jokey person over the next few days, and made jokes about her keeping me up all night resulting in me oversleeping for a lecture.
since then i have seen her a couple of times, at first she seemed uncomfortable about what happened, but she seems more relaxed now and its back to how it was before.... the problem is im unsure how to move things on. maybe it was just for tlc as she was feeling low after the breakup, and needed to boost her esteem by getting a boy back. in which case i annoyingly fell into the trap of being her rebound. But i really like this girl, i want a relationship with her, should I ask her on a date, or just wait for another night out and try the moves again.

any help is much appreciated. please bare in mind that this girl is in my group of friends (ive been trying to prevent it becomming to much like friends) so a really awkward situation would be best avoided.

thanks
TH

Author:  HappySlip [ Thu Dec 09, 2010 4:33 am ]
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i suggest date other women for now and wait for about around a month if she seems normal definitely go for it but for now you should give her the gift of missing you.

Author:  THaywood [ Thu Dec 09, 2010 5:25 pm ]
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cheers, im on a night out tonight, and i know she's going. so i think i'll give my attention to some other girls and see how she handles it. hopefully that will spark her into making a move. cause a month is a long time to wait, i know what your saying, but i'd love it if i could achieve it in a shorter time frame.

Author:  THaywood [ Fri Dec 10, 2010 3:09 am ]
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ok the night didnt go great, i saw her in the club and instantly noticed she was completely off her face.... i spoke to her mate jess, who im quite good friends with as well and she said it was not a good time to try anything. i paid my attention to other girls but i doubt she would have even noticed. a little later i noticed she was getting with some loser (which annoyed me a bit, as i'd resisted the temptation to try anything as i knew she was hammered... yet he clearly didntm seem to mind)....
so i reverted back into game and started talking to the guy, it turned out he was italian and called fernando (personally i thought that was a spanish name)... and i started taking the mickey out of him for wearing a scarf and a pair of sunglasses in the club. the girl (sarah) started showing me more attention and danced with me for a while... which i stupidly allowed to happen, and when i went to escalate by moving my hand onto her she moved it off and said not to try it on with her tonight.
i then decided it was a waste of time, and went off with some mates that i knew from back home.... still i'd have preferred to have ended the night with her again.

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