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| Author: | JG85 [ Tue Jul 19, 2011 1:26 am ] |
| Post subject: | new to pick up. How did i do? |
Tried to talk to a girl at a club sat. night. Didnt go great but didnt go bad either. This is how it went. It was a rock concert and she was with a couple. I noticed her just standing in a corner looking bored and texting all night. She wasnt into the concert at all it seemed. Anyway i walked up to her and it went like this: ME: you seem bored whats up? HER: Im not bored ME: You sure? It seems like it. HER: No im not bored...she turned back to the band and I walked away. How did this go? I know it didnt go well but I felt like I made a big step in approaching because I usually dont. Anything I could have done to get a better response out of her? how did i do? Also i just split with my gf of almost 2years so trying to get my confidence up and my ex off my mind. |
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| Author: | Sparroww [ Tue Jul 19, 2011 1:41 am ] |
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Bad opener. You should have went with something either expressing more interest, or less interest, you were in the weird middle ground. Direct: Hey you look fun, are you friendly? or I've been around this whole place and you're the only girl cute enough for me to talk to. Indirect: Wow, this band is pretty bad huh? or You get dragged out here too? Also, read up about dealing with bitch shields, seems like no matter what you said she would have had one. |
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| Author: | DaveUrkel (BlackWhitePU) [ Tue Jul 19, 2011 1:51 am ] |
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I disagree with above. I don't think the opener was bad. It was more the way you handled it after her response. You need to have more to say. Don't be the guy waiting for the girl to hold up the conversation. And the biggest thing is you need to do more approaches, just because its hard to judge what you need to change or do differently from just one short interaction. It could have been a fluke for all you know. When you do a bunch of approaches, then you can see the patterns and that will let you know what to change. But, if you usually don't approach then good job for approaching. Just do more and don't let one stupid interaction stop you from talking to another girl right after her. |
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| Author: | JG85 [ Tue Jul 19, 2011 2:37 am ] |
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Thanks for the advice guys. What could I have said that after she said no im not bored? I felt like walking away was the wrong thing to do but i had nothing to say for a come back being new to this. Im new to this and wasnt a social person at all until me and my gf recent split. So im trying to put myself out there and just meet ppl and get her out of my head. I didnt feel bad about getting rejected also bc i just felt like she was a bitch so it didnt hurt my feelings which is awesome. |
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| Author: | djdante [ Tue Jul 19, 2011 6:54 am ] |
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Hey OP, In all honesty, it's rarely an issue of what you say, and much more 'how' you say it. Imagine all the different ways you could have said "you look bored".. You could have said it in a boring way yourself, almost matter of a fact. You could have said in in such a way to convey that you were there to make her less bored You could have said it in a teasing way, with a coy smile and a wink. The latter two would have gotten a far better response. Am I a fan of saying "you look bored" as an opener? Nope, I don't like it much, but I'll place lots of money on the fact that I could make it work just fine. What I do like is that you at least chose to use your environment rather than a canned opener. In future, think about how you can make what you say a little bit more fun. The above examples would have been much better than simply accusing her of being bored. Alternatively you could have said "You look like your night needs more fun", and said it with a big smile. That would make her much more likely to open up. Also, when it comes to how you reply to women, a good rule is to never get into logical arguments as they are boring and don't foster rapport. So when she said "I'm not bored" you could instead have said something like "Haha, you don't seem very convincing, I'm here to make sure you have more fun". So even if you don't want to change the content of what you're saying, you can still think about the way you phrase things to make them more creative and fun. |
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