PUA Forum
https://www.pick-up-artist-forum.com/

Had coffee then kinda ignored her - how to "fix" things
https://www.pick-up-artist-forum.com/viewtopic.php?f=53&t=186941		 Page 1 of 1
Author:  balance78 [ Tue Jan 06, 2015 1:03 pm ]
Post subject:  Had coffee then kinda ignored her - how to "fix" things
Hey guys,

I hope this is the right section of the forum to post this.

So here's the deal:

-met this girl at a banking networking event ABOUT 2 MONTHS AGO organized by our school - later found out she's a classmate of mine (we're 180 in the class so I still don't know everyone).
-we bumped into each other a few times during the evening, had a bit of a chat, every time we did it flowed nicely.
-made her laugh a few times, bumped into each other a few more times during the rest of the evening, exchanged facebook details at the end.
-got home that night, checked my phone, got a FB text message from her "wanna grab a coffee some time ;)"
-next text message from her is "Hey, I wanna get to know you about something other than job hunting hahaha"
-so we get coffee a few days later, went well, chatted for about 1 hour. Hugged her at the end, and we agreed we should do drinks next time...

As you can see, action came from her side. I wasn't and am still not particularly attracted to her (she's a 5-6/10) but she did most of the work. I just went with it. I literally had nothing to do.

After the coffee, for the next month or so I didn't contact her. A few weeks ago she invited me to a house warming party she was organizing with her SPAM. I accepted the Facebook invitation, told her by text I would see her at the party, but eventually didn't show up that night because I preferred going to another party. And I haven't contacted her since. Yeah I know, I haven't been very nice or classy...

Here's my question: she's a nice girl, seems really desperate (she told me during the coffee meeting that I was one of the only guy she knows from outside her usual "friends circle", even though we only had coffee), and I wouldn't mind getting some easy poon if you know what I'm saying. How can I "fix things?

We've all been on Christmas holiday since mid-December and the semester is starting again in about a week. What can I text her to meet up again? Should I apologize for not coming, saying how busy I was (I was very busy, job hunting, class work,...), although her party was a Saturday so I could have made it I guess.... I dunno.

She's very sweet and seems desperate so I don't think she's very pissed, probably disappointed, but not pissed. How can make it so that I get some?

cheers lads
Author:  CharlesFinley [ Tue Jan 06, 2015 1:22 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Had coffee then kinda ignored her - how to "fix" things
"Those were some busy-ass holidays! Happy new year!"

Then transition to:

"So why don't we grab a drink and fill each other in on what Santa brought us"

She's clearly into you. I doubt you even need lines to get this girl out on a date... But those should work.

I also moved your topic to a more relevant location, since you've already been out with her...
Author:  balance78 [ Tue Jan 06, 2015 4:09 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Had coffee then kinda ignored her - how to "fix" things
Quote:
"Those were some busy-ass holidays! Happy new year!"

Then transition to:

"So why don't we grab a drink and fill each other in on what Santa brought us"

She's clearly into you. I doubt you even need lines to get this girl out on a date... But those should work.

I also moved your topic to a more relevant location, since you've already been out with her...
Thanks for moving it to the correct location!

That's a really good message. But one thing, should I not even acknowledge or mention the fact that I didn't really contact her or that I didn't show up at her party (and I didn't warn her I wasn't coming..) ?
Author:  CharlesFinley [ Tue Jan 06, 2015 4:25 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Had coffee then kinda ignored her - how to "fix" things
Quote:
That's a really good message. But one thing, should I not even acknowledge or mention the fact that I didn't really contact her or that I didn't show up at her party (and I didn't warn her I wasn't coming..) ?
Why would you?

If she doesn't mention it, then you shouldn't either.
Author:  balance78 [ Thu Jan 08, 2015 12:25 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Had coffee then kinda ignored her - how to "fix" things
Quote:
Quote:
That's a really good message. But one thing, should I not even acknowledge or mention the fact that I didn't really contact her or that I didn't show up at her party (and I didn't warn her I wasn't coming..) ?
Why would you?

If she doesn't mention it, then you shouldn't either.
Ok sounds good, I just thought that because what I did was a bit rude (at least that's what I think), I should say something but yeah, if she doesn't mention it, I won't.

Thanks for the advice :)
Page 1 of 1 All times are UTC
Powered by phpBB® Forum Software © phpBB Group
http://www.phpbb.com/