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| Author: | Airwaves [ Fri Dec 07, 2007 6:26 am ] |
| Post subject: | "Want to get to know you first" K-close rejection |
Sup everybody, I'm new here so your patience is appreciated. I was sarging an HB 9 who I had met once or twice in passing along time ago around my dormitory complex. Although I try not to use alcohol as a crutch when meeting girls, I was pretty drunk when I started talking to her (it was a good friend's birthday and I hadn't really planned to sarge that night). I feel that I handled myself well, using kino, the questions game, negs, making her qualify herself, DHV, finally getting close that went over pretty smoothly. I talked to one of my friends later on and he said that I wasn't slurring or acting like too much of a drunken idiot. We both went outta town to see family the following week and we were in the same city, so we tried to set up a time to hang out. With Thanksgiving going and such, she flaked on me. We kept up the phone game the following week with some flaking on her part because of college finals and other seemingly legit obligations. A couple nights ago, we had a half-hour phone convo and I DHV'd successfully (she's really into music and the music industry and was impressed with my history of playing in bands, excelling at guitar and music production, etc.) + I negged her and made her qualify herself incessantly. I snuck in an SOI or two to avoid the friends zone. Finally, tonight we met up on campus. It was raining hard and we walked to my apartment, my arm on her shoulder (she seemed cool with it). She was worried about getting back to campus and she had a 2-hour time constraint. I said I would walk her back if she didn't annoy me throughout the night. I kept up with the negs and CF and she responded well (joke punching, giggles, etc). She's a really playful and talkative sorta Cali girl, so we were able to keep up a lively conversation and I felt like I was building comfort with her, although I now worry that there may not have been enough IOI's. We played with my housemate's bunny, lit Chanukah candles as a sort of funny novelty for a gentile girl (she was into it), and I played killer guitar to DHV while building comfort. I got her close to me, showing her how to play a chord while keeping up some kino. After a little more convo, I went in for the K-close and I got the "I want to get to know you better" rejection. I then feigned an email-check freeze out that I am afraid came off as AFC. We hung out, talked, and I dicked around on the guitar for a while longer. Neither party directly addressed the kiss attempt afterwards. On the way out she lightly insisted that she could make it to campus by herself, saying she wanted to talk to a friend from LA anyway (she had an umbrella and it is a pretty short walk). Although she may have been expecting me to insist to walk her back to campus, I figured this would've been an AFC move, even though it was raining. After the rejected k-close, we had made loose plans to hang out tomorrow evening (Friday) or at some point during the rest of the weekend. We hugged and I kissed her on the cheek before she left. Overall, I feel like she is interested in me and comfortable with me. Hopefully, this isn't wishful thinking. How should I handle this crash and burn? Was I an unchivalrous douche for not walking her back? Sorry this is so long, just trying to provide a good context for the situation Godspeed |
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| Author: | minijag [ Sun Dec 30, 2007 9:09 pm ] |
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It's possible she thought that K-Close was more a F-Close since you are in your apt. It seems like everything went great, and when you went in for the kiss she rejected you for no reason. Possibly you should have gotten clarification and said something like 'Whoa I just want to kiss you, I'm not that easy.' Or something better than that, I'm not the best with thinking of lines on the spot. |
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| Author: | LoveMonkey [ Sun Dec 30, 2007 10:48 pm ] |
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ya I dont understand what went wrong... Im interested to see what others think, it seems as tho you did everything right.. |
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| Author: | joven25 [ Thu Jan 03, 2008 5:10 am ] |
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If a girl comes into my place and you both feel intimately, I jokingly ask the girl if she wants to kiss me. That way you are in control of the frame. Ans also, Its the girl who made the FTC in which you should made one. Make her statement backwards as FTC" OK! You can only hang out for 2 hours and then im going to kick you out" , Do this playfully. ANd lastly, if she agrees to meet with you for another date or get together, Dont ever, ever, mention the scene when she rejected you for the kiss. Im not an expert man, Just my 2 cents. -Dare |
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| Author: | Airwaves [ Sun Jan 13, 2008 12:04 am ] |
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Sorry for the late response. Thanks for the advice, I'm having trouble reading this girl. Got some more IOI s from her the other day after a chance meeting. We hadn't seen each other for a while because of the winter holiday from school. We hung out briefly at a party that I invited her to. Her friend dragged her home. I'm sposed to chill with her tonight. We'll see what happens |
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