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Author:  badum [ Tue Oct 20, 2015 10:03 am ]
Post subject:  Not sure what to think about it..
Hello

Just to start from the right position. I am a total newbie in dating not even mentioning PUA.
As a University student I have a lot of time to seduce women yet being constrained me from that.
Until 2 weeks ago...

As usual before clubbing, I went with my friends to one of my mates flat to have some pre-drinks.
We had a few and went outside heading to the club. On our way one of my friends met his other friend with a group of girls. One of the girls (girl x) from that group is the subject of this thread and my questions.

In the club, I had some really good time, not really focusing on girls, just dancing, drinking and de-stressing.
At some point girls in our circle started putting on some lipstick and generally adjusting their make-up. As I had no intentions of picking anyone that night, just for fun I told one of them to put some on my lips too. After couple of seconds the girl x, looked into my eyes and simply kissed me out of nowhere.
That night we were kissing a lot and generally escalating a lot of sexual touching.
Next day she texted me asking how my night was. After couple of texts I had another Saturday set up with her for some more clubbing.

This time however she invited me to her friend's house where I didn't know anyone. Again, we had some pre-drinks and went to the club. Straight away, we started to make out. This night it was all even more intense and sexual(biting, touching her boobs, ass). At some point she asked me If I want to have sex with her. I said, "yeah sure". I was almost 100% sure that it is going to happen on that night, yet she had to take care of her totally wasted friend and we simply went back to our homes.

Next day, we messaged a lot, simple funny stuff. She told me that she is going abroad this week and that she wants to meet me for a coffee.
I replied that I would like to take her out for bowling.
She agreed and after that she didn't message me at all. Some time after that I asked her if she still wants to go out for that coffee she mentioned. She said that she has a busy day and will definitely text me with an answer later. She didn't...

Few days later, I texted her just to confirm the time I want to take her out for bowling. She replied that she has a lot of work to do before her trip abroad and she will let me know. (At that point I thought that she might not be interested in meeting me at all which also didn't make much sense since we had a really good time in the club.) I simply told her that there is no point in meeting her since she has so much work and wished her a safe trip. She replied that she is sorry and that we can go some other time.

My question is: Should I bother with her and continue and try to arrange a date when she comes back or simply let it go? Has she lost interest? Please point out the mistakes I make so I could learn on them and possibly do it the right way in the future.
Author:  Dragula [ Tue Oct 20, 2015 11:29 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Not sure what to think about it..
She flaked. It happens. I would not go to the party personally and would rather meet her one on one or not at all.

Read my sig link though. This is just one incident in your life and my thread will make you aware that being good with women is a better problem solver than a gamey technique.
Author:  R.C [ Tue Oct 20, 2015 11:36 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Not sure what to think about it..
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yet she had to take care of her totally wasted friend and we simply went back to our homes.
I don't get this. You said "yeah sure" and yet did nothing in that regard. Just take them both in a cab, drop the wasted friend at her house and voila. You're alone with your girl.
Your mistake was being passive when it was time to be pro-active. I get that she did most of the work, since she even initiated the first make-out. That makes your job hella lot easier, but you still have a job. So when it's time to lead, lead.

How long is she staying abroad? Talk to her every 3-4 days. Sparingly. A few light-fun back and forths. When she gets back, get her on a nighttime date. Can be drinks, since she's already physically comfortable with your touch. Then get her over for netflix and chill.

Don't just wait for things to happen this time around.
Author:  badum [ Tue Oct 20, 2015 3:34 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Not sure what to think about it..
I would have done that but her friend came to visit her at the uni from a different city and was staying in her room so she had to take her there and stay with her as she was dangerously drunk. I live 20km from where she does(commuting to uni every day) so it wasnt really an option to take her to my place.
She went abroad just for the weekend so next week there should be some time to take her out.
Author:  badum [ Wed Oct 28, 2015 3:12 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Not sure what to think about it..
Hey, she's back from holiday. Straight away she proposed a meeting. It was supposed to happen today. Yet again she cancelled it. It is now becoming really frustrating. I don't want to be a guy that will be ok with everything she does or doesn't do. I wrote to her:
"Hey, you are not obliged with anything. We haven't promised anything to eachother so stop creating excuses and tell me if you want to meet or not. Not a big deal". She started saying sorry and putting it on a large number of activities that she needs to be at. (Then why the hell is she proposing those meetings if she knows that she won't be available???) I said to her that we should meet on a weekend, (there will be an all-you-can-eat deal in one of the nicer restaurants on campus and there is a less chance that "something" comes up to distract her on a weekend). Now, my question is: What should i do to make sure that she won't behave like this anymore? I know that one of the options is just to find a next girl. Yet I would like to continue meeting her and getting closer. Any ideas guys?
Author:  R.C [ Thu Oct 29, 2015 10:16 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Not sure what to think about it..
There's nothing you can do to control her behavior, lol.

You're either willing to put up with her attitude for reasons unknown to me, or you find someone who is a bit more normal.
Author:  Mitah [ Thu Oct 29, 2015 7:19 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Not sure what to think about it..
You can't control what she does mate.
Some guys here will tell you to "plow through" others will tell you not to accept that behavior.

Personally think you got to think of where the line is and not let her cross it.

If you let her get away with this behavior why in God's name would she stop it?

If she's interested she wouldn't be fucking you about.
Author:  badum [ Sun Nov 01, 2015 12:00 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Not sure what to think about it..
I've met her today. We went for that eatout and then to her room on campus. We had few drinks and watched some YouTube videos. She sat on my knee, I touched her legs, hair, neck etc. It seemed that I could work that one out and finish that with a Fuck Close yet I've been cock-blocked. Her friend came by, totally grabbed her attention and basically fucked it all up. Then 3 of us went to clubs yet on the way she barely even noticed that I was there. Totally ignored me. That wasn't as bad as I already lost a lot of interest in her, she turns out to be a person that cannot have fun without having awful amounts alcohol. Plus, I hate ignorant people so... Next :)
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