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Author:  glowstik [ Fri Oct 19, 2012 12:46 am ]
Post subject:  TEXTING help for newbs, "i already made plans :/"
Hey guys please can I just get some prompt feedback. She says, "this weekend? I already made plans. And after my response "maybe sometime next week :)

How do you play it when you have escalated texting enough that my HB9 has initiated the next day text, and suggested hanging out
Blah, yes I've been over the top, kinda my cocky style but it needs some trim work

Me I wanna hear about it! :) it'll prob make me jealous ha ha. I just got off too ;) from work, feels good.

Hb9 Ill tell you all about it if we ever hang out soon! :)

Me Of course!! I wanna see you soon too :) maybe let me know if fri or sat is good for you

Hb9 That'd be fun :) like as in this weekend? i miiight be able to tomorrow during the day but Idk about the rest, i already made plans :/

Me: 1 hr later 2, thumbs up fun lol, aww you didn't save a spot for a fun first date? I wanted to go out with you :)

Hb9 1 min later, Haha aww sorry :/ maybe sometime next week? :)

** hey guys, please help me! ! I am such a newb but I have been reading here, mostly re: texting
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Author:  DaveUrkel (BlackWhitePU) [ Fri Oct 19, 2012 2:01 am ]
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I don't get what you're confused about.

She wants to go out with you next week, so go out with her next week.
Author:  RonnPaul [ Fri Oct 19, 2012 8:07 pm ]
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You cant do much now. She wants to go out next weekend, so she will hardly change her mind now. You should set up time and place to meet. Stay cool 8)
Author:  mr tech786 [ Fri Oct 19, 2012 9:36 pm ]
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if i was you , i would not text her this weekend unless she initiates it with you, but u gotta be kinda distant / funny when/if she texts you. If she does not text you this weekend, then call her monday and setup something via phone call not text
Author:  glowstik [ Sat Oct 20, 2012 12:13 am ]
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hey hey guys, thanks so much for your replies! any help is awesome

well this hb9 is pretty damn chatty via text. Staying cool was the right tging and good advice. She texted me today and I got some (+) IOIs of her sending me a new pic she just took

I'm in unventured territory and don't want to get in any deeper in the small talk / get to know you texting. If I change though that'll kill our spark I'd think. Anyways, you're right I gotta see if phone calls are cool or not

Is it ok to say
"would it freak you out if I called you sometime? ? Or do you like just texting :p

I like this because it's a good bait for your HB to think in the future if you'll call, show's interest,
and may bridge this weekend where we are not hanging out into next week where we both wonder if we will

Anyways, my biggest thing with texting is I can be over-eager, and I use IOI's a lot to show my interest and hopefully get a reciprocating IOI from my HB I'm texting

? Should I let her be the last to text this time, that'll changeup our pattern
? I don't really wanna send that text ^ asking if phone calls are cool now that I think about it.
Author:  NorthBoy [ Sat Oct 20, 2012 5:21 am ]
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Of course you don't send that text! You know cute girls (I assume it is the case lol) always have plans! What I usually do is one of these :

- You text something like "Hey I'll be at XXX place tonight why don't you join?". This way you can't really be rejected, it's just I'll be at this place so come or not it doesn't change much cuz I'm doing something.

or

- "Hola! What are your plans for this weekend?". This way you know when's she's available so you can set up a meeting.
Author:  glowstik [ Sun Oct 21, 2012 12:57 am ]
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Of course you don't send that text! You know cute girls (I assume it is the case lol) always have plans! What I usually do is one of these :

- You text something like "Hey I'll be at XXX place tonight why don't you join?". This way you can't really be rejected, it's just I'll be at this place so come or not it doesn't change much cuz I'm doing something.

or

- "Hola! What are your plans for this weekend?". This way you know when's she's available so you can set up a meeting.
well does the rejection free invite work when you're mostly flying solo?

I hate "what are you're plans this weekend because it looks so needy / desperate and makes things pretty serious all the sudden.

This is hard though, I haven't texted her since yesterday. I did what she does and didn't reply back..
Author:  NorthBoy [ Sun Oct 21, 2012 2:34 am ]
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Of course you don't send that text! You know cute girls (I assume it is the case lol) always have plans! What I usually do is one of these :

- You text something like "Hey I'll be at XXX place tonight why don't you join?". This way you can't really be rejected, it's just I'll be at this place so come or not it doesn't change much cuz I'm doing something.

or

- "Hola! What are your plans for this weekend?". This way you know when's she's available so you can set up a meeting.
well does the rejection free invite work when you're mostly flying solo?

I hate "what are you're plans this weekend because it looks so needy / desperate and makes things pretty serious all the sudden.

This is hard though, I haven't texted her since yesterday. I did what she does and didn't reply back..
No, it doesn't seem needy at all to me. It depends on the delivery. Don't just copy/paste what I wrote, make it fit to your situation. You just have to have the frame of "I live my life and I'm having fun" and the girl has the choice to be part of it.

