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| Author: | IamThePrince [ Tue Oct 20, 2009 5:08 pm ] |
| Post subject: | new Confidence & how to get it |
The other day a good friend of mine who has game but lack a sense of uber confidence needed to be extremely effective in the pickup world. The advice i gave him was... Many people think that in order to be confident you have to put yourself in a min set in which you believe that you are better than other people. This is to be understood because many overconfident people do have a belief that they are better than others. The problem is that this theory has to constantly be proven. You constantly have to prove to yourself that you are indeed better than other people. A much more affective frame of mind is to have a strong belief that no one is better than me and I am not necessary better than anyone else. (That Michel Jordon guy he's just a tall guy that can play basket ball bet u I’m better than him at math) (She’s beautiful but that’s only one of her many features). In this mind set you are not God’s gift to girls but simply a normal guy who learned what it takes to be affective with women. This is a mindset that allows you to achieve that uber confidence to walk up to a supermodel like she's just some random girl who you happen to find attractive, Walk up to a celebrity thinking this is just a normal guy who happens to be able to sing immediately making them feel comfort because you are not at all aw stricken by their presence. Please Coment |
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| Author: | Sixxstringer [ Wed Oct 21, 2009 1:21 am ] |
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I agree with that. A lot of people interpret the whole confidence thing differently. This leads to a lot of guys using this wrong. Your confidence must be part of your charisma, its not the way your "being" with them, it has to be the way you "are". You can't be one thing when you approach and different when you close. |
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| Author: | Molson [ Wed Oct 21, 2009 5:42 am ] |
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Meh. Confidence doesn't have anything to do with being better. It has to do with actually believing in what you are doing - whether it's approaching a girl, or your career, or your goals in life. If you KNOW something, and you aren't trying to force yourself or convince yourself of it, then you will have confidence. The difference between someone who is confident and someone who tries to be confident, is that the confident person simply knows and doesn't need to reassure himself. There is a zen like state when you are in true confidence.. I've felt it many times. Your mind becomes completely clear.. a smirk draws across your face.. you can already see the outcome every obstacle (whether it be a girl, or the next dirt jump on the track).. you KNOW because you KNOW... It is a state of pure mental knowingness. It's almost the equivalent of adrenaline to your muslces. Things just happen naturally. You somehow lift that 400lb rock off your friend without a seconds thought. You somehow dive infront of traffic to save that person without standing there and thinking about it for 10 minutes. That is what confidence feels like. It can be very eery if you are not used to it, and can be like one of those things were if you start to think about it, it will fade. |
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