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| Author: | Stylesp1 [ Wed Feb 29, 2012 4:59 pm ] |
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Hai guys sorry for not introducing myself but I need some advice badly. So I met this girl like 1.5 week ago when going out, she came to me and asked why I was not smiling so we talked abit and at the end I gave her my number and she called me right away so I got her number. So next day I didnt have her number cause my mobile was doing crazy things. and that evening I saw her again and we talked and kissed (french) after that we had some text convo's and I asked her what she was doing this weekend, she told me she was going to dublin with a friend. so that weekend I added her on facebook and I saw pictures of a guy with ''my boyfriend'' as title. So I kinda went mad and told her wtf she was thinking blabla, and she reacted awh cutie it is my ex from 6 months ago. so last monday I asked her if she would like to do something thuesday or wednesday and she said maybe but she needed to do some things first. so i said let me know. she said yeah will do for sure! and this morning I looked on her facebook and she asked a friend to go to the cinema for yesterday evening and another friend (boy) to eat sushi with her today. So I think I got the feeling she was messing around with me so I told her that im not going to play games and that either she wants to make me jealous or she doesnt want to do sth with me. than she said What I was talking about and that it was her best friend wich she didnt see for 3 weeks and that If I keep makeing problems she doesnt want to go futher too. So I first tried to explain it was normal of me thinking that cause of the picture blabla but that didnt do any good so I said "nvm I was acting to possesive (a)" and she reacted "yes! :p" So I think I did some damage, would really love some advice from pro's what to do next. Sorry for my bad english grammar and spelling, did my best. |
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| Author: | DaveUrkel (BlackWhitePU) [ Wed Feb 29, 2012 5:57 pm ] |
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Don't EVER do that shit again. Getting possessive, ESPECIALLY getting possessive too quickly is one of the FASTEST ways to turn a girl OFF. You just met her a little over a week ago, you still don't really know her that well, so why would you get possessive? Think about that for a second. The first thing a girl is going to think if you get possessive that quickly is that obviously you don't have too many other girls in your life and you're needy. Not attractive at all. Guys getting possessive is one of the big reasons girls hesitate to sleep with guys. They fear that once they sleep with the guy, he's going to get too possessive. And you haven't even slept with her yet! When I'm on a date with a girl, I'll actually go out of my way to show that I don't get possessive (by telling stories of female friends of mine who have had guys just like you who got possessive and how I don't get it and I think it's weird.) It helps to prevent LMR. I focus on preventing LMR, rather than dealing with it once t happens, but that's a whole other topic. Anyway, I'm not saying all this to make fun of you or make you feel bad. I just want you to REALLY understand why that was such a bad idea so you don't do it again. Whenever you meet a girl like that who has a bunch of pictures with other guys, that's perfectly fine. She's probably just a girl who sleeps around. There's nothing wrong with that. I sleep around, so I can't be mad at one of the girls I'm sleeping with if she sleeps around too. She's not you're girlfriend. And if you wanted to make her you're girlfriend, once you realized that she's sleeping around, that should turn YOU off from wanting her to be you're girlfriend. Really, you just need to be meeting more girls, so you don't get so jealous. As far as how to deal with this situation. Give her some space. Don't text her for a few days. Then, when you do text her, maybe you can mention something abt a female friend of yours, giving the illusion that you could possibly sleeping with them. If she's not really responding to you very well, then move on. You can try again a week or two later, and if she's STILL not responding, the DeFINITeLY move on. |
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| Author: | Stylesp1 [ Wed Feb 29, 2012 7:14 pm ] |
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Allright man thanks for the reply really helpfull made some big mistakes I see.. hopefully I can restore em |
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| Author: | SmoothOp [ Wed Feb 29, 2012 7:56 pm ] |
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You have some rooted insecurity issues and you need to learn to control your temper. I also get jealous of minor things but you need to make your mind control what actions you take right after. As the above poster said, you acted like a goof, you need to fix the underlining issues because your feelings are not normal for a person you have known for a week. Work on yourself or you will do this over and over with every girl. Is this a way you act often with women? Be honest please. |
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| Author: | Stylesp1 [ Wed Feb 29, 2012 10:28 pm ] |
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Never saw it that way but ur right.. and yeah im kinda extreme in my feelings and than I dont think straight and make these mistakes |
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| Author: | Stylesp1 [ Fri Mar 02, 2012 4:34 pm ] |
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So how to go on tomorrow? what should I text first? |
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