Hi guys,
I'd like to get a feedback on what happened with a girl that I've been dating. It's the second girl that I've been dating (thinking of a relationship) after starting to learn The Game. She's an HB9, teenager - so that explains a lot already but still, it'd be great to hear your thoughts on this:
We met at a festival at the very end of August. (I found out later that she really wanted to meet me - she was at a concert of my band earlier, and etc...). So we were hanging out together a bit at this festival but I didn't make a move there because I wasn't sure if I really want her. But we were flirting a lot and it was great fun.
Afterwards we were meeting - sometimes once, sometimes twice a week, but always with a group of friends. It was fun all the time, but whenever I wanted to set up a proper date - her sister and sister's bf would join us (I don't think it was because my target had told them to - it's just we always hang out together so why not...) , or my target once brought her best female friend along (when we arranged this meeting she told me that she'll bring along her hot friend, because she knows I'm looking for a gf - obviously she said that in a flirty way)
So at that meeting I did something I really regret. I was flirting with both of the girls (a bit more with the friend) so that my target never brings her along again (and indeed she wasn't too delighted with my behaviour). I know that that was an IOI, that she wanted to introduce her best friend to me, but at the same time I couldn't isolate her properly...
Now... apparently I overdid the flirting with the friend that day
, because the next day she (the friend) started talking to me on msn and etc... So from that point on I was always trying to direct the conversation onto the topic of my target.The next time I asked her out, she asked me if I want the friend to go with us, and I thought: ok I am the man and I'm gonna decide how this meeting is gonna look like. So I said no, and we met - just the two of us. The kino was going great and we were already hugging or holding hands, there was no good moment for a kiss though and I really didn't want to force it. Using routines is just not my style. I let everything happen naturally. But later we met her younger sister and my target wanted her to hang out with us from that moment on. But she was still teasing me so I just carried on with the escalation. But still - there was no good moment for a kiss.
I wanted to meet her again before leaving to university in other country for 2 months (that's where I am now) but I texted her too late and she really couldn't go because she promised her best friend that she'll go shopping with her to buy stuff for her birthday. She wanted me to come along with them, but the friend texted her that she doesn't want me to come along because she doesn't like me, and isn't willing to be listening to me (
!!!). Now I also proposed that I'd rearrange my other plans i.e. packing my stuff (which I know is a horrible mistake, but in that situation - I knew that either we're gonna meet before I leave or most likely I'm gonna lose) and she didn't respond to one of my texts eventually and I never wrote to her any more. I thought - ok it's her turn now to initiate a conversation. But she never did - it's been a month since then. (It was the end of September)So I realise that I was very slow, but on the other hand - she was showing me IOI's all the time - not as many as at the festival, but still.. and she was not letting me meet her 1 to 1 and I wasn't realising at that time that it's possible to KC a girl without isolating if it's done properly. I know I've done some other mistakes but I don't think any of them was serious enough to make her lose all the attraction!
It's true that the frame was that I was chasing her, but it was always very flirty and funny, and she knew (because I demonstrated that once or twice) that I will just walk away if she tries to wrap me around her finger, or if she ignores me.
And I really have a strong suspicion that it's all because of this friend girl - who apparently liked me a bit too much - She might have told my target some false stuff about me or whatever - I'm not sure about this but can you see any other way to explain what happened? Usually I know why I screw up but this time it's very mysterious to me.
I had to go, but next day we chatted like usually - flitry and etc.