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Author:  VsTheWorld [ Wed Aug 15, 2012 9:44 pm ]
Post subject:  I have to ask her out... TONIGHT!
Let me say, I love you guys. Your tips and advice helped me to have more friends, better relationships, and made several girls fall for me. So thank you, I couldn't have done it without all of you.

I've posted before about this girl awhile ago, I tried to get with back when I didn't know much about PUA. But after reading several posts and taking in advice from you guys, I managed to make this girl to like me after she CLEARLY rejected me.

We hung out on sunday where we had a meaningful talk about our lives (shes that type of girl, the "mature" kind). I was planning on kissing her right then, but she said somethings that made me nervous. A few times when we would flirt she'd play along with it but then end it like "Oh me 'friend' would do this" Later on she told me that she dates guys but later gets bored of them after 2 weeks, typically.

So I took all that as a "let's be friends" and didn't ask her out or kiss her. But I wasn't completely convinced. I dropped her off and she told me to text her when I got home. My curiosity got the best of me and told her I wasn't convinced on a topic we talked about. Her feelings for me.

She told me through texts that she likes me but wasn't sure. At this point, I was pissed at myself for not going through with it. So I gotta make my move tonight.

Her name is Janet. She invited me to go to the movies with her tonight to see The Campaign. So what I need from you guys, possibly for the last time, is advice and motivation.

Advice on making her this girl mine. Shit to say without saying anything really cheesy. I know you guys hate going to the movies with girls, but its either now or possibly never. She likes me, but as I said before... she's not sure. Which TO ME, sounds like I'm not entirely convinced.

Thank you. By the way, I'm Andres.
Author:  $hane [ Wed Aug 15, 2012 10:59 pm ]
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Alright man

The concerns i have for you are as follows:

1) Later on she told me that she dates guys but later gets bored of them after 2 weeks, typically.
2)She told me through texts that she likes me but wasn't sure
3)Which TO ME, sounds like I'm not entirely convinced.

So let me break it down.

1) She is not in to commitment, which could mean that even if you get her as your girl how long will you have her? Do you just want her to be yours for 2 weeks?
2) The whole "i like you, but i am not sure" thing is just BS. You say that there is the attraction there, right? If its there she is in to you. Thats good for you :)
3) That is a bad mind set to have. YOUR THE PRIZE. so by you saying i am not convinced that i have a chance is like saying i am not worth her time and attention. Which you are worth her time and attention. the real question should be is she worth YOUR time and attention?

Things you could do:

So like you said she gets bored easily(which is usually commitment issues) so to by pass her issues with commitment you could have her as a Fuck Buddy(FB). So this way she will not be worried about commitments and just have fun with you, while you fuck her brains out, and that will last longer than two weeks. And to get her as your FB is much more simple than keeping her as your girl. The attraction to you is there for her, monopolize on that. She even said that she "likes you" but she wasn't sure if she wants to date you and thats because like she said she gets bored easily. So make her your FB, This will put no commitment feeling towards her and you can still be light and playful with her and dont have to talk about emotions. She's not sure she could date you because she is not sure she could handle possibly hurting you(SHE LIKES YOU) With FB she cant hurt you and she will feel like she wont hurt you and she will be relaxed. You as well need to be more confident, you need to think that you are convinced she like you, because she does.

If you have any questions about what i just said let me know.

Hope this helps
Author:  VsTheWorld [ Wed Aug 15, 2012 11:38 pm ]
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Thanks $hane for your response.

1) Maybe she's not into a commitment, I'm fine with that. Commitment isn't an issue here. If we don't last, well shit on to the next one. But I wanna at least try.

2) Yeah, I figured that was BS. I've been told by a friend and my cousin (who's her best friend) that she likes me. That gave me confidence to try to pull the trigger, but when she mentioned the whole 2 weeks thing... I took it as a "lets be friends". I was wrong.

3) Oh no I didn't mean it like that, I meant like "No, I know this girl wants me. Why wouldn't she?" Is she worth my time? Yeah, she so is. Probably the cutest girl I've ever seen so far.

If I can have her as an FB, that would be GREAT. But we're not at that point of even being together in the first place. I'll worry about having her as an FB later.
Author:  $hane [ Wed Aug 15, 2012 11:50 pm ]
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Okay so your just wanting to see where it could go with her it looks like.

I dont think asking her out with out first kissing her would be a good idea. You can but like it seems almost high school. Like I think that tonight you kiss her and have fun and see where that goes. Then get another date and so on and so forth until you know that she is like hooked on you and not just the "yeah i like him, hes is cool" you want her to be like "he is so amazing and sweet and kind and cute and funny and blah blah blah" then you have her hooked.

And as far as being a FB, you dont have to be together. A FB is something that can be achieved early on in knowing someone.
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