For my first text, I would say that it works when you are solo but it depends a lot on the situation. I don't think you can say "I'll be at this club (solo) why don't you join?". That would be weird. Let's say you are studying at some place (I know it's not the best example but anyways), you can send this text.
Author:  glowstik [ Sun Oct 21, 2012 3:20 pm ]
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Of course you don't send that text! You know cute girls (I assume it is the case lol) always have plans! What I usually do is one of these :

- You text something like "Hey I'll be at XXX place tonight why don't you join?". This way you can't really be rejected, it's just I'll be at this place so come or not it doesn't change much cuz I'm doing something.

or

- "Hola! What are your plans for this weekend?". This way you know when's she's available so you can set up a meeting.
well does the rejection free invite work when you're mostly flying solo?

I hate "what are you're plans this weekend because it looks so needy / desperate and makes things pretty serious all the sudden.

This is hard though, I haven't texted her since yesterday. I did what she does and didn't reply back..
Author:  textanova [ Mon Oct 22, 2012 6:33 pm ]
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Don't send that text. It's like you're asking her to be your texting buddy. Texting buddies don't get action.

Listen, what you do now is simple enough. Wait until Wednesday and then craft an "emotional text". Something that will make her smile or laugh.

Then, if you're getting a good vibe from the text back, I want you to TELL her where you want to go with her on Saturday. Make sure you know the time and place.

Then I want you to send a "radar" text on Friday afternoon. Tell her about something interesting or funny that has happened recently. This will reminder her about the date without actually looking desperate or needy. End the conversation with. "see you tomorrow".

This has worked so well for my students. I'm sure it'll work in this case. She does have some interest in you after all.
Author:  glowstik [ Tue Oct 23, 2012 12:07 am ]
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Don't send that text. It's like you're asking her to be your texting buddy. Texting buddies don't get action.

Listen, what you do now is simple enough. Wait until Wednesday and then craft an "emotional text". Something that will make her smile or laugh.

Then, if you're getting a good vibe from the text back, I want you to TELL her where you want to go with her on Saturday. Make sure you know the time and place.

Then I want you to send a "radar" text on Friday afternoon. Tell her about something interesting or funny that has happened recently. This will reminder her about the date without actually looking desperate or needy. End the conversation with. "see you tomorrow".

This has worked so well for my students. I'm sure it'll work in this case. She does have some interest in you after all.
Hey hey thank you textanova, so I made plans with her to hangout for tomorrow. She let me know what days she was avail (tue, wed) this week and busy all day (fri, and sat) so whateves. We made prelim plans via text to " grab a coffee or smoothie, your choice. And then go hit up the mini golf or nickelcade"

She was nice and enthusiastic :) mirroring mine ... well I had a pretty blah kinda day today and needily dialed her for the FIRST time. She answered and said she was with a friend and asked if I wanted her to call me later.. anyways so that was a mistake. My emotions get out of check sometimes and I need to play it a lot more cool

? I'm anxious about tomorrow if my prelim plans are a good idea
? About getting her callback while I'm hanging out with another hb7.
? Help me guys I'm soooo new. I am more relationship looking btw
Author:  textanova [ Tue Oct 23, 2012 7:16 pm ]
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Right now is a good time to detach yourself from the what ifs or the outcome. If you guys end up going out tomorrow, GREAT. Be yourself. Find unique things about her that she'll appreciate you noticing. Be affected by them.

If she flakes, there's always tomorrow. As long as the girl is not ignoring you or telling you to buzz off, you'll always have a chance with her. Don't sweat the small stuff.

Good luck and tell us how it went.
Author:  glowstik [ Wed Oct 24, 2012 12:30 am ]
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FLAKED
"it's ok, flakes happen" haha it would have been bad if I texted this right?

Well she flaked. ?? What do I do from here? I texted her first today and we had a decent / first phone convo last night.

After me texting her first, she asked "well are we were still hanging out at 6 or did you want to earlier?"

we texted back and forth, I added value where I could, discussing where to eat

The conversation ended 40 minutes later I texted her confirming where we'd eat and asking if it was authentic enough ;) jokingly

10 mins later
HB9 You're gonna hate me so bad. :l something came up at work and i won't be able to hang out tonight, Im so sorry :/ i feel awful.

?do some guys or most guys really not respond when this happens?
? Pretty simple, question what do you do from here..?
Author:  glowstik [ Wed Oct 24, 2012 5:23 pm ]
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Bump^ it'd be cool tk see what a few more experienced guys think

I didn't respond back at all until I was getting ready for work this morning.

Hb 9, 3hrs before our agreed on time.

You're gonna hate me so bad. :l something came up at work and i won't be able to hang out tonight, Im so sorry :/ i feel awful.

Me: this morning
hate is a really strong word don't ya think? ;) it happens. There's always today and tomorrow to make it up to me :)

1 hr later
Yeah that's true :]
Author:  raymunds02 [ Thu Oct 25, 2012 6:09 am ]
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getting colder or meet other
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