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Author:  trentus555 [ Tue Dec 01, 2009 1:44 pm ]
Post subject:  my first time being direct
My situation: 20 yo. 5''10, 160 lbs. Never kissed or touched a girl in my life.

SO yesterday. There I was in the arts building of my school, waiting to speak to a teacher, when this gorgeous girl (7.5/10) walks up right near me and waits by the door. At that moment, I decided that it would be the day. So , trying to recall as much as I've learnt from reading about pick-ups(Strauss, Mystery), I introduce myself, tease her about her clothes, find out stuff about her life, tease her some more(she's laughing btw)..The teacher comes out asks who was next, I point to the girl and chivalrously tell her she was next. Turns out it was just 1 question, and she's done in 30 seconds. My turn, and i'm like "that's it..she's gonna walk away and say bye and leave me here alone". But no, this strange girl waited for me to finish, and we both left together. When we got to the front door, I say "I don't really do this , but you're the most beautiful girl I've seen today, and I'd love to take you out for coffee sometime." she laughed, told me she had a boyfriend, I just said "yeah well, nobody's perfect!....see ya!".

What would YOU have done differently here.? Keeping in mind that whole situation lasted about 12 minutes.
Author:  JSmooth [ Tue Dec 01, 2009 2:08 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: my first time being direct
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My situation: 20 yo. 5''10, 160 lbs. Never kissed or touched a girl in my life.

I was training with my buddy at the pool last week, and as we stopped to take a breather, we saw this amazing chick in her speedo getting into our lane. 9/10, easily.

I looked at my buddy and just said "you, know, I can't wait for the day when I will have the courage to say anything I want to any beautiful woman.". And we continued swimming.


SO yesterday. There I was in the arts building of my school, waiting to speak to a teacher, when this gorgeous girl (7.5/10) walks up right near me and waits by the door. At that moment, I decided that it would be the day. So , trying to recall as much as I've learnt from reading about pick-ups(Strauss, Mystery), I introduce myself, tease her about her clothes, find out stuff about her life, tease her some more(she's laughing btw)..The teacher comes out asks who was next, I point to the girl and chivalrously tell her she was next. Turns out it was just 1 question, and she's done in 30 seconds. My turn, and i'm like "that's it..she's gonna walk away and say bye and leave me here alone". But no, this strange girl waited for me to finish, and we both left together. When we got to the front door, I say "I don't really do this , but you're the most beautiful girl I've seen today, and I'd love to take you out for coffee sometime." she laughed, told me she had a boyfriend, I just said "yeah well, nobody's perfect!....see ya!".

What would YOU have done differently here.? Keeping in mind that whole situation lasted about 12 minutes.
Damn! With her having that much fun and then waiting around for you after you finished I'd thought for sure you had this man. I really hate it when stuff like this happens. I know there are boyfriend destroyers and all that shit but when a woman tells me she's in a relationship that's where I end it too. You could have back peddled and offered to hang out as friends but honestly I would have done what you did, leave.

Sounds like you did an amazing job. :D Don't let this one get you down man!

~Jon
Author:  trentus555 [ Tue Dec 01, 2009 2:24 pm ]
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thanks, i appreciate it.


Are there other ways of asking a stranger out?
Author:  flybeta [ Tue Dec 01, 2009 8:05 pm ]
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you could say boyfriend come and go heres my number. theres a slight chance shell call u but when u walk away theres like no chance right :)
Author:  TheJ [ Tue Dec 01, 2009 8:10 pm ]
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Yup, well done. Build on that. It went great, now do it again!
Author:  xibuz [ Tue Dec 01, 2009 8:58 pm ]
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I didn't ask you if you're single, I'm inving you to join me for a cup coffee. How about (place) right now, let's go.
Author:  trentus555 [ Tue Dec 01, 2009 10:01 pm ]
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good call...

I'm going to try that instead next time...

thanks for the tips guys.
Author:  PUA_CHRIS [ Wed Dec 02, 2009 7:17 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: my first time being direct
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My situation: 20 yo. 5''10, 160 lbs. Never kissed or touched a girl in my life.

