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Hey guys i picked up a girl last night in an area which is quite far from where i live and usually go out....
Im in an area near her tomorrow doing a kick-boxing class with a mate... so i've arranged to go for drinks afterwards with her.
My weakness with women is being sexual..... i can pick them up and be cocky funny on the night but i can't sustain it afterwords generally.
I make the mistake of putting myself in the friends zone alot with women....im goodlooking so they dont want to put me there but im terrible when it comes to being intimate and initiating a sexual vibe. My last relationship ended because of this.
So perhaps you could give me some pointers on topic of convo.... keno esculation.... basically how i can ensure that she views me as someone sexual rather than a friend.
Remember the basic idea of kino escalation is that she is comfortable with your touches early on so that going to things like kissing isn't a thing it's the next step. We've all been on those dates were we don't touch the girl at all during the date and then at the end go for a kiss and its awkward. This is what kino escalation hopes to avoid.Im in an area near her tomorrow doing a kick-boxing class with a mate... so i've arranged to go for drinks afterwards with her.
My weakness with women is being sexual..... i can pick them up and be cocky funny on the night but i can't sustain it afterwords generally.
I make the mistake of putting myself in the friends zone alot with women....im goodlooking so they dont want to put me there but im terrible when it comes to being intimate and initiating a sexual vibe. My last relationship ended because of this.
So perhaps you could give me some pointers on topic of convo.... keno esculation.... basically how i can ensure that she views me as someone sexual rather than a friend.
Touch early, and touch often in set. From the moment you meet a girl to your dates you need to be finding non-sleezy ways to touch her. I like being animated and having my hands in front of me gesturing when I talk. From there my hands don't have to travel as far to reach out and touch her when she says something funny or things like that. As oppose to being this big akward movement from your side to her body.
Remember also that its not big deal. Become a "touchy" person just takes some time and work. I like to touch to emphasize a point or to make sure I have their attention and other things.
Then of course you have the escalation ladder with touching. You go from touching her back, shoulders, arms to things like holding hands and hugging. Personally I like to greet women with a hug but that's me.
Anyways from there it goes to kissing and other things. Escalation becomes "the next step" and not some big awkward hairy thing... The most important things for this evening....
-LISTEN to what she has to say and RESPOND to things she tells you, don't let your mind wander...focus on her. Keep good eye contact with her.
-SMILE is a sure way to let her know you are enjoying yourself and you like her.
-RELAX being up tight and focused on the thoughts in your head are going to sink you...RELAX and BREATH!!!
-Touch when you can. Place your hand in the small of her back to guide her, lock arms or hold hands if walking, etc.
-Compliment her when you can and when its sincere.
-Be ready to tell some stories about yourself...the more she knows about you the more comfortable she will be with you physically as well as mentally.
-Have a place away from your main date to "bounce to", another bar, late night coffee shop, ice cream parlor, or something close by to your date location. It's just another place to continue the date to keep it from dying. Also getting her use to going more places with you creates trust and more memories. Also making it easier to bounce to your place eventually....
Best of luck on your date!
