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| Author: | saranjames [ Sat Feb 18, 2012 7:59 pm ] |
| Post subject: | How Do I Follow Up on This One? |
Ok, so I recently started up with game again after coming out of a LTR. I've been out on 3-4 solo day game sarges in recent weeks, building up my (limited) skills again. Today, I got chatting to a shop assistant and spent an hour with her, running some pretty good game. I've never got to the stage where I can structure interactions particularly well, but I definitely got her interest and worked some good push-pull, and kino. However, despite a fair few IOIs (as I read them) I didn't #-close. This has always been a bit of a sticking point for me, and it's something I'm working. So here's the question, there's no way she'll be able to contact me (only has my [very common] first name and we are not connected in any way), but I've found her on facebook, do I: (a) Friend her tonight, while the interaction is still fresh, and before it slides into something else in her mind. (b) Friend her tomorrow, after all, I've got better things to do on a Saturday night than trawl facebook for some randomer. (c) Ignore facebook, visit the store again next Saturday, or the one after (she's a saturday girl) and try to close. (d) Forget the whole thing, move on, and use it as a learning experience. Note, friending is the only option on facebook due to her privacy settings. I've got other options in my life, but the girl was cute and it'd be fun to see where it goes. What do you guys reckon? |
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| Author: | Marshy [ Sun Feb 19, 2012 12:28 am ] |
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friend her on saturday and only contact her on sunday or monday,as you said you have better things to do than scroll through facebook on saturday night,so why not let her know this? inviting on saturday will show you took an interest but you're not the stalker type,you know your limits as well as the amount of interest you should place on her,therefore seeming interested but not desperate. Marshy |
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| Author: | saranjames [ Sun Feb 19, 2012 7:54 am ] |
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Thanks Marshy. I left it too late on Saturday (wanted to know what you guys thought first), so I'm going to friend her later this morning and then, like you say, just let her wait until tomorrow for a message, etc. Any tips on how to approach this on facebook? I don't do it very much, but normally just go with something very basic like "nice to meet you the other day" and throw in some sort of joke we shared. She's probably an HB8, although might be higher when I see her out of work, and I'm a bit worried that we'll lose all the rapport I built if I do this facebook bit wrong. I used a lot of cocky-funny stuff when we were face-to-face, but that stuff doesn't work so well online in my experience. I guess I can either try to arrange a day2 on the basis that I'd like to see her, or I can keep prodding around to find some commonality that gives me a way to casually arrange something. Tips, really welcome. |
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| Author: | saranjames [ Thu Feb 23, 2012 9:36 pm ] |
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Just a quick update for you guys. I added her and she accepted within a couple of hours. I sent her a short message to say hi. She hasn't replied. Tbh, I'm surprised. I thought we had something there. I'm not hugely bothered, but anyone got any tips, or tell me where I went wrong? |
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