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Author:  tedko [ Thu Nov 25, 2010 9:33 pm ]
Post subject:  Advice needed...
Hello everyone!
I have this situation where I really don't know what happened and how to deal with it. There is this girl who is not from my town and she's a complete 9. My best friend and her best friend are a couple.Eventually me and my friend went in her town which is 2hours drive with a car.

There we had a party and everything was fine. We kissed there. She really liked me. My kino escalation was perfect and verbal communication too. She was enamoured of me. Me and my friend come back in our town. Everynight afterwards me and this girl had amazing conversations that lasted for like 3-4 hours through SPAM. We got to know each other very well. I am not a shallow person, so I tailored my questions very well in order to understand her character traits, emotions and motivations. I listened her very carefully and never run out of things to say. Used everything as a hook and got deeper and deeper.

After 2 weeks she and her best friend came in my town. She came to sleep in my apartment and her best friend went to sleep in my friend's apartment ofcourse :) I got laid, but as I said I'm not a shallow person and really fell inlove with this girl. You know how you start to think when you say : "But I really like this girl", your game starts to ... suck. But I tried to manage my mindset and dealt good in every situation. In the morning on the other day they had to go. They came just for one day.

Since then, which was a week ago, she avoids my attention, I try to call her on SPAM, she's so busy..., she responds me only with 1-2 words... I called her on her mobile, cuz I wanted to see if I had offend her with sth, but she said that she feels bad, she doesn't know what is going on with her ... and stuff like that and she apollogised for making me feel that way.

Any advice, please?!?
Author:  tedko [ Fri Nov 26, 2010 8:53 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Advice needed...
Yesterday, I decided to talk directly with her. I said that we had never brough up the question about us, I mean not as a couple or something, just me and her being together. What she said is that she can't be with someone who is 200km away and that when she is with someone she wants to spend almost all of her time with that person and with me that is impossible. She wants him to be around her...
I knew all of this, before she had said it to me. But it seems like I don't want to admit it and pretend it is not a problem...
She also said that I am the man of her dreams, I am the guy that she has been looking for all this years because I am an amazing guy but ... bla bla bla
Author:  Legit_ [ Fri Nov 26, 2010 9:29 am ]
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You probably dropped your game and became an AFC after you full closed.

Either that, or a hundred other things. It's pretty irrelevant, why do you want a relationship with someone that far away?
Author:  tedko [ Fri Nov 26, 2010 9:53 am ]
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You probably dropped your game and became an AFC after you full closed.

Either that, or a hundred other things. It's pretty irrelevant, why do you want a relationship with someone that far away?
I have the same feeling that my AFCness appeared in the end.But I have never begged her or something. What she is worried about I use patterns to evoke these feelings in her that she wants.
About the second question. I really don't know why I want a relationship. I have hunderds of beatiful girls around me( I am not bragging) but my social sircle consists mostly of 8s 9s and 10s. But I really feel that chemistry with her. I like her shyness, maybe at times:) I think that 200km are not a big problem, well it really is a barrier but we can jump over it :).

You should never say "But I really like this girl", like I did, because you go wrong... Whatever you have accomplished, just collapsed with 1 move... And I still don't know why I am writing here :)...
Author:  Mr_Amazing [ Fri Nov 26, 2010 10:59 am ]
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you are setting yourself up to get hurt if you decide to go through with it. you should stick to the girls in your town. oh and when women say stuff like "you are the man of my dreams", yet their actions don`t show it...it usually means there is another guy in the picture somewhere. trust me on that one.
Author:  Ryan Black SashaPUA [ Fri Nov 26, 2010 3:57 pm ]
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I think you may have made things a little too serious. She may just really like you and be avoiding you so that she doesn't get any more attached and get hurt eventually.

Either way, you could try and have a conversation where you say that you guys really get on and have a great time together, so why not just try and see each other when you can and enjoy that, but when you're apart, then what you two do separately is your own business. Basically set up a open relationship on mutual terms, so you can still game your 8s and 9s, she can do whatever, and nobody gets hurt by worrying if the other one is being faithful 200km away for weeks at a time.
Author:  tedko [ Fri Nov 26, 2010 4:50 pm ]
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you are setting yourself up to get hurt if you decide to go through with it. you should stick to the girls in your town. oh and when women say stuff like "you are the man of my dreams", yet their actions don`t show it...it usually means there is another guy in the picture somewhere. trust me on that one.
She has recently broke up with her boyfriend. They had a long-term relationship that lasted for a year. But I did my best so far to remove him from the picture :)
Author:  tedko [ Fri Nov 26, 2010 4:55 pm ]
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I think you may have made things a little too serious. She may just really like you and be avoiding you so that she doesn't get any more attached and get hurt eventually.

Either way, you could try and have a conversation where you say that you guys really get on and have a great time together, so why not just try and see each other when you can and enjoy that, but when you're apart, then what you two do separately is your own business. Basically set up a open relationship on mutual terms, so you can still game your 8s and 9s, she can do whatever, and nobody gets hurt by worrying if the other one is being faithful 200km away for weeks at a time.
I should DEFINITELY tell her that we have something special and unique going on between us. That's a good one. Thank you for everything. I really needed advice from experienced people :)
Author:  Mr_Amazing [ Sat Nov 27, 2010 12:57 am ]
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see, i knew there was another guy. lol. well, at least you got laid. but you know that she is going to work things out with the boyfriend. take it for what it was: rebound sex...and move on.
Author:  tedko [ Sat Nov 27, 2010 1:44 pm ]
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see, i knew there was another guy. lol. well, at least you got laid. but you know that she is going to work things out with the boyfriend. take it for what it was: rebound sex...and move on.
Today her best friend called me to tell me how sorry she was for me.... :))) She also told me that "my girl" has a new boyfriend. She moved on, why shall I not move on... I will. It's just the thing that I want to do it again with her and it's killing me...
On top of that I have had a girlfriend for a week and everything I do with her I just think it is this girl from the other town...
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