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Author:  DontSnoopIfUGetMad [ Fri Oct 21, 2011 4:39 am ]
Post subject:  How should I handle HB 7 with a kid?
So I'm taking out this HB 7 tomorrow to go out for a few drinks. There is major attraction from both sides. I plan on doing heavy kino tomorrow, but don't plan on an F close. The thing that's in the back of my head is her kid. Has anyone here been with a single mom before? What kind of potential problems (drama) would I be in for if I do escalate and F close?

Any thoughts on this? I don't want to get her all attached or anything like that. Are HB's with kids any different than HB's without kids?
Author:  JSmooth [ Fri Oct 21, 2011 7:08 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: How should I handle HB 7 with a kid?
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So I'm taking out this HB 7 tomorrow to go out for a few drinks. There is major attraction from both sides. I plan on doing heavy kino tomorrow, but don't plan on an F close. The thing that's in the back of my head is her kid. Has anyone here been with a single mom before? What kind of potential problems (drama) would I be in for if I do escalate and F close?

Any thoughts on this? I don't want to get her all attached or anything like that. Are HB's with kids any different than HB's without kids?
Yes & No it depends on the type of mom she is. Having said that let's assume she's a good mother is crazy about her kid! She is going to need to know some things before she'll have sex with you if she's very protective of her child as most mothers are. She'll need to know where the relationship is heading... if you really want a relationship with her, if you just want to date and have sex, etc.

Just because you define your relationship as just for sex it doesn't mean you are instantly out, it depends on what her needs are at this point in time, but you could be. Setting those expectations is going to be crucial for her. If just for sex then she's probably going to shield her kid from seeing you a lot. If for a relationshp then she needs to start integrating their child into your relationship with her, because of the potential for things to get even more serious. How fast that happens depends on the age of the child in question and the mom.

The reason I say No is because there are some mothers out there that are still just out having fun and aren't as concerned about their child because of their childs age or just aren't as protective of their kids.

Before you go for the F Close with someone who has a child you really need to figure out what you are up for with this girl.
Author:  DontSnoopIfUGetMad [ Fri Oct 21, 2011 7:28 pm ]
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Great advise. She is really into her kid as he is 4 and she has told me he is always first. I'll feel it out tonight and see what her mindset is at. I'll post the results. Thx
Author:  Lodewijkp [ Fri Oct 21, 2011 7:28 pm ]
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you cannot treat her as trash ..

if you affect her life in a negative way her child will be affected in a negative way..

set clear boundaries on what you expect and what you want
Author:  Vitamin-J [ Fri Oct 21, 2011 7:41 pm ]
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you cannot treat her as trash ..

if you affect her life in a negative way her child will be affected in a negative way..

set clear boundaries on what you expect and what you want

Very very true and as someone who has been dating a girl with a 2 year old (who is chilling on my lap SPAM) for about a year now, I will also say it's much easier to damage a single mom, every person she brings around effects her and her child, if she makes a bad decision she will see the impact on her child and take it twice as hard and as a failure to her kid.

Be straight with her on your intentions, there are enough damaged girls out there.
Author:  JSmooth [ Fri Oct 21, 2011 8:56 pm ]
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I think you're seeing a reoccuring theme here.... Think you know what you need to do. Let us know how it goes.
Author:  DontSnoopIfUGetMad [ Sun Oct 23, 2011 5:53 pm ]
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Check out my Field Report. The night went really well

field-report-hb8-with-a-kid-vt118805.html
Author:  nashnewbie [ Mon Oct 24, 2011 4:43 am ]
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I recently f-closed a girl with a couple kids.

Ended up being a psycho who was insane in bed but thought we were in some sort of committed exclusive relationship the moment we hooked up. She kept pressuring me into meeting her children even though I told her I didn't want anything serious.

My words of advice here are: Don't meet the children unless you want a more serious relationship. If she asks you to or tries to trick you into it, end her game right there.
Author:  DontSnoopIfUGetMad [ Mon Oct 24, 2011 4:52 am ]
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I recently f-closed a girl with a couple kids.

Ended up being a psycho who was insane in bed but thought we were in some sort of committed exclusive relationship the moment we hooked up. She kept pressuring me into meeting her children even though I told her I didn't want anything serious.

My words of advice here are: Don't meet the children unless you want a more serious relationship. If she asks you to or tries to trick you into it, end her game right there.
I will defiantly keep that in mind. Thx
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