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Author:  Mr. Amador [ Sat Sep 06, 2008 11:35 pm ]
Post subject:  How to be interesting.
There are two things that can get someone interested, fun and emotion. If I were about to write about economics,I'll just bore the hell out of everybody, cause it isnt fun or emotional as it is for me (I can laugh reading micro economic theory). But lets bring the geek inside me back inside.

The safest way to be interesting and to bring emotion is talking about emotionally charged fun topics. Universally fun and emotionally charged stuff. Cause a lot of guys like things that most people find boring.

So the basic emotions that get people interested are possitive emotions 8or at leas not negative ones). These are the ones that draw the most interest form people:

Affection · Angst · Anticipation · Calmness · Compassion · Confusion · Curiosity · Desire · Disgust · Doubt · Ecstasy · Embarrassment · Enthusiasm · Humiliation · Inspiration · Interest · Surprise · Sympathy · Wonder ·

And if you can deliver a lot of them, wraped in fun, you will be interesting.

So, how to be funny?

Its a hard thing to explain but ther ara acouple theories I've developed that pretty much help people understand it.

If you get in comedycentral.com the first thing you'll see is this:

"You are so not logged in."

[Pause for slight laugh]...or not.

Most people I know agree that thats funny. Why?. Its a fact that you arent logged in, but the guy that came up with that used a whole different logic to say it. I think that laughter erupts when your mind is pulled in two different directions by two different thought processes.

One process is the normal every day borin stuff "Im not logged in". The other one is a process that works normally in every other situation except this one, you are not logged in and you recive a "neg" because of that.

Hope everybody understand what I'm trying to say here....If not let me make it even easier.

Sunday School

Little Mary was not the best