If you were a girl,

Hey everybody.

Ok, i understand this is a very popular tactic among PUA´s, and it consists in you walking into a girl, without knowing her, and start asking for her opinion about subjects she doesn´t give f*ck about and make you look like a real weirdo.

Walking around in the street asking to random girls about their opinion about the problems between your friend and his girlfriend, and stuff like that? Seriously? Don´t you think that´s kind of lame?

I understand this might work to some people, but there is no doubt in my mind that you shouldn´t need to make this kind of pathetic figures in order to get a girl.

If you were a girl, what would you think if a random guy approaches you, out of nowhere, asking for tips about his personal life and other things you really don´t care about, since you don´t know the person? Would you think: "Uau, this guy must be really interesting! He walks around the street asking for strangers help about his own personal life. Uau! I wanna meet this guy!" Seriously? Do you really think this would impress any decent woman?

As i said before, i understand that this might result to some people, but still kind of lame and unnecessary in order to meet girls.

Think twice before doing it, cause i don´t think it will send the best message about you to the girls.

It makes NO SENSE to come up to someone you don't know and ask that immediately.

It will usually only work because the girl knows you're hitting on her and is just giving you some slack because she likes you.

Stop Making Sense.

Do "theatrics" mean anything to you?
And your problem with that is...?

1. I don't mean that the flow of the conversation has to be logical and make sense. My humour can be very zany and off the wall, and I'll often I'll cut a thread and shift topics out of the blue. BUT, before I do any of that I have to establish some rapport with whoever I'm speaking with. What I mean about "making sense" is that, if you approach in a really weird way, you will get the "WHY is this guy talking to me?" look, and your FIRST IMPRESSION will be "this guy is weird." All your future actions are interpreted in light of people's first impression of you, and it's really difficult to overcome an initially poor first impression.

For example, if two people are described as follows:

(A) Confident, zany, high energy, crazy, in your face
(B) Weird, zany, high energy, crazy, in your face

then people will form a better opinion of THE SAME PERSON when given description (A) before they meet them than description (B), just because the first word is different and everything gets filtered through that.

2. Looking at (ii) we can see why your second point is bad. If a girl is talking to you anyway because she's cutting you slack as she's attracted to you, despite the fact that she knows you were using an excuse to do so, then one of the first character traits she's picked up on is that you are SHY.

If you were CONFIDENT (women's number 1 attractive personality trait), then you would have just come up to her and told her you found her attractive and wanted to get to know her. If she were already attracted to you initially, then she would be even MORE so now.

If she WEREN'T attracted to you initially, and you came with your flimsy excuse for a conversation starter, then she probably wouldn't give you the benefit of the doubt, and say something like "why are you asking me?" which you'd then interpret as a "shit test" and spend 20 minutes doing cocky-funny comebacks and ploughing before realising you'd never get anywhere.

Here where i live any non-retarded girl would laugh in a bad way if she saw a guy like mystery trying his lame tricks on her. It wouldn´t work. HIs figure is not appealing to general girls, and his tricks are seen as lame.

Ahhhh, the old direct vs indirect debate. Every 4-5 days someone has a bend new epiphany and steps on the soap box to tell the world, "Hear me in all my glory: Direct approaches are better! "

Like I said in previous treads like this is that for some people jumping from D&D geek that never steped out of his parants basement to a uber confident carismatic guy takes a lot of mentality changes. Indirect game/approaches are a great way to learn a lot of things: Confidence (heck looks like I can talk to girls without getting rejected), conversation skills, body language... etc. They will even get some results from indirect game. Remember they are comming from a 0 result backgroud. So 10-20 n-close, 5 k-close and 1 f-close over the next year is leaps and bounds. After a while he will come in here and post: "Euraka! Dudes, just drop the indirect apporaches, go direct!". He will have progressed from A (no success at all, no confidence at all) to B (indirect game shows me I can interact with girls, confidence is starting to build) and now To C (I'm confident enough and my life is sorted out so I feel confortable at approaching girls directly and I have enough experience to do it the right way.). Heck some will even be happy with the success they get with "B".

If you can go from A to C, *clap clap* I applaude you, but I woudn't say people are stupid from using B. A lot of people used training wheels on their bikes as a kid.