Short background: I met a girl at a café among common acquaintances and we talked for a long time. It was obvious we were both really into each other and we expressed that and exchanged phone numbers before leaving.
We met a week later. I was going to take her out for a drink, but she invited me to have a small dinner where her friend works first. It's next to a green area and after we ate, we went walking around. Then I took her to a place where we smoked shisha, and then I took her for a cocktail. She took me for a beer at another place afterwards, and then I took her home.
Here's what I learned:
- Palm reading
This stuff works! I mean, I have no idea if it's true or not and I just made a bunch of stuff up. I tried to make it funny and detailed and she ate it up. I don't know how much of it she believed (maybe 0%) but it was fantastic at building comfort and attraction. I should say that this girl is very skeptical about pretty much everything but this went over really well regardless. - Smoking shisha
First time I tried this on a date. It's a great way to relax and converse, but somehow I didn't find it so easy to use kino even though we were sitting on a couch next to each other. Of course it would have been easier if she would have sat closer to me. In this situation you can ask her to play a game with you, one that involves touching. I suggested we write with our fingers on each other's backs and guess what the other person wrote. She said she played it as a kid. Speaking of childhood... - Making her remember her childhood
I steered the conversation towards our childhoods and found out a bit about her as a child. She actually told me I made her think about her childhood and that she enjoyed that
Try it and it will go over even better if you can find things you both had in common as children. - Do you want to kiss me?
Here's something that didn't go over so well, or maybe it did? After the shisha, we were having a cocktail and by now I felt things had escalated enough and I had built up enough tension that I wanted to kiss her. I think this was the third time I've used this line with a girl. The point is to kiss her if she says yes, tell her "let's find out" and kiss her if she says maybe, and tell her "I didn't say you could" if she says no. The other two girls I've tried it on just said "yes" and we just kissed. But this one she actually said "yes but I didn't like that you asked." I can see her point; this could even be considered a bit AFC'ish. I wonder if the other girls just didn't want to say it. I will use a different approach next time. Anyway, I took it in a good-humored way and told her that I wouldn't kiss her then, but she practically forced me to kiss her... oh well
- Sitting on a couch next to each other
Yeah I always say this, but it's literally the best date advice I can think of. Kino and everything that follows will come SO much easier if you are not sitting across the table from each other. This is the golden rule, don't forget it! - Let her talk
You've probably heard this a million times. This was the first time I actually made an effort and had to hold myself back from speaking too much. I listened to her talk, asked questions, made comments and listened to her talk some more. Easy comfort building and you get to maintain some of your mystery, which girls obviously love.
