Hello everyone.
I'm looking for a bit of advice on text game.
And btw R.C - Ton of respect for your guide which I have read, though still feel like I need some pointers.
As for "Texts are only for setting up the dates" well sure, but I also disagree. When you meet someone online, texts and chat etc are your main source of communication, and you need to build some sort of attraction through the texts, otherwise the girl will never meet up with you.
I have met quite a few girls from tinder and other online services, and I can get laid no problem. The problem arises when I meet someone I really like and truly connect with, or someone I see potential for something more than just casual sex with.
I recently met someone, same age as me (25) from an online service. We connected quite well, got her number in just a few messages, note the messages were long and interesting though.
She usually responds to my messages within 5 minutes, even though she writes 3-5 sms's worth of text, and she asks me a lot of questions to keep the conversation flowing. We texted back and forth the entire first night after exchanging numbers.
She never opens me though, and I feel like maybe I am not DHV'ing enough on text, not keeping her interested enough for her to want to meet up.
I did try to meet up with her once. We talked about what we were doing that night, and she mentioned she was probably just gonna chill on her couch with some netflix, she asked if I had any recommendations as to what she should watch.. I replied something along the lines of "Yeah, I might have a few ideas.. Wanna watch something together?" to which she replied "Yes" and then I wrote "Cool, I'll eat and go to your place after" and then I got the "Wow, that was quick..." I think she thought we should watch the same movie/show, but from our own seperate places...
I played it cool and just said something like "Some other time.
" Yesterday I tried one of the openers from this forum "Hope you're smiling, if not, just think of me
" Took her 3 hours to reply "hehe Have you had a nice day? " I figured I'd wait a few hours then call her, as my experience tells me I have a better shot at getting the date set when calling rather than just texting. She didn't answer her phone, so I left it at that and figured I'd call later. Two hours later I called and again she didn't answer. I wrote her a text a bit later saying "Hope your day is going well. Not gonna call you anymore now! " She replied apologizing saying she was at a girlfriend's house and her phone was on silent, and again asking me about my day. I took a good while replying, telling her about my awesome day, to which she replied very fast again.. I have been in a relationship for a long time, but I seem to remember being the hunted, rather than the hunter.. It kinda feels like I am missing some important key to really get the girls really hooked at this point.