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Author:  blacksun [ Sat Jul 23, 2011 4:26 pm ]
Post subject:  my first approach. how to keep your cool?
hey guys. i am doing the stylelife challenge and am enjoying it at the moment.
i have jsut done my first aproach she was a 7 but she was well dressed and had good posture. basically what i have to do today is open 3 women and ask them for a recommendation towards a menwear shop.

i basically set myself to go shopoing at tesco to look for women there and do this. as i was walking about something caught me off that it was crowded and in my own mind i fealt really awkward just going around and asking random women this while others would be hearing me. i know it is a shit mind set but i fealt uncomfortable.

as i was walking home i saw this woman walking towards me and thought 'fuck it just do it man'. as she walked towards i didnt jump in straight away i said as she was walking towards me "hey, maybe you can help me with something" she stopped and looked at me. i then said "do you know any places in scarborough that sells cool menswear?" i kinda stammered half way through but tried my best to keep my posture. i just had a sudden rush of anxiety when half way through speaking to her. basically she just said "i'm in scarborough for only a week". I have done it and am asking for some advice towards keeping your cool? i know it doesnt matter and what does matter is that i have done it and i should go and do two more before work but i get really nervous.

thanks for reading guys. i have finally done my first proper approac!!!!.
Author:  lastironman [ Sat Jul 23, 2011 8:38 pm ]
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Approach anxiety is a completely irrational fear if you think about it, but we all have it, unfortunately. I'm told that it never really goes away, but the more experience you get, the more you can control it.

My best advice, if you havent heard it before - is next time you do an approach, just take a breath and speak slowly, when I say slowly, I really mean normally, because when we get excited or nervous, we tend to start talking really fast.

And if your next approach is going to be like the one you just described - where your just starting a conversation and not being flirty or anything - just remind yourself that you're not doing anything wrong. You're just talking. How many times in the past has some stranger, male or female walked up to you and ask harmless questions like that? It's happened to me many, many times and I never thought anything of it.
Author:  blacksun [ Sun Jul 24, 2011 1:05 am ]
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yeah i was having a conversation with a guy at work tonight. he basically said that it would be alot easier to just look n their perspective. your basically jsut asking a harmless question nothing more to it.
my plkan is to do atleast one aproach a day plus the stylelife challenge tasks to get used to it earlier. im already finding it easier to jsut speak to people at checkouts with ease. i know that jsut speaking to people in the street will come at ease and day game would be a hard way to start but atleast thats a good thing :).
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