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go out to a spot full of women you don't know, approach random girls you don't know, say what you want to say, and close, once you get used to this, do the exact same thing that has gotten you the most success on girls in your social circles, don't do anything different, and you will understand, it is nothing special just a yes or a no, don't hold yourself back, not trying = automatic no

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I'm actually not even afraid of a no. my problem is more that i cant think of the proper way to go about closing as if its just not my natural reaction. like today when i saw her walking i just didnt even think about just going over there and balls to the wall k-closing

What I mean by that is think of "getting her number" as midgame rather than "closing the dealing." If you really think about it, the former makes way more sense than the latter. It's because getting the number is just part of the process, the same process that you are solid at when you open the chick up. I'm sure if your able to reframe your mindset to this, you will be alot more successful.

Side note- you mentioned that you should "just walked over to her car, gone for the kiss." If that is your style, than yes you should have. However, if it is not, than don't display actions of aggression as a result of ignorance.

Hope this helps,

Best of luck.

Author:	comedyjake [ Thu Jan 12, 2012 12:21 am ]
Post subject:	Need advice from experienced puas
Generally I'm looking for advice on being an aggressive closer but heres the story. So it's the first couple days of college classes and I'm in Humanities class. We pair into groups and me and this girl are quickly connecting. I'm getting iois all over the board and just having a good time. After class we're walking to our cars and I'm checking her out thinking "damn id like to tap that" HA and then i get in my car and drive away. and now im thinking damn, i really could have made something out of that. Things like this happen all the time. I'm getting crazy iois and doing well in opening and mid game and then just can't close. I've seen/heard of guys who, when they get iois like this, just go in for it and close like a boss but i cant seem to ingrain this into my style. So really any advice on how to be a more aggressive closer, but also what I should have done in this situation? In my head I'm thinking i could have just walked over to her car, gone for the kiss, and escalated from there but what do you guys think? this aggressive closing style is something im really interested but need advice from people who actually are aggressive in this way on how i should go about it.

Author:	johnny berba [ Thu Jan 12, 2012 2:12 am ]
Post subject:	response to closing
watch this video since your new mate might help you out good example of number closing here and my style has been said to be slightly aggressive at times but works for me as you have to find what works for you.

Author:	pumpington [ Thu Jan 12, 2012 2:22 am ]
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go out to a spot full of women you don't know, approach random girls you don't know, say what you want to say, and close, once you get used to this, do the exact same thing that has gotten you the most success on girls in your social circles, don't do anything different, and you will understand, it is nothing special just a yes or a no, don't hold yourself back, not trying = automatic no

Author:	comedyjake [ Thu Jan 12, 2012 2:32 am ]
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Quote: go out to a spot full of women you don't know, approach random girls you don't know, say what you want to say, and close, once you get used to this, do the exact same thing that has gotten you the most success on girls in your social circles, don't do anything different, and you will understand, it is nothing special just a yes or a no, don't hold yourself back, not trying = automatic no I'm actually not even afraid of a no. my problem is more that i cant think of the proper way to go about closing as if its just not my natural reaction. like today when i saw her walking i just didnt even think about just going over there and balls to the wall k-closing

Author:	pumpington [ Thu Jan 12, 2012 3:47 am ]
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Quote: Quote: go out to a spot full of women you don't know, approach random girls you don't know, say what you want to say, and close, once you get used to this, do the exact same thing that has gotten you the most success on girls in your social circles, don't do anything different, and you will understand, it is nothing special just a yes or a no, don't hold yourself back, not trying = automatic no I'm actually not even afraid of a no. my problem is more that i cant think of the proper way to go about closing as if its just not my natural reaction. like today when i saw her walking i just didnt even think about just going over there and balls to the wall k-closing thats the thing, there is no natural or magical way to do it, the more calm and sure of yourself you are, the more it just comes off as natural and magical, just go for it, it ends with her allowing it or rejecting it, doing is better then not doing, it really wont make a difference, you can kiss close relatively fast with some girls, other girls take a while, some will never let it go down, depends on girl, there is not magical way to do it, you just have to go for it and if she turns the cheek don't get butthurt and just try again later like it is no big deal

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Author:	samex [ Thu Jan 12, 2012 5:40 am ]
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As for this specific girl, you can easily go up to her and get her number just by telling her that the two of you should be study buddy's for the semester/year and you need a way of keeping contact- if she was throwing you IOI's, she won't bring up facebook. Anyways though, you said you feel that when your opening and midgame your always solid, yet you cannot get the number or "close." Well if that's the case, than just reframe it. What I mean by that is think of "getting her number" as midgame rather than "closing the dealing." If you really think about it, the former makes way more sense than the latter. It's because getting the number is just part of the process, the same process that you are solid at when you open the chick up. I'm sure if your able to reframe your mindset to this, you will be alot more successful. Side note- you mentioned that you should "just walked over to her car, gone for the kiss." If that is your style, than yes you should have. However, if it is not, than don't display actions of aggression as a result of ignorance. Hope this helps, Best of luck.

Author:	comedyjake [ Sun Jan 15, 2012 3:50 am ]
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Quote: What I mean by that is think of "getting her number" as midgame rather than "closing the dealing." If you really think about it, the former makes way more sense than the latter. It's because getting the number is just part of the process, the same process that you are solid at when you open the chick up. I'm sure if your able to reframe your mindset to this, you will be alot more successful. Side note- you mentioned that you should "just walked over to her car, gone for the kiss." If that is your style, than yes you should have. However, if it is not, than don't display actions of aggression as a result of ignorance. Hope this helps, Best of luck. Thanks for the specific advice. I like that idea of thinking it of midgame, and with regards to the "style", ironically thats the main point of this post. I'm looking for tips on how to make this my style, as it seems to tie in well with my style of early and midgame. Basically, what I think I'm going to have to do is just force it till it becomes natural.

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