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Author:  CialdrinD [ Fri Apr 01, 2016 3:34 am ]
Post subject:  I have been getting a lot of flakes, what to do?
I have been getting a lot of dates, even after instant dates. Not really sure what to do. But i kinda understand couple of them. Maybe i was a little too aggressive on one and fell in her frame a bit in the second.

But this third chick, We had an interesting convo for good 15 mins. We exchanged info in the first two minutes and talked about various stuff and build comfort.

My text isn't that great so i thought of trying to call. So I called her couple of days later.

Me: Hey Lady(her name). How are you?
She: Who's this?
Me: Im this(name). I can't believe you forgot me already. haha
She: lol! What;s up?
Me: Im glad i caught you on phone. You sound just as cute as i remember.
She:small giggles
Me: talked about my day a bit and I was coming home from drinks with friends.
She: Here she thought i was asking her out but i wasn't so she was like Im about to go out with some freinds.
Note: I know i probably should have make fun of her here but didn't
Me: I was like Let's get together for a smoothie, how does your next couple of days look like?
She: Yeah let's
Me: Hows this day
She: Oh i can't do this day. Im gonna have to find out whats going on with me and get back to you.
Me: Yeah no worries.

And that was it.

How can I improve? And More importantly, i feel like she interested and i can turn this around but not really sure how, Because it will hard to get her on the phone again. How should i go forward?

Any suggestions, concerns are welcome!
Author:  R.C [ Fri Apr 01, 2016 6:01 am ]
Post subject:  Re: I have been getting a lot of flakes, what to do?
Agreeing to go out with you is a commitment. Commitment requires investment. Investment is a byproduct of interest.

In other words, you're jumping steps. You'd obviously go out with her because she was cute. Reason why you approached. By why would she go out with you?

Yes, a 15 minute conversation can get her attracted. But that doesn't mean she's invested.
Author:  JackZero [ Fri Apr 01, 2016 6:04 am ]
Post subject:  Re: I have been getting a lot of flakes, what to do?
Quote:
Agreeing to go out with you is a commitment. Commitment requires investment. Investment is a byproduct of interest.

In other words, you're jumping steps. You'd obviously go out with her because she was cute. Reason why you approached. By why would she go out with you?

Yes, a 15 minute conversation can get her attracted. But that doesn't mean she's invested.
Pay attention OP. I wake up early or go to bed late to just see what R.C said.
Author:  CialdrinD [ Fri Apr 01, 2016 1:09 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: I have been getting a lot of flakes, what to do?
So investment wise, what am I missing?

How can I make them more invested? Through phone or text?
Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Fri Apr 01, 2016 2:05 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: I have been getting a lot of flakes, what to do?
Attracting but No Comfort. build comfort.
Author:  CialdrinD [ Fri Apr 01, 2016 6:13 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: I have been getting a lot of flakes, what to do?
We talked about lot about what we do, what are we doing in the city, and all those things that build comfort.

Now I know that's missing but how can I build that over text?
I don't think she will pick up my call or meeting is no where near possible.
Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Fri Apr 01, 2016 6:24 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: I have been getting a lot of flakes, what to do?
Quote:
I don't think she will pick up my call or meeting is no where near possible.
You are stepping on your own feet with this shit.
Author:  CialdrinD [ Fri Apr 01, 2016 9:09 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: I have been getting a lot of flakes, what to do?
So you're suggesting i should call her again a few days later?
Author:  dicemaster [ Wed Apr 06, 2016 4:05 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: I have been getting a lot of flakes, what to do?
First learn, which days are avaible dueing the week. Then make a plan, f.e. she is available on thursday, tkae a look to exiting places. Make some more interesting convo with her. I offer to make a plan of date after you get her number. After this period focus on build comfort and rapport with her. The day before the date, confirm it indirectly.

It will reduce your flake rate.
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