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Author:  Grafter92 [ Sun Nov 06, 2011 4:55 pm ]
Post subject:  Is it needy to always begin the text game first ?
First, this is a girl i met a week ago.. she got my number from friend.. wants to meet up etc.. Now she has my number, we have been texting quite regularly..

So

From an earlier post, I talked about keeping a girl interested through the conversation.. but now i can keep her interested, (i know because she responds in seconds) that she has never started the conversation.. is this me trying not to be too needy or just general dis- interest.. I mean i have been working the Q S Q S game to keep conversation and interest going but it just seems that i get the ball rolling each time...

Any Ideas?
(p.s, we have arranged to meet up this week, not a definitive time or day... seeing if she will start asking about that to make sure she is fully interested... is that the right way to do it ?)
Author:  Benedict Tyler [ Sun Nov 06, 2011 5:33 pm ]
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Dude, this is a good sign if you ask me.

Women will always prefer the man to take the lead. Sounds to me like you need to take this to the next level and fast. The only time you need to worry about coming across needy is if she isn't responding.

Good luck
Author:  GetFamiliar [ Sun Nov 06, 2011 6:01 pm ]
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Dude, this is a good sign if you ask me.

Women will always prefer the man to take the lead. Sounds to me like you need to take this to the next level and fast. The only time you need to worry about coming across needy is if she isn't responding.

Good luck
I agree.
Author:  ladies_man969 [ Sun Nov 06, 2011 6:11 pm ]
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Text her bro. Just tell her something like "Meet me at ____ on _____ at _____" and see if she replies. Don't ask her if that's okay because it's much more alpha to just tell her. If she has something going on that day and time, she'll most likely tell you. And if she doesn't tell you but she has something going on, it's probably a good sign unless she flakes. (In which case, move on and fuck someone else.)

If she does have something going on, just don't let it bug you and chill with some buddies instead.

With my experience it usually goes something like this.
Me: "Hey, meet me at the mall around 3 tomorrow."
Her: "I have to ____."
Me: "Bummer."
Her: "I'm free _____ though!"

If you game her right, this is what'll probably happen.
Author:  Alphabet Soup Dragon [ Sun Nov 06, 2011 7:11 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Is it needy to always begin the text game first ?
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First, this is a girl i met a week ago.. she got my number from friend.. wants to meet up etc.. Now she has my number, we have been texting quite regularly..

So

From an earlier post, I talked about keeping a girl interested through the conversation.. but now i can keep her interested, (i know because she responds in seconds) that she has never started the conversation.. is this me trying not to be too needy or just general dis- interest.. I mean i have been working the Q S Q S game to keep conversation and interest going but it just seems that i get the ball rolling each time...

Any Ideas?
(p.s, we have arranged to meet up this week, not a definitive time or day... seeing if she will start asking about that to make sure she is fully interested... is that the right way to do it ?)
What's Q S Q S game?

I'm guessing something like question, tease, question, tease?
Author:  Grafter92 [ Sun Nov 06, 2011 8:28 pm ]
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cheers lads.. just tryin not to put emotion into my game as a starter because i am known to become attatched... yeah seems like she's interested but it feels like she's playin her own 'interest' game. But tbh, like ladies_man 969 posted, there's more out there..

alphabet soup dragon .. Q S Q S is Question, Statement, Question, Statement.. the questions are there to get to know the girl (or act like it) .. then statement is when the girl usually just replies with a statement so you do to so its not like your interrogating her, opening it up for her to think (i haven't asked anything about him yet..) just gotta be good with words to hold up a conversation with the statement part..
Author:  ladies_man969 [ Mon Nov 07, 2011 5:25 am ]
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cheers lads.. just tryin not to put emotion into my game as a starter because i am known to become attatched...
I had a similar problem like a year or so ago. Just get the rockstar mentality and game multiple chicks at once, unless you can, y'know, actually settle down with one girl.

Only gaming one chick leads to heavy oneitis, and to avoid that, game no less than 5 girls at one time. (Least that's what I do.)

