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Author:  Pickup Truck [ Thu Jul 29, 2010 10:40 am ]
Post subject:  Help needed for THIS FRIDAY.

Guys,

I was in Ibiza last week, I don't know if you've read my post "Heartbroken" but the girl i met on holiday was outstanding.

Anyway, she told me she fell for me even though she told herself not to while we were texting each other after having left the airport and going our seperate ways.

After a day of texting each other back at home, she didn't text me for around four days, so i immeidiately assumed i'd been forgotten about; I also saw a guy from her hometown commenting her facebook in a more than friendly way, so tis led me to believe that she'd found someone else.

Also, I am a very paranoid character, and one of my friends who was on our holiday is talking to her CONSTANTLY on facebook, I have a slight hunch that they're texting as well.

Anyway.. out of the blue, she's decided to come down to my town with her friend on Friday, her friend is staying with one of my friends when they got close on holiday, and the girl I like is staying at my house.

I want some advice on how to act, because i'm pretty sure I'm being played here. However i want to show her that I am perfect for her and she should be with me and not even think about anyone else. And with my recent diagnosis of depression, I don't think I'll be able to handle a heartbreak again. This really is make or break for me...

Author:  Wagon [ Thu Jul 29, 2010 5:15 pm ]
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Dude...

Everything you wrote tells me you have zero self esteem. You have given this woman total power over your happiness and sense of self worth with your 'Make or Break' attitude, this is unattractive and in addition to oozing through every interaction you have with her (and anyone else) is a recipe for disaster. It's not a crime to love women, but it becomes such when that love erodes the man you are. If you have been diagnosed with depression (speaking from experience) you really need to learn to cultivate a positive, confident outlook before making yourself vulnerable.

You want advice on how to act? What you need is advice on how to think and feel about yourself, once you take care of that your actions will handle themselves.

I'm posting this here instead of PMing you because your situation is far too common, and I want every guy that reads this to understand that joy, confidence, and optimism flow from the man in the mirror; the foundation of a happy life does not hinge on the validation from any woman no matter how beautiful or captivating she might be. PM me if you want to discuss this further, but if you take anything from my post at all let it be this:

Do not build this woman up in your mind as the solution to your problems, I don't know her or you but I can guarantee you she won't solve shit. You are in control of your happiness in life, don't ever forget that.

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