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Author:  fatjohn [ Thu May 17, 2012 3:55 pm ]
Post subject:  Texting help and opening analysis needed with an 8.
Let's just start with saying that I am not a guy that often gets a number from a good looking girl. I am a good looking myself but my college's sex ratio is warped 80-20 so I only go out twice a month in a venue with a decent amount of girls, which often makes me a bit nervous. So I don't want to mess this up and appreciate the help.

So last friday I noticed that some girls are kinda looking at me and a bit later one of them is standing next to me. I saw that there was a card of a deck of cards laying on the filthy floor and i say to her "Hey, I think you dropped one of your cards" suggesting that she should pick it up. She laughs, I ignore her a bit and eventually after restarting the conversation she asks how old I am. I am 23 but she said I looked 19, which is kinda true sometimes. Anyway at this point the target gets involved with the whole what's my age thing and they don't believe me and ask for ID, which I reject playfully. After a while they are still going on on that topic so I show it anyway (probably shouldnt have done that but yeah)
At this point I start a little kino with the target and start talking about other stuff. Unfortunately a little bit later one of my friends (the guy who arranged a place to crash for me that night (i'm in another town than my college town)) who was really tired and was falling asleep at a table (he does that often) gets a bit into trouble since a bunch of douchbags are poking him and making fun of him.
So I interrupt the conversation abruptly and go to my buddy to stand between him and the douches and ask him if it wouldn't be time to leave. So I go back, ask her number and say that I'm going to leave at which point she says "But your drink isn't empty yet" But I say that I have to help my friend home. I'm not really that comfortable going further than phone close anyway.

So the day after I send my first text along the lines of:
"Hey, hope we didn't take too much of the party spirit with us when we left. At least you now have a VIP#. Store it with care. Old man -my name-.

5 hours later she replied:
"Haha, hey old man. :) It was indeed a good party. Today I had a family gathering so I was tired. Did you guys came home safe? :) x

A day later I text back:
"Yeah, a breath of fresh air and we were sober. Well not completely but we found it okay. Now having a great time with this nice weather. You too or is the weather bad in -her town-.

Again 5 hours passed:
"Yeah finally nice weather, also here in -her town-! Ideal to work at my thesis. x

Then I waited three days and just before I went to another party yesterday I sent the alien text I got from this forum from SirSlick:
"Hey I have inside information that Aliens are coming to abduct all the good looking sexy ass people! You'll probably be safe, I'm just texting to say goodbye ;)"

Now it's almost a day and she hasen't replied yet. I'm getting worried, what did I do wrong and how long should I still wait to send what? Perhaps she didn't reply immediatly and forgot about it later?

Thanks in advance
Author:  LBot [ Thu May 17, 2012 4:17 pm ]
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Yea she could have jsut forgotten to reply people do it alot, glad you thought of that.

See if she texts you out of her own accord, if not next time you are @ (Her town) or organising to go set up a meet.
Author:  fatjohn [ Thu May 17, 2012 4:59 pm ]
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See if she texts you out of her own accord, if not next time you are @ (Her town) or organising to go set up a meet.
Thx but unfortunately I won't be near her town for at least 2.5 weeks since I'm going on vacation so I think I need/want to keep the texting going.
Author:  LBot [ Thu May 17, 2012 5:10 pm ]
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Sweet tell her something cool on your vacation reminded you of her and you two should meet up when you are back, wait at least half a week into your vacation before saying that though.

And when she asks what, tell her you will let her know when you see her more time to think haha :)

Or you could go right ahead and give a specific but telling her when you meet in person will give her more incentive to see you again.
Author:  fatjohn [ Thu May 17, 2012 9:03 pm ]
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Sweet tell her something cool on your vacation reminded you of her and you two should meet up when you are back, wait at least half a week into your vacation before saying that though.

