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Author:  Lafleur [ Sat Jan 14, 2012 6:07 pm ]
Post subject:  Stuck on getting the 2nd date.
Hi guys,

2 weeks ago @ the silvester I approached this 2set with a 9hb girl and her cousin, they were sitting outside of the pub I was about to enter, I spoke to them for like 15 minutes and the convo was really great, Since I was planning to see them again inside the pub I told them that my friends are waiting for me inside and I have to go.

I really didn't know wheter I am going to see this girl again but I decided to take the risk, so as I said I entered the pub and there I saw my wingman who was already working a 2 set, I joined in and started helping him, About 5 minutes has passed and the 9hb girl from the first set came inside to tell me that she has to leave and she came in to say goodbye (It was awesome + it gave me massive SP with the current 2set), I told her its sweet of her and that she should write down her number and I'll call her this weekend, she wrote down the number infront of the new set and left.

The next day I called her and she didn't answer, 2 days after the same story she didn't answer again so I left her a msg "already playing the hard to get bla bla bla" ((c) david deangelo), a day passed and still she hasn't got back to me, I was about to give up and my friend convinced me to call her again since he saw she were really attracted to me, So I tried again and then she answered, we spoke on the phone for like 15 minutes it went great (she also told me she tought It was some one else who called her and that's why she didn't pick up the phone, you can never know why a chick don't answer so don't stop trying), Back to the story, I told her that she should join me for a coffe this friday and she agreed. (Btw I was treating her as a friend the whole convo and I did all the david d routines saying that if she creepy i am going to leave and etc..).

Friday 4 PM - girl calls me to make sure I am coming. (lolz).

Friday evening - I meet the girl @ the coffe place (which was 5 minutes of walking from her house), we were sitting inside talking (i wasn't able to use enough kino since we were sitting @ a table) but I did some stuff like palm reading and etc, after about one hour there we had to leave (since we both had other planes for the rest of the evening), I walked with her to her place, on the way I used alot of kino, when we got to her place we were sitting outside of her SPAM on a bench, I started smelling her hair, then her neck, then I started giving her small kisses on the neck all the way up untill I got to her lips and we started kissing, we kissed few times, then I asked her if it is ok that I use her bathroom so I can get inside her SPAM but she didn't let since her roomate was home, anyways we kissed few more times then I told her I had to go, She told me that she would like us to meet again and I agreed.

2 Days Later - (Sunday) - I texted her that I had a great time, She replied and said she enjoyed 2.

(Monday evening) - I texted her saying she should join me for a poll game this friday. (she never texted back).

(Thursday Evening) - I called her and she didn't answer, at this point I tought it's over.

Friday (yesterday) 6pm - Girl texted me:

Girl: "Hey how is going?"
Me: "Hey I am in a middle of somthing ill hit you up in about an hour"

Hour and half later I call her and she didn't pick up the phone.

8pm - Girl text me again: Hey sorry I wasn't able to talk, how is it going.
me: Hey, I am great, what about you? btw I was @ your town yesterday.
her: what were you doing there
me: I went to this pub "x", have you ever been there?
her: No, but I heard it near "y" , How was it?
me: It was fun :) , it's a great place, what about you have you done somthing intresting this weekend?
her: Not really I had to study
me: Great so it's time for you to take a break I'll pick u you in 2 hours but we can't stay toghter to long since I have got another planes for the rest of the evening.
her: I can't today.. I have already got planes..
me: Ok, have a great time :)
her: You too :)

so this is it, i havn't texted her since then and so did she, I am not sure what am I seppoused to do now, call her? wait for her to call me?, I am really struggling getting this 2nd date and I can't understand why because the first one was perfect,
but atleast I know it's not over since she started texting me yesterday.

I hope you guys could help me out.
thank in advance :)
Author:  Entourages [ Sat Jan 14, 2012 6:47 pm ]
Post subject: 
first off good stuff, great job kissing after first date always do that. So great job!

Well I think you should give it a break, go out and get some other girls. You dont want to be focusing on this one girl to much it will hurt your mojo, your mentality. If you have other girls on "hold" you wont worry so much about this one and you will be more relaxed. Thats first thing.

Second, wait a couple of days and call her, leave a message if needed. But the point is dont make it a date. You are putting the pressure of a date on her right now. Have plans ready, say you are going to this place this weekend with your friends and she should come with her friends as well. That way your group will meet with her group, she will be comfortable b/c her friends are there and your wings can help you distract them and you get to isolate. Who said going to a bar/club isnt considered a date. Sure it isn't a romantic stroll but it will be you and her all night.

