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Author:  Playr [ Wed Jul 22, 2009 6:46 pm ]
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i have started going out by myself during the day doing abit of day game. At the minute all my friends are on holiday so im wondering should i go out to bars and clubs at night by myself. I think it may be seen as a dhv by some girls though so any advice on this would be good. I have been out a few times sober with my friends when they were all drinking and there aa got to me and put me off so being on my own could help aswell.
Author:  JSmooth [ Thu Jul 23, 2009 2:11 pm ]
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i have started going out by myself during the day doing abit of day game. At the minute all my friends are on holiday so im wondering should i go out to bars and clubs at night by myself. I think it may be seen as a dhv by some girls though so any advice on this would be good. I have been out a few times sober with my friends when they were all drinking and there aa got to me and put me off so being on my own could help aswell.
Learning how to go out alone and hang out with yourself is essential. You won't always have wings or friends there to bail you out or talk to. It truly helps to learn how to go out alone and approach as you go.

As a few quick tips one of the things you are going to need to be prepared for is, "Are you alone?" or "Are you here with anyone?" Girls will ask you these questions as a basic shit test just to see how you are going to react. You need to have the mindset that you don't need people around to go out and have a good time, that you have fun no matter what. There is nothing wrong with going out alone so don't let them convince you otherwise.

When I go out alone I make it a POINT to approach everyone! Men, women, little dogs, old people, EVERYONE. The deal is if you are approaching everyone then you can say to someone something like, "I have made lots of friends in here." Anyways, just an idea. Plus this helps prevent them from calling you out on approaching them. If you approach everyone you are just being social.

Jon
Author:  Workaholic [ Thu Jul 23, 2009 2:40 pm ]
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I have started going out by myself during the day doing abit of day game. At the minute all my friends are on holiday so im wondering should i go out to bars and clubs at night by myself. I think it may be seen as a dhv by some girls though so any advice on this would be good. I have been out a few times sober with my friends when they were all drinking and there aa got to me and put me off so being on my own could help aswell.
I really would not recommend this!

Reasons:

a) I go out at night with friends because I do not care about the outcome of my night, I go out as I like to have fun,get drunk and if I see something I like then I will approach and take home.
b) What happens when some drunk jealous boyfriend sees you hitting on your girl, and him and his mates kick your head in and you have none of yours boys to get your back?
c) You will be THAT guy, the one when your out with your friends and you see some old man, beta male on his own going up to people etc.
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all my friends
How many do you have?
Author:  Capps [ Thu Jul 23, 2009 8:23 pm ]
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Ya, gamin durin the day alone is one thing. but going to a club is like totatally against everything ive ever heard. You have no wing, you have no social proof and you come across as weird if you tell the girl you have made lots of friends tonite. I just think that it would be hard to have lots of energy when ur alone.
Author:  JSmooth [ Thu Jul 23, 2009 10:11 pm ]
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Workaholic and Capps,

You know I didn't start out with a wing. I went out alone for months and did just fine in clubs/bars. Hell Mystery went out for YEARS alone perfecting his skills. AFC Adam, guess what he went out alone a lot too. The list goes on. To get good you have to go out alone and see what you're made of.

Don't have social proof? Create it. You can create social proof by working your way through the venue talking to multiple sets. As you work your way from set to set you are creating social proof. How do I know this works? I've done it, AFC Adam has done it, Mystery, Style has done this.

Wing? If you know how to handle Internal & External interruptions this isn't a big deal. Meaning interruptions from the set and from people coming into the set half the battle is covered. I've worked groups upwards of 20 without a wing! Sure it helps to have a wing on your side, but he won't always be able to go out with you.

Now Playr, I won't kid you it takes some serious balls to approach a room of people by yourself working from set to set. It takes a good attitude and some descent inner game too. But it can be done! Don't let these guys convince you it can't be.

I do want to agree with Workaholic on something he said. When he said he goes out and doesn't care about the outcome of the night. I agree that detatching from the outcome and just having FUN is important! You should approach to be social and because YOU are HAVING FUN and whatever happens!

The thing about drunk jealous boyfriend...that's what bouncers in a club are for. When in doubt grab security, this doesn't happen often anyways. This is where approaching indirect helps too because you were just asking for an opinion anyways.

And for the record I doubt you're the creepy old guy. You'll get a great girl before then. My guess is your geared to be more of the fun young guy that's about to go out. It can be done! Many gurus have done this, other members on this forum have done it, I have gone out alone and done well too, and so can you! Get in state before you go out with a good attitude, SMILE :), make your own social proof, talk to everyone, and get the girl! :D

Jon
Author:  overandover [ Fri Jul 24, 2009 7:02 am ]
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i understand how it is to game alone without a wing. In my opinion if your friends dont know the gme you are ebasically alone because they are all pussys when talking to a girl. its so hard to get the guts. just go alone and open with a set and say you are waiting with your friends. or even better yet open to a man set and tell them to watch how you pen the hot girl in the corner and then you can introduce them as your friends
Author:  Playr [ Fri Jul 24, 2009 9:41 am ]
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i have plenty of friends two groups are away this week on holiday and the rest of them dont go out that much. Some of them are quite good with women and others arent very good im gonna hang out with the ones who are better with women more.
I need to go out by myself aswell because i cant find a wing in my area so if i want to improve i have no choice. I have told 1 of my friends about the game but i dont thnik he took it to seriously. i have started driving out with my friends a couple of times aswell so that i stay sober and i have felt more confident when i have been out but i havnt been able to approach sober yet.

some good advice there guys thanks.
Author:  Workaholic [ Fri Jul 24, 2009 10:58 am ]
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Workaholic and Capps,

You know I didn't start out with a wing. I went out alone for months and did just fine in clubs/bars. Hell Mystery went out for YEARS alone perfecting his skills. AFC Adam, guess what he went out alone a lot too. The list goes on. To get good you have to go out alone and see what you're made of.
I am just giving my view, if that works for you and you have more fun on your own going out then well done. I have never gone out alone, it doesn't mean to say I have not broken off with my friends to select a target-as that is what I do every time.
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Don't let these guys convince you it can't be.


No one was saying this everyone just provided a point of view that they feel comfortable with and their recommendations probably based ont their own experience.
Author:  Desmondp [ Fri Jul 24, 2009 6:40 pm ]
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i go clubbin a lot on my own when travelling. It;s great and i find it easier to approach because there isn't anyone around to watch you get shot down and your in a foreign city

However in my home city i would feel a bit weird going out alone. I know plenty of people with many different circles of friends so there is always someone going out and someone to go out with.
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