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Author:  Ingredients [ Sat Apr 19, 2008 10:45 am ]
Post subject:  K-closed a 9, conversation goes dry later, meeting again.
Met up with a friend of my ex-gf last night at a party, she was out with two friends. One of them I actually fully closed about a month ago, but the other girl I had never met before. Well hot, really my type, looked nearly identical to this chick in a band that I had on my desktop picture recently:D

There was a fairly quick connection between us, we talked a bit and were messing around with these glow-sticks that there were tonnes of at the party (so good for kino!!).

So yeah, did a bit of kino escalation and was kissing her within half an hour.

Afterwards the group went to two more clubs, but at the 3rd both her and I were pretty tired so the conversation kinda ran dry. I couldn't think of things to say, and let us hang there in silence for a bit too long :roll:

Then as I was sayin goodbye to the girls there was this guy drunk and stoned off his ass tryin to sell us coke who kind of 'ruined the moment' and I didn't even kiss her before she left, but we said we'll see eachother the next night.

So I'm meeting the same girls again tonight. But I'm kinda worried that it'll be a bit awkward since it ended on a awkward kind of vibe and I don't want there to be any expectations there for this evening.

Advice appreciated!
Author:  wtfpwnage [ Tue Apr 22, 2008 9:03 am ]
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Awkwardness is only in your mind.
Just don't think it should be awkward, and it won't be awkward.
Author:  Ingredients [ Tue Apr 22, 2008 10:56 am ]
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Thanks for the reply. I made a good effort at it, but alas it seemed the girl had pre-decided that she wasn't going to go any further with this.

We were in a noisy nightclub for half the night, and in another noisy nightclub for the other half.

It was me and a bunch of her friends and she didn't pay me much attention, but rather walked around talkin to other people she knew, talking with her friends or for example if they wanted to move to a different area of the club she'd gesture to her friend, walk off, and just expect me to follow :(

I tried to ask her to sit in a quieter part of the club, but she just said she'd be afraid she'd fall asleep (it was around 4am at this point and we still hadn't gone to the next club).

So, a bit of a fail all in all, even though I was happy with the effort that I did make. I didn't go in with the attitude "Oh this is going to be awkward", I was chatting with her friends quite often and dancing with them a lot too.

I dropped her and her friends off at the train station, and she was asking me for my email address but she had nothing to write it on so I took hers. I sent her a very short mail the night before last, linking her to a song I was telling her about. Haven't heard back from her yet.

So, I'm thinking that either the girl;

a. decided she just didn't like me
b. was embarrassed to be too coupley with me in front of her friends
c. had a boyfriend
d. was feeling awkward herself and wasn't comfortable being in any way physical

Either way, I'm never again going to have a Day 2 in a noisy club with a girl and a bunch of her friends. It's just not my natural environment for this kind of thing.
Author:  AlphaX [ Fri Apr 25, 2008 2:12 pm ]
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haha, your last sentence exactly summarizes what i wanted to say.

Just dont go to a club again right the next day if you k-closed.

Elevate it or you you will plateau after the steep start. It's ok if the speed stays up a bit when it was up from the start. It will naturally slow down before the sex anyways.
So day2s: sth during the day preferrably, climbing or whatever the hell you want. After that you can go to clubs again since you got comfort now.

Let us know how it goes on man!
Author:  Ingredients [ Fri Apr 25, 2008 2:16 pm ]
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Yeah I think I've definitely learned my lesson with this one :oops:

However, I think it may not have worked out as bad as I thought.

I sent the girl a very quick mail 2 days later linking her to a song I was telling her about.

She mailed back, and then added me on SPAM. We just BS'd a bit, and then she told me that she'll be back in this city in 2 weeks and that she hopes to see me. I dunno if this was just a friendly gesture, but she's put it out there now so next meeting will definitely be more one on one or nothing at all I think
Author:  Vedere [ Fri Apr 25, 2008 4:04 pm ]
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Quote:
Awkwardness is only in your mind.
Just don't think it should be awkward, and it won't be awkward.
Lovely
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