Edit: If you do what I said earlier and pick up other girls, you can even invite them, create a jealousy plot line and make it all the better for you. Try it and tell me how it goes.
Author:  samex [ Sat Jan 14, 2012 7:33 pm ]
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first off good stuff, great job kissing after first date always do that. So great job!

Well I think you should give it a break, go out and get some other girls. You dont want to be focusing on this one girl to much it will hurt your mojo, your mentality. If you have other girls on "hold" you wont worry so much about this one and you will be more relaxed. Thats first thing.

Second, wait a couple of days and call her, leave a message if needed. But the point is dont make it a date. You are putting the pressure of a date on her right now. Have plans ready, say you are going to this place this weekend with your friends and she should come with her friends as well. That way your group will meet with her group, she will be comfortable b/c her friends are there and your wings can help you distract them and you get to isolate. Who said going to a bar/club isnt considered a date. Sure it isn't a romantic stroll but it will be you and her all night.

Edit: If you do what I said earlier and pick up other girls, you can even invite them, create a jealousy plot line and make it all the better for you. Try it and tell me how it goes.
Everything he said is solid. Use it.

More importantly, this girls knows your interested. Every interaction involves you trying to get her out. Give her some space. Not in a rude way like you don't wan't to talk, but in a way that you UNDERSTAND her. Simple, " i know your busy with school and stuff, it's a good thing you have your priorities straight like that, that's awesome."
Author:  Lafleur [ Sat Jan 14, 2012 11:22 pm ]
Post subject: 
Thanks for the tips guys,

Rapahel.Rapoport - I am always letting her know that I have planes when I ask her out altough I rather be with her alone and not with her group and my group (+ we already been alone so I don't see a reason to start dating with the groups now).
Altough you are right that maybe i am putting 2 much pressure on the date and this tip might solve this out so I'll hit her up in few days and see where the convo goes if I would feel that she isn't comfortable then I all ask her to bring her group.

Samex - You really opened my eyes when you said that every conversation I am asking her out, I think that I will have one or two conversations with her just for fun to let the pressure out a little bit.


I'll let you guys know how it went, thanks :)
Author:  Entourages [ Sun Jan 15, 2012 2:31 am ]
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Quote:
Thanks for the tips guys,

Rapahel.Rapoport - I am always letting her know that I have planes when I ask her out altough I rather be with her alone and not with her group and my group (+ we already been alone so I don't see a reason to start dating with the groups now).
Altough you are right that maybe i am putting 2 much pressure on the date and this tip might solve this out so I'll hit her up in few days and see where the convo goes if I would feel that she isn't comfortable then I all ask her to bring her group.

Samex - You really opened my eyes when you said that every conversation I am asking her out, I think that I will have one or two conversations with her just for fun to let the pressure out a little bit.


I'll let you guys know how it went, thanks :)
Great to hear, and the reason I said invite the group on a "date" is for the exact reason samex was telling you every convo is like a date. By telling her to bring her friends and making it a group date it nullifies the concept of the typical date; "I am putting 2 much pressure," this wont happen since she is with friends.

I know that paragraph was horribly written, probably lots of grammar mistakes, but that is the joy of this site, who cares :P I think by doing this group date you will be in a way better scenario. As for the convo you have. Make it fun and flirty but dont drag it out, end it on a high note. You can start off (and I read it on here) Congratulations! Shell say what, you respond Congratulations, something just happened and I was thinking about you.

now That something should be this... lets say on your date you found out something she really is passionate about an object.

you would say, I saw something and it made me think about you?

Her: What did you see?

You: make some cute remark that she said relating to the passionate thing

Then talk a bit and say you have to go.
Author:  Lafleur [ Sun Jan 15, 2012 12:21 pm ]
Post subject: 
Lol man I feel you about the grammer mistakes, english is not my main language :P

I really liked this text game routine I am defently going to try this out so thank you very much!

I think I'll text her in tuesday just for a short convo, then I might text her again in thursday / friday and see where it goes.

I'll let you guys know how was it
Author:  Lafleur [ Wed Jan 18, 2012 10:06 pm ]
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So, I texted her that texting routine u suggested, I'll try and translate it went somthing like that: (sorry for grammer mistakes).

me: Somthing which happend today really reminded me of you.
her: what?
me: Well It's a long story but to summ up I did somthing with out thinking on the consequences, (she told me she always does this), but don't worry I didn't dye my hair to blonde (she told me she did it on the summer and regret it afterwards).
her: hahahaha
me: I guess you are studying aren't you?
her: I am actually eating
me: Well, Enjoy your food I actually have to go so good night & ciao.
her: thanks sweetie, gnn.

as you see short convo, I didn't ask her out as you guys told me.

Do you guys suggest that I'll wait till she texts me now or just text her on friday and ask her to join me and my friends?

thanks in advance :).
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