Sure, I have a steady relationship going, but before it went from casual to a relationship, I had 6 other chicks I was gaming.

There's my advice for ya. :P
Author:  Grafter92 [ Mon Nov 07, 2011 4:47 pm ]
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tbh ladies man.. I got lucky with this girl. Because i went down to meet a friend at uni, then on the night out because i was already in the group i didn't have to do the dreaded open.. i was already part of her environment.. I did some neggin.. some ignorin and talkin to the guys then we kissed (only got that far..)

I want other girls to talk to in a similar sense, but i find raw opening unbelieavably hard.. one person is fine for me (however isolation straight away is a sin.. apparently) . I have one other gaming problem but i dont feel comfortable talking about it over open forum.. Cheers for the help! i will continue to learn (i hope) :D
Author:  ladies_man969 [ Tue Nov 08, 2011 12:17 am ]
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Alright bro. But I'd recommend working on your inner game.
Author:  rea0008 [ Wed Nov 09, 2011 5:44 am ]
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okay they like you to take lead, is it wrong to freezeout for a day or to to make them miss you or want you more
Author:  ladies_man969 [ Thu Nov 10, 2011 2:25 am ]
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No. That's just conveying non-neediness. Unless, y'know, you tell her what's going on. In which case, you have bigger issues to worry about with your game.
Author:  dukehoopz30 [ Thu Nov 10, 2011 5:38 am ]
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tbh ladies man.. I got lucky with this girl. Because i went down to meet a friend at uni, then on the night out because i was already in the group i didn't have to do the dreaded open.. i was already part of her environment.. I did some neggin.. some ignorin and talkin to the guys then we kissed (only got that far..)

I want other girls to talk to in a similar sense, but i find raw opening unbelieavably hard.. one person is fine for me (however isolation straight away is a sin.. apparently) . I have one other gaming problem but i dont feel comfortable talking about it over open forum.. Cheers for the help! i will continue to learn (i hope) :D

Grafter.

After opening hundreds of random sets... it becomes second nature (or at least for me). To cure your uneasiness with opening random sets u need to go out.... 2-3X a week... and honestly just open random people... and you will get rejected. A LOT. its part of the game and its part of life. before we get good at something we first start off being awful an failing... but soon u will be successful...and trust me you will succeed if u keep @ it. once u succeed u build confidence... and then opening is super easy.

when i open sets now i dont give a fck what they think/say or whats gonna happen to be honest. they r random people who i may never see again... if they dont like me ok cool.....NEXT. eventually u will land the girl/girls who do... and its all worth it bro. its an awesome feeling.

Also in my recent experience some nights you will be ON FIRE.... multi kiss/number closes ect....

Other nights you wont get 1 number close... just how it goes sometimes. dont get discouraged. go back out there and make it happen. if uwant it bad enough u can get it.

gl sir.
Author:  xxXTemptationXxx [ Fri Nov 11, 2011 1:10 am ]
Post subject:  I agree
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cheers lads.. just tryin not to put emotion into my game as a starter because i am known to become attatched...
I had a similar problem like a year or so ago. Just get the rockstar mentality and game multiple chicks at once, unless you can, y'know, actually settle down with one girl.

Only gaming one chick leads to heavy oneitis, and to avoid that, game no less than 5 girls at one time. (Least that's what I do.)

Sure, I have a steady relationship going, but before it went from casual to a relationship, I had 6 other chicks I was gaming.

There's my advice for ya. :P
I agree with gaming multiple HBs at the same time, not only it helps you to avoid OneItis, but it also helps you not to run out of material at any certain point. It is basically fake it till you make it!!! Because what happens here is you pun on the rockstar persona until it becomes internalized and all of a sudden you are now so alpha that every thing works its self for you. All the girls start giving you constant iois.
I had 7 girls I was gaming the night I met m girl friend. I was seeing them all before we became boyfriend- girlfriend. So what I suggest is to keep your game going evn after the start of the relationship. Because 1. In case u breakup you have backup
2. If you show afc behavior even your long-term relationship is gonna loose interest in you.
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