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| Author: | Danny the Kid [ Mon Aug 28, 2006 11:30 pm ] |
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Hey, wen is the best time to SOI a girl? and do you SOI HB9+? |
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| Author: | Monkey [ Wed Aug 30, 2006 1:13 am ] |
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You SOI everyone. No one should ever have a doubt what your intentions are with them. The best time to SOI in seduction is at the tail end of a relate-reward cycle. SOIs are often rewards. Smaller SOIs lead into bigger SOIs and eventually to the close SOI. Going home and taking off your clothes is a pretty big Statement of Intent. ^_^ If she says something you find sexy, tell her so. If she tells a funny joke, tell her you find a sense of humor sexy. If she tells you how good she is at oral sex, escalate your Kino, smile a sly smile and say "Respect." At some point I'm going to have to write a huge post on the Four Rs. Register, Respond, Relate, Reward. Even if you're missing every other part of your game, rapport building (the Four Rs) will get you laid. |
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| Author: | theslackpack [ Tue Dec 12, 2006 12:46 am ] |
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hello everyone, im an old hand at the game and a rookie on this forum. i was wondering if you could help me out with something? monkey, you in particular because you sound pretty clued up. my names gonzo. im twenty years old. im a small man with thin hands, great oak thighs and a pertruding jaw. i look like james dean without the bravado, without the jacket and most importantly without the cool. my game is pretty good at the moment, i can open up a group and number close the best looking girls but when it comes to going out with them something is seriously lacking with my game. i make them laugh - its what i do. but what i dont do is perform any statements of intent or demonstrate any value. so in other words i dont get a second performance, i tend only to hear from these girls through the odd text message and we become friends at best. what can i do during this short time to state my intentions or demonstrate my value? is there any canned material that fundamentally works. |
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| Author: | Monkey [ Tue Dec 12, 2006 4:26 am ] |
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First and foremost, get off the canned material, especially on a second-meet. They like you well enough that they wanted to see you again, so you should let them see YOU instead of the lines you've learned. That being said, there are ways that you can structure your conversation towards a seductive end. As always, open-ended statements and questions are the key to making any interaction work well. Remember your Four Rs: Register, Respond, Relate, Reward. Register Listen to what she is saying. Get out of your own head. Your head is not where you want to be. You WANT to be in her bed, so she is the most important thing in the world to you at that moment. Help her be interesting by being interested in what she's telling you. Respond If you do not understand something that she has said, or you think you could understand it more clearly, make sure you ask about it. Respond to what she has said with something relevant. If she's talking about her poodle, don't talk about scuba diving. Sure, both topics involve animals, but we're looking for one degree of seperation here. She talks about her poodle, you talk about your cats. She says something you don't know how to respond to, ask her to clarify. A sly smile and "I'm not really sure what you mean by that," is usually sufficient to get her to explain in more detail. Relate Women (and metro guys) relate to things on an emotional level. Guys tend to fixate on the THINGS, whereas women fixate on how those things make them FEEL. You want to escalate a conversation to the sexual, you have to make sure you're relating to her on an emotional level. To go back to the pets, if she's talking about giving her pet a bath, you can say something like "I love my cats because they have such distinct personalities. It makes me feel like I'm living with two little people." Then sit tight and be silent. She'll start telling you about the cuteness of Foofoo thinking she's people. All animals think they're people. Except my cats, who think I am a cat... Reward People are mammals. We react well to positive reinforcement. Don't believe me? Watch a six year old kid days after a temper tantrum gets him a chocolate bar. He'll throw another one, get another chocolate bar, and the cycle just gets worse. We never actually grow out of it, either. Escalation, then, comes through positive reinforcement. Kino is a form of positive reinforcement, but so is sitting down comfortably with someone. When she says something or does something that you find agreeable, let her know. Through your words or your actions, she should become aware that her behavior has pleased you. "You know, I really like people who love their animals as much as you. Let's go sit down in this dark corner," is a strong example of possitive reinforcement escalation. It is also a statement of interest. Statements of Intent are also a possitive reinforcement tactic. By informing her, in no uncertain terms, that you plan on delivering a set of screaming orgasms by the end of the night, you are rewarding her for her behavior. That is why SOIs should only come directly after she has done something to please you. She needs to feel as though she's earned it. If it's too early in the game to threaten orgasms, just say something like "I'm going to do bad, bad naughty things to you later..." and change the subject. |
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| Author: | theslackpack [ Tue Dec 12, 2006 7:39 pm ] |
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Thanks monkey. Your help is appreciated. i text her today and she's agreed to come back out with me. so all couldnt of been that bad in the first place - just a delayed response i guess. next time im going to fire some big guns and make sure i get what i want. im going to hit out a lot of SOI's and demonstrate value like theres no tomorrow. thanks once more for listening. gonzocharlie |
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| Author: | xfman [ Wed Dec 13, 2006 12:43 am ] |
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next time im going to fire some big guns and make sure i get what i want. im going to hit out a lot of SOI's and demonstrate value like theres no tomorrow.
But don't force it or it will come as fake or too much
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