And when she asks what, tell her you will let her know when you see her more time to think haha :)

Or you could go right ahead and give a specific but telling her when you meet in person will give her more incentive to see you again.
Ok I like this but I'll start my vacation more than a week from now, I'm just not able to go to her town before that. If she doesn't message me back should I wait for almost two weeks to resume messaging how something reminded me of her? That's hard and risky. On the other hand, I don't want to come across needy by sending her two texts but perhaps I could send one like this:

"Hey, last one was a joke fyi. No need to feel butthurt, aliens don't even exist you silly goof."

Thoughts?
Author:  LBot [ Fri May 18, 2012 5:49 am ]
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Yea that could work, Although it might annoy her more hard to say ><

Although because of your inability to see her again time restraints etc, I would be more carefull about how much you text.

Ideally within the next 2-3 texts you are setting a time to meet again

Texting a fair bit I think is only effective on shy/insecure girls to build comfort/rapport.
Author:  Domino1815 [ Fri May 18, 2012 12:23 pm ]
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Why did you take 3 days to reply to her message: "Yeah finally nice weather, also here in -her town-! Ideal to work at my thesis. X” I really don’t understand the logic? Were you busy? Because you can see that she was busy with her Thesis that’s why she is taking longer to reply to your message, by not showing interest you might have lost the texting battle. Sorry to be harsh man but you could have asked her what it is about?
Author:  fatjohn [ Fri May 18, 2012 5:34 pm ]
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Domino,

The thought didn't pop into my head to ask what her thesis was about and I just didn't want to text too much since she also seemed to take her time answering my texts.

The problem is also that I know I can't organise a meet in the next couple of weeks but she doesn't. Perhaps she was also expecting a message asking to meet up instead of a joke.

Also, i might be overthinking this now but her friend was more into me than she was since i left unexpectedly and was just starting to shift attention toward the target.
Author:  Domino1815 [ Mon May 21, 2012 9:59 am ]
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Well true sometimes we hit a blank with what to do, or what to text but that’s where you need to trust your gut and do things the natural way.

One tip read through the forums to see if they cant help in your situation.

It sucks that you going away and cant organize a meet; the problem here is time and not sure what to do in your case.

True you might be but it depends which one you like more and want to pursue. Dude good luck and go enjoy your vacation and see what that brings you?
Author:  fatjohn [ Tue Jun 26, 2012 12:26 am ]
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Thx guys,

Eventually I restarted it by sending a message to "my buddy" but by "accident" to her. Asking to meet up for tennis and that he wouldn't believe what still happened last night after he left.
Worked like a charm.
Then first day of the holiday i texted that something reminded me of her and that we should meet up when I'm back.
We did that and it was ok, bit later I'd set up another date, which was alot better kinda started to like her and kiss closed in the end with the mystery routine of just asking if she wants to kiss me. Just started with a kiss on the lips and she switched to french kissing.
Now another meet is scheduled for this wednesday a week and a half after the k-close.
First off what should i do when i pick her up at the train station? Immediately go for another kiss on the lips? Kinda wanna do that, but if she flakes, it might make it awkward for the rest of the date. But I get the feeling she's also really into me too and one should always assume that is the case, right?

The big move moving forward is off course getting into bed. Well mainly I just want a relationship but since I'm way to old to still be a virgin i kinda want that of my chest and she's a real sweet and good looking girl, so ... duh. She's not the type of girl that has had lots of relationships either I think, so she might want to take it slow, I don't know.

Anyway, next wendsday is not an option and I think its to soon to make a move (we're meeting in the city where I am now staying with my parents for a few days so that is not convenient). But then I'm away again for 10 days and cant see her. When I return I plan to get together again in her university town. I would do this travelling through to my own uni town so with backpack and everything. I'm thinking of asking her if I could place my stuff at her place while we go for some drinks so that at the end of that date it would be necessary for me to pick up my stuff at her place.
Does that seem like a good plan? The first date was also in her town and I was also travelling through and used the option of leaving my stuff at the train station so now I have to figure out an excuse of not using the lockers at the station, so that might be a bit weak and she might see through it.

Any thoughts?
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