Greetings,
I've been in this situation quite a few times actually. There are two main reasons why I personally fail to close with certain women. Both stem from a fear of rejection, but slightly different depending on the situation. For example:
1- She's become too much of a 'friend' figure due to lack of kino escalations in comfort and the rapport is too sister/brother-like for a sexual attempt. In a situation like this, the fear of rejection is great because the subconsious thought regardless of her many IOIs is: "Shit, if I go for a kiss she's going to think I'm some pervert that was using her friendship to get laid. Her IOIs are probably vibing IOIs only, and do not convery real attraction."
At times, that may be accurate, but at other times, it's simply negative and limiting thinking that will get you nowhere.
2- She's not comfortable enough around me yet which makes my kiss close impossible without awkwardness. I was with a girl once who would -all of a sudden- start fumbling in her bag every time I gave the slightlest hint of a kiss...
In this case the subconsious thought is: "Shit she must not like me..Her IOIs are vibing IOIs...She's just being nice to me, but does not desire me as a man."
To solve any K-close problem, make sure that:
A-She's comfortable enough to kiss you.
B-You're calm and collected enough to do it.
C- She actually wants to (The Mystery K-close might be a good thing to use, but be aware of automatic split-second negative repsonses.)
You can actually kino escalate and build comfort at the same time using only one routine. It's called a massage. Learn how to give one
When people are touched sensually with sexual intent (and remember you have a reason to, you're just giving an innocent massage..), it releases certain chemicals in their brains which allow them to relax and let go. People as a general rule like to be touched, so take advantage of that.
First start off by mentioning that you've learned a new massage technique from a magazine article and then CASUALLY say "Come her, I'll show you".
Have them turn their back to you in a SEATED position and go from there.
After about 5 minutes of a good traditional massage around the shoulders, start moving up towards the neck (base of the hair area) and lower back (just above her backside). This creates teasing and anticipation.
Rub your palms against her back in a round motion so as to embrace her abdomen, and stop just as you're about to touch her breasts, and repeat.
Then slowly start running the TIPS of your fingers on her skin sensually. This will give her goosebumps and she will usually comment on how good it feels. When she is still in that moment, lean in and kiss her neck softly and then retreat to test for her reaction. If she likes this, gently twist her head with your hand and plant one on her lips.
If all goes well, you're in.
Field tested more than once
