–]NickTDS 2 points 18 minutes ago
I like how you started things off, takes balls to be so forward. You were dropping the right amount of innuendo and she playfully brought up sex twice --"thought you were being naughty" and "take those messages 2 different ways."
At that point, you've got to push your intentions a little further and subtly show you're serious. If she's taking it to that level, you run with it. I felt you kept going back to jokey and somewhat goofy, not committing to your sexual advances. You want her to get hot thinking about coming over.
Examples of what you could say:
Her: "hah u know u can take those messages 2 different ways" You: "Hah, oh I know. The real question is, how are you taking them =P"
Her: "Im confused on weather ur innuedos are sugggesting that u like me or u want to get in my pants." You: "Can't it be both?  " or "A little bit of both "
Me Think I could fit in your pants? I like u thats why i try these innuendos. Long pause between texts. Me (panicking) The inhaler is suppose to be a cute romantic joke saying I would take care of u during and asthma attack. Her: Haha they seemed abit naughty was all..
That first response is again too silly when she was in a sexual mood. Then you break the frame and try explain yourself, which weakens the tension. Yet still she brings it sexual again.
I would've kept it hot until she showed any resistance (which I doubt). When you start talking about her shoe size and driving is where it falters. You got worried about her and backed off, turning off the heat.
Me: Ha i can be naughty and sweet at times I asked u an embarrassing question u didnt answer. Me: What size shoe do u wear? Me: its a nurse thing... Her: 9 Me: Right, hows the drive going? Better yet why r u texting! By the way im uncomfortable with the word naughty. anyways I am going for a run. Text me back, I worry if u r driving. Although, I think we med under the same circumstances
You switched off all the sexuality and went to mundane questions. She was excitedly texting back, don't return to "how's the drive" and "why are you texting". That reenforces that she shouldn't be texting.
Then you tell her you're uncomfortable with the word naughty. Even if it's supposed to be a joke from Green Lantern, I'd avoid that. Now you went from sexy flirtatious guy to bringing up being uncomfortable with sex.
Finally, when you got nervous you started sending multiple texts. You shot her three to four each time with no response. Again, the dynamic shifted from cool guy to clawing for any sort of response guy. If she isn't replying, give her some time. Repeated texts aren't going to help the situation.
This is a really good interaction to learn from. Keep holding your frame and don't stop when you get nervous. When is she coming over?
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[S] 1 point 3 minutes ago*
Thanks Nic, Im new to the game and I appreciate all the feedback you are able to give. I couldnt figure out how to press forward.
The green lantern joke, was more of a recovery text from my needy texts. I did not explain to her it was a green lantern reference. However in the movie, he uses this line to close a meeting with his GF as he had fallen on his words previously and needed a witty line to walk away from leaving her questioning and wanting more of him; case in point, the reversal actually succeeded in starting her rapid fire texts, as she was curious on why i would deny a word she used frequently and one that i had agreed upon.
In the end, I texted back in french 'good night, [her name]', after her explanation of why she stopped texting. The 'dont be so worried mister' came in as she was feeling the high of earlier and the bond she built with me, however her short fallings on humor and my advances were too blocked by her defenses, for my liking at least.
So i say goodnight, and now plan on texting her in the morning at 6 am saying 'rise and shine, its gym time'. That way, i re establish, that she is not completely in with me, I am still the prize and that the previous night was not just about us hooking up, but sharing a common interest in working out.
She is still left with her curiosity on why i do not like the word 'naughty' this is great, because the contradiction shows i am human and i have intimacy issues at well at time. Hence, another shared trait between the two of us which can be explored together later on. (Side note she is very insecure about her body, while she is still a model)
The shoe thing was weird but i felt to much resistance earlier , and wanted to use the chance for something I have been planning for awhile in getting her comfy shoes, The shoes are such a big hit with nurses, they are constantly working long hours on their feet, and the little comforts go a long way. And besides now when i gift them to her at a time when we have more intimacy, she will be wearing something of mine everyday. The shoes are as golden as a necklace to a nurse.
I ended the conversation on my terms by saying goodnight, and I didnt want to keep playing the text game as it is difficult to express and feel out the other person. Now I know, that she is down for some sexting later on in our relationship
As when is she is coming over? I dont know, shes a nurse who lives an hour away. Im more down there surfing anyways.
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