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Author:  RAFC Dude [ Wed Mar 30, 2011 7:28 pm ]
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Hi guys (and girls!), what's up?

I've made quite a progress over the last few months. I'm able to smoothly talk to women, only... once I get introduced to them. Opening women (and men) is still a no-go for me.

Now, I've made some progress. year ago I would've said: opening someone I don't know? Hell no (almost scared to do so)! Now I want to open girls, I look forward to it, but I can't push myself to do it.

Today, I was on a bus with 3 pretty girls ons it. In the front there were some other people, but only one guy was sitting near us. They were talking, nagging, bitching (usual women talk :P ) and I wanted to join the conversation... but I couldn't. I had no idea what to say, and when they said something I could react on, it would've seem awkward for me to suddenly jump in.

So how can you guys just see a women you want to talk to and open her/them?
Author:  Coldsarger [ Wed Mar 30, 2011 7:48 pm ]
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Tyler talks about this in blueprint. What you want to do is ignoring your subconsious when this happens. Just dive in and force your brain to get into state.
Author:  Unforeseen [ Wed Mar 30, 2011 9:02 pm ]
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Man, I definitely am in your position right now and have also been trying to figure ways to get me to approach. I too get stuck in my head of what to say when approaching. Recently I've also been trying some new techinques to get me to approach. Just today, I tried these outs techniques out, which surprisingly helped me approach.

1.) When you see an attractive women, count 1, 2, 3, then go for it. I know it sounds silly, but i tried it out and was able to open about 7 sets (my goal was 5). Make sure you count it out first then approach. Don't think, just do.
2.) Go in with a positive mindset when interacting
-I want to genuinely get to know her
-I'm just out to have fun
-I'm the sh*t and can care less of what they think of me
Make sure you yourself know your intention for approaching because that's all that matters.
3.) Instead of pushing away from Approach Anxiety, embrace it. Call it Approach Excitement (more about it on forums) instead, because that's really what it is. Get excited to have that feeling then approach
4.) I've been doing this for the past 4 months , especially around my campus every day. As you are about to pass by someone, look at them, smile, and say hi. It doesn't matter who you say hi to, as long as you do it (with a smile). I gotten people who responded back postively, and those who flat out ignored me, but later, I found out that their response doesn't affect me after doing so many times

Try these out for yourself. Don't just take my word for it. You won't know if they work unless you try it yourself. Good luck to you!
Author:  Scugnizze [ Thu Mar 31, 2011 11:22 am ]
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Tyler talks about this in blueprint. What you want to do is ignoring your subconsious when this happens. Just dive in and force your brain to get into state.
Exactly. This is evolutionary. Men were hunters. If you thought too much while on the hunt you always missed the kill. This is the exact same. Have a plan of attack ready and, don't think, just do it. Once you have approached and opened, it's a lot easier from there. Approaching and opening is the hardest part. Once they're engaged, the fear melts away. And the more you do it, the easier it becomes.
Author:  Arc88 [ Sat Apr 02, 2011 8:24 pm ]
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I did this for the first time last night actually. I dont have as much confidence as I should. But I figured I should face my fear anyway. Went to a bar and walked up to a two set. The moment I said "Hi" I could see it in their eyes. They were thinking "get away from us now." I talked to them VERY briefly after finally excusing myself, I was pretty embarrassed about it. But I do feel a lot better now that I have that practice and I've done it more than one time. Just go out and do it!
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