SO yesterday. There I was in the arts building of my school, waiting to speak to a teacher, when this gorgeous girl (7.5/10) walks up right near me and waits by the door. At that moment, I decided that it would be the day. So , trying to recall as much as I've learnt from reading about pick-ups(Strauss, Mystery), I introduce myself, tease her about her clothes, find out stuff about her life, tease her some more(she's laughing btw)..The teacher comes out asks who was next, I point to the girl and chivalrously tell her she was next. Turns out it was just 1 question, and she's done in 30 seconds. My turn, and i'm like "that's it..she's gonna walk away and say bye and leave me here alone". But no, this strange girl waited for me to finish, and we both left together. When we got to the front door, I say "I don't really do this , but you're the most beautiful girl I've seen today, and I'd love to take you out for coffee sometime." she laughed, told me she had a boyfriend, I just said "yeah well, nobody's perfect!....see ya!".

What would YOU have done differently here.? Keeping in mind that whole situation lasted about 12 minutes.
Thats cool that you respect her relationship, but what if she was just gauging your reaction? Who knows, i'd probably do the same thing and just leave it at that. I've done the whole BF Destroyer thing for my last relationship......wasn't worth it.
Author:  Duque [ Thu Dec 03, 2009 8:22 am ]
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nice, i liked this post. I think you acted perfectly.
only one question, what did u use as an opener to start and how did you develop the conversation from there?
thanks
Author:  loyalknicksfan [ Thu Dec 03, 2009 4:09 pm ]
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well.. if she's in a relationship and likes you and she thinks your dateable, she will defiantely not just go on a one on one date with you like that.. reason for this:
a.)she doesn't want you to think she normally cheats. Just in case you ever end up together, or dates other guys. She doesn't know you that well to know if she can trust you yet. This is how girls normally think because their 1st emotional need is their social reputation.

so READ between the lines

What you could've done, right after she said what she said is push her.. for example:

You: your beautiful, do u want to go out for coffee sometime? PULL
Her: sorry i have a boyfriend.
You: Wow.. get over yourself, you actually think im' asking you on a date. (laugh) somebody here thinks too wayy too much of themselve.. PUSH
Her: noooo..its just my bf's blah blah blah.
You: well i understand how it is.. what are you doing this weekend.
Her: "blah" blah bar..
You: ohh.. i might be around that area, i might stop by and have a couple of shots with u and ur friends.. exchange numbers and/or even facebook..


the bar thing is just an example.. bar hopping might not be ur thing..

you wont know how things are really going between her and her boyfriend till you become her friend. But dont drop contacts with a hot girl like that, because once hot girls become single, they're just overwhelmed with meeting guys right and left that its even harder to hang out with them..

you said you never had sex with a girl before, so your main objective should just be making with friends with alot of girls as possible.. getting one-itis will be inevitable in your case so make sure you never get played.
Author:  zman27 [ Fri Dec 04, 2009 6:57 am ]
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Alright gentlemen. This is how you respond to any girl you're attracted to who gives the "I have a boyfriend line".
Simply say:
"Well I have a goldfish"
She'll probably look at you funny, maybe ask what??
And you respond, "I thought we were talking about things that didnt matter"
eye contact and a smile and neccessary haha
Author:  pogox [ Fri Dec 04, 2009 8:31 am ]
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Alright gentlemen. This is how you respond to any girl you're attracted to who gives the "I have a boyfriend line".
Simply say:
"Well I have a goldfish"
She'll probably look at you funny, maybe ask what??
And you respond, "I thought we were talking about things that didnt matter"
eye contact and a smile and neccessary haha
Wow it's funny I've seen that line before. It seems a slight implication of nlp in that.
Author:  sinsitive [ Fri Dec 04, 2009 9:13 am ]
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Read one yesterday:

Her: "I have a boyfriend."
PUA: "So? I have 2 kids. So, what about next monday?"

Cant remember where I read it

I used this one once
Her: "I have a boyfriend."
ME: "Ahh you're one of those girls who is owned by a boyfriend and can't even have a fun time with a guy who has no further intentions at all. Good to see there's still occupied slavegirls around."

Cocky & funny... makes her giggle.
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