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Author:  EchoSide [ Tue Nov 08, 2011 2:21 pm ]
Post subject:  Anyway to salvage my text game?
Met this HB8 at a bar, about 5 minutes in the friends told her they were leaving so I asked her for number without really learning a ton about her. I texted her the next day:

Me: hi, it's echoside from last night...I've decided to make you my new texting buddy, congrats! How are you feeling today, a little hungover?
(5 hours go by and she replies)
HB8 : Hhahaha hey
Me: So what kind of trouble are you causing tonight?
HB8: None studying for a test!
Me: Awesome as long as its not a drug test ;) What test are you studying for?

So the above was all yesterday...

I get the vibe this is already a lost cause, not sure if text, call or what...
Author:  JSmooth [ Tue Nov 08, 2011 4:28 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Anyway to salvage my text game?
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Met this HB8 at a bar, about 5 minutes in the friends told her they were leaving so I asked her for number without really learning a ton about her. I texted her the next day:

Me: hi, it's echoside from last night...I've decided to make you my new texting buddy, congrats! How are you feeling today, a little hungover?
(5 hours go by and she replies)
HB8 : Hhahaha hey
Me: So what kind of trouble are you causing tonight?
HB8: None studying for a test!
Me: Awesome as long as its not a drug test ;) What test are you studying for?

So the above was all yesterday...

I get the vibe this is already a lost cause, not sure if text, call or what...
I'll be straight with you #s like this rarely if ever work out. Even if she messages you a good bit it's hard to establish a date cause she doesn't really know a lot about you and that thought will kick in when you try to escalate. You kind of need to build more attraction and comfort via text or calls in order to make this succeed.
Author:  EchoSide [ Tue Nov 08, 2011 5:34 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Anyway to salvage my text game?
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You kind of need to build more attraction and comfort via text or calls in order to make this succeed.
That's exactly what I'm trying to do...Any advice of how to?
Author:  AznPersuasion [ Tue Nov 08, 2011 7:04 pm ]
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Let me give you the lowdown on what I think about texting: "FUCK IT."

Seriously. Texting is the worst invention of all time. Just kidding, but it's up there. You can't use voice inflection and the only (shitty) substitute is emoticons and CAPS LOCK. haha

Anyway, I only use texting to make plans. There's rarely an issue where you come off sounding like a jackass or uncomfortably long silences between messages when you're just asking her out to coffee.

Pick a public place that's safe (i.e. a coffee shop, mcdonald's, the library, a park, etc.) and meet her there. You know as well as I do that when you don't know someone very well it's a little awkward trying to have any sort of conversation with them face to face.

NOTE: Even better, give her a phone call and let her hear your voice. It makes things quicker and easier. Best of luck.
Author:  JSmooth [ Tue Nov 08, 2011 7:31 pm ]
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NOTE: Even better, give her a phone call and let her hear your voice. It makes things quicker and easier. Best of luck.
Very true!!! Good point to be made here.

[quote="EchoSide']That's exactly what I'm trying to do...Any advice of how to?[/quote]

You are going to have to rely on your own skill set for attraction and comfort building. It's the same as you'd do it in person just use the phone. :) I'm sorry but it's like studying for a final exam in 10 minutes. There isn't much I can tell you that if you haven't already gotten into your game that is going to help. Besides whole books have been devoted to those two topics.
Author:  detox75 [ Wed Nov 09, 2011 12:36 am ]
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Ive come to experience that what Azn is saying is correct. texting is a poor way to build attraction, unfortunately its not a good way to establish comfort either. Your trying to convey an emotional shift, different then her current state, based on words on a greyscale phone screen. If shes not into you for a variety of legitimate or lame reasons your texting has very little ability to change her state.

Best to build enough attraction first before you go for the number close. Sometimes the logistics are tough, but low attraction texting is usually a fail.

By the way the text I see here is pretty strong game, I don't think you could have done much better.
Author:  PUAzilla [ Wed Nov 09, 2011 2:02 pm ]
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Definately call her or arrange to chat to her.

It's more dangerous and intresting than safe texting.

It will make her pay more attention.
Author:  EchoSide [ Thu Nov 10, 2011 6:23 pm ]
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Alright, thanks for the tips guys, I want to learn from this.

Obviously everyone's going to have a different opinion but I want to get yours...

When logistics force you to # close early, what do you guys recommend, call the next day? If she doesn't answer, what do you do?
Author:  detox75 [ Thu Nov 10, 2011 6:38 pm ]
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Heres my experience, but i'm interested in hearing others as well.

Early number close comes up a lot due to logistics and that's a good question. I went from a text only followup in 2 days, to callback humor follow up after 2-3 days and ended up back to just texting.

Ive noticed little to no difference in result. Whatever attraction you have established when you first meet her, will dictate your success in getting the next meet up. The medium under which that meet up is facilitated seems to be a minor factor. My results would probably be different if girls normally answered the phone (so I could increase attraction and build comfort) but they don't answer normally as we all know. And if they do answer and talk they are already interested thus the texting would have served just as well because they were already hooked.

On the good side at least no one has to email anymore.
Author:  AznPersuasion [ Fri Nov 18, 2011 6:11 pm ]
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It's not a big deal when you number close without a lot of prior attraction. Yeah, it might be harder to get her to come out with you than if she were to throw herself at you through the phone. That's a given.

However, feel out the situation. Most women will at least be open to meeting up with you if she doesn't think you're a creep, but that means you've gotta be on your toes and ready to start over from the beginning attraction-wise. You've got to actually want to call her, too. It's about the mindset. If you don't really want to go out with the girl, forget you ever met her.

So basically, call her when you feel like it. Even if you weren't all that busy this week and wait until the next weekend, you can still say you were busy. I sometimes do that just because I'm not really down with the whole "calling her the next day" thing. There is no formula, though. It's on you and when YOU feel it's the right time to find her again.

That's my opinion, anyway.
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