OkCupid Gal
The last time I tried online dating was prior to pick up, I literally had ZERO results, I was on POF and I tried a few other websites. Since I started gaming just over a year ago I focused on doing approaching in person and didn’t really think online dating was worth my while. I got a little curious when I saw a few guys I respect on the forums have some success doing it. I chatted with Fable about it and he showed me his profile on POF & OkCupid and made me realize that I can still go out and approach during the day & night and when I’m at home send out a few messages to girls, it takes very little maintenance, he showed me what’s been working for him and the simplicity of it. When I made a profile before, I was trying too hard I was either too “nice” or “challenging” it didn’t come across as natural. Anyways I was really surprised at how simple the profile he had up was and how he was not trying to sound confident or too friendly it just seemed honest and interesting, short and simple. I can see how girls would find that refreshing even the messages he sent out were extremely simple. Anyhow, that was at the beginning of the summer and just as I was getting into the swing of things, I lost my password! I didn’t give OKC my real email address and I couldn’t be bothered to make a new profile…
So randomly, a couple of weeks ago I remembered my password and decided to check out my profile on OKC (I’ve found that POF isn’t as successful for me). Funny enough I found a 2 -3 messages, a couple of girls had sent me their phone numbers and one was responding to my initial opener. To make a long story short I messaged HbStockings, back and forth a bit, I got her number built up some more comfort via text and she suggested we met up for some drinks and told me she was free that Thursday, one thing I did that I think worked well was to let her know that I was free on a couple of other days but I wasn’t sure about Thursday yet. I feel it gave off a non-needy vibe and let her know that I had my own life, I texted her a few days later to confirm and eventually we decided to meet up the following Monday because she was sick.
Day 2 HbStockings
We meet up on Mon at a bar in my area at around 7pm had some food and drinks, our conversation was very natural, she was very excitable and bubbly so I didn’t really have to carry the conversation, I sat back and looked pretty
No but seriously, I just made sure by body language was good and had a flirtatious, fun conversation with her. One thing I made sure to do that Fable advised me on was to find out why she was on OKC in the first place, I’m paraphrasing but he mentioned that asking her puts her in a position where she has to qualify herself and it allows you to let her win you over with her answer. I just asked what brought her there and she explained that she knew someone who said all you find online are creeps and she wanted to find out for herself, plus she’s not really good with first encounters, so she finds it much easier to get to know someone online before meeting up with them. I suspect the latter point is more of the reason why she’s on OKC. Obviously, she's then going to ask you the same question Fable suggested that I say something like a friend of mine met a really great gal off of the website, so I figured I'd check it out. We talked about her experiences thus far, the stigma of online dating, college life, traveling etc. After a while I transitioned the conversation to a more sexual topic, like um sex...I basically asked her what her craziest sexual experiences were and she said didn't have any...as in she's a virgin...Then she asked about mine, I told her about having public sex, she seemed intrigued maybe slightly intimidated, I asked her in the most tactful manor what had prevented from having sex up until this point. She told me how like most girls, she went through a really insecure, bipolar phase in high school. (I got the feeling that her issues are/were deeper than she was letting on but hey I'm not a therapist) Now that she's 19 and in college much more confident in herself she feels ready and isn't looking for "Mr. Right" to take her virginity but rather someone she's comfortable with. After a couple of hours at the bar I asked her, if she had a curfew (she lives with her parents) she got defensive (I like this line) and said of course not she can stay for as long as she feels like, so I suggested we go for a walk. I took her down to the Lakeshore, it was night, the water reflected the lights from the airport, there's a little artificial beach, it was scenic. We stood and took in the view for a bit, I was holding her waste, there was an awkward pause but not the bad kind, the kind right before you kiss someone...(I still get nervous right before I escalate but now it feels more like excitement pushing me over the edge) I turned to her, cupped my finger under her chin and said, "So how good of a kisser do you think you are?" she giggled shyly and said "Um...I don't know!" I pulled her in and we started making out. (She's a truly awful kisser way too much teeth but I was so turned on by her body I was able to look past that) I kiss her neck, and nibble on it, lick it, she dug her nails into my neck and exhaled heavily, I said "You like that huh?" She moaned "Uh huh..." I continued kissing and licking her neck, I squeezed her tits over her shirt then made my way down with both hands to grab her ass, she was wearing stockings which made me even more horny, I began to rub her pussy from the outside of her stockings her breathing got heavier, I fucking wanted to take her right then and there, I put her hand on my cock and she began to rub more and more aggressively. I started to put my hands down her stockings but I couldn't smoothly push my hands down the thick part of the stockings around her waist, (fuck I love how stockings feel and look on a woman 's body but that thick part around the waist is a bitch sometimes) After a few seconds of my hands trying to push my way in towards her pussy, she pushed them away, I tried again a min later and she pushed my hand away again. I then told her I'm not going to force her to do anything she doesn't want to, which seemed to put her at ease.
At this point I wanted to escalate further, I saw this concrete step behind us so I suggested we sit down, as soon as we did, I pushed her down, climbed on top of her and told her how fucking sexy she was and how much she turned me on, we started kissing again, I pulled my cock out of my jeans and put her hand on it, she seemed surprised to feel the actual skin of my hard cock in her hand but slowly got more into it, after a while I tried to pull down her stockings one more time and she me stopped again. I gave up on that instead I asked if she'd ever sucked a dick before, she said she hadn't, I said go ahead give it a try, don't be scared but to be careful with her teeth
I sat up and guided her mouth towards my dick, I really doubt she'd never sucked a dick before, that blow job was amazing...I love it when girls unabashedly suck a cock, she wasn't scared to spit on, deep throat till she choked or jerk it aggressively. She sucked me off for about 20 mins, I came close but didn't cum, no pun intended (as much as I love blow jobs, I never cum from them, I need penetration.) At some point a bunch of people started walking towards the Lakeshore where we were, it's funny she didn't even notice but I pulled her head up and we tidied up before we left.Lessons Learned
As I walked her to the subway and kissed her goodbye, we chatted about how exciting that experience was and she said she couldn't give me everything right away on the first date, she wanted to give me something to look forward to because I'm a player. I talked about my non-judgement of women's sexuality and how we should be treated equally. (Credit to Uncle Bad Touch) It was a nice ego boost but I could give a fuck less, I think I need to work on my qualification more, to let girls know why I think they're unique to me.
HbStockings is a virgin and fairly inexperienced, I think that you have to be patient with girls like this, a lot of things are going to be a first for her, i.e. it may or may not have been the first time she sucked a cock, it was definitely her first experience with exhibitionism. So she was understandably timid initially but also extremely excited turned on, I could have probably fucked her, if we had more time for her to get comfortable with the idea that she was about to lose her virginity to me so quickly.
I'm finding dates to be pretty routine, these days. Apart from a few uniquely quirky or exciting ones once in a while the girls tend to be fairly similar, similar conversations, similar insecurities, depending on the time of day and weather I have set places I always go to and tend to have a solid idea where to lead the date. I used to find myself qualifying to women, these days my self esteem has grown tremendously and I sit back allow these girls to qualify themselves to me. My mindset is I have nothing to prove, fine you're sexy and all but what makes you more interesting that the millions of other sexy girls in this city, what makes you more than just breeder? I'm really enjoying this gaming thing. lol
I don't want to get too ahead myself of course, I have so many things to work on, i.e. my insecurities left over from my AFC days, that's 19 years to be exact. I'm still learning, I will ALWAYS be learning, in student mode, staying humble. It's just difficult sometimes...
Red Ranger Out!