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Author:  Bane82 [ Fri Apr 27, 2012 7:30 pm ]
Post subject:  How to salvage the situation if possible
I went on a date on wednesday with a girl who was easily a solid 9. The comfort and building rapport went very well, the conversation was very good and she did a lot of investing. The day after I did something a bit stupid, I texted her and asked if she wanted to meet up on saturday should have definitely waited a few days longer. I havent got a reply and to be honest doubt I will get one now. I assumed that because we were on a date I had the attraction side covered and could get by with just rapport, a foolish error on my part. She text me straight away after the date and told me how much of a great time she had, she was giving IOI's during the date and seemed like she was interested. Anyway I am willing to move on and look at it as a learning experience and find someone else but at the same time I dont have anything to lose by trying to resurrect the situation. Is there any advice anyone can give?
Author:  hawksterG [ Fri Apr 27, 2012 7:50 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: How to salvage the situation if possible
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I went on a date on wednesday with a girl who was easily a solid 9. The comfort and building rapport went very well, the conversation was very good and she did a lot of investing. The day after I did something a bit stupid, I texted her and asked if she wanted to meet up on saturday should have definitely waited a few days longer. I havent got a reply and to be honest doubt I will get one now. I assumed that because we were on a date I had the attraction side covered and could get by with just rapport, a foolish error on my part. She text me straight away after the date and told me how much of a great time she had, she was giving IOI's during the date and seemed like she was interested. Anyway I am willing to move on and look at it as a learning experience and find someone else but at the same time I dont have anything to lose by trying to resurrect the situation. Is there any advice anyone can give?
Breathe buddy. The week is still early. Don't get caught up with it. Live your life. The last thing to do is call/text again. That will reek if being desperation. If she genuinely had a good time, she'll reach out.

If not, move on.

Also: If she messages you like last minute on saturday, I would reschedule saying you already made plans. Don't take her crap.
Author:  Bane82 [ Fri Apr 27, 2012 7:57 pm ]
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I live in England, it is nearly 9pm over here, its been over 24 hours since I sent the text. BTW I am willing to move on, I clearly stated that in the my opening message. If I try and fail I wont really care, but at the same time I have nothing to lose by trying again in a few days if she doesnt get back to me. I am going out tonight to look for other girls and only see her as an option rather than a priority.

By the way good advice on the saying I have already made plans thing if she gets back to me, I had already thought of that though.
Author:  hawksterG [ Fri Apr 27, 2012 8:05 pm ]
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Then you're golden man, are you looking for advice or just to vent?
Author:  Bane82 [ Fri Apr 27, 2012 8:20 pm ]
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Im not venting, im not even angry I just dont see the point in giving up so easily. The way I look at it we will all fuck up from time to time but knowing how to get the situation back after making a mistake is a sign of good game and a skill in itself. I want to try and get this back for two reasons, 1) it will help improve my game and help for if the same thing happens in the future and 2) she is hot so why wouldnt I.

I think I fucked up because I sent a text saying I am going shopping saturday afternoon do you want to come along and grab a coffee. It was meant to be very casual as in im doing something anyway you can come if you want but may have been taken as lets do something people in relationships do i.e. go shopping together when it was meant to be casual but probably got taken the opposite of what was intended.
Author:  hawksterG [ Fri Apr 27, 2012 8:31 pm ]
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Dude, this is where you sound desperation. Obviously everyone wants to get it in with hot girls they've met. But the fact is she hasn't responded to you. You haven't moved on.

Go game other girls. When and if she does respond. Play and it cool and arrange another time.

If she doesn't respond, maybe in a couple of weeks or something. Hit her up again to see how shes doing.

Its that simple.
Author:  Bane82 [ Fri Apr 27, 2012 8:41 pm ]
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How have I not moved on. once again in caps I AM GOING OUT TONIGHT TO MEET OTHER GIRLS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am not holding a torch for her or anything I am just saying that learning how to get back after you fucked up is a very usefull skill. Have you never heard of PUA's such as Adam Lyons teaching the skill of "how to reopen a failed set" this is basically the same thing.[/u]
Author:  killermunkyz [ Sat Apr 28, 2012 10:53 am ]
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My advice, you're over thinking it. You already know what to do and have a plan to do it. And it is the right thing to do in my mind. You're good. Just don't mind fuck yourself back into neediness by thinking about it too much. It's just like dealing with an addiction you are quitting. The more you think about it the more you complicate things and the more you are tempted to do something afc like. Force your mind to think about something else. Get out as soon as you can and game those other girls like you said you're going to do. I think you're gonna be fine.
Author:  pumpington [ Sat Apr 28, 2012 11:35 am ]
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she is part of your team now,

go out, new girls

make your focus the new girls,

text her a good one time a week, 3x in a row she doesn't answer,

just fall back and stop texting her, change it up to once every 2weeks-month

don't cut your ties with her, just re-prioritize her to the bottom of the list, keep her as an options, but only as an option, if she is your priority you are in for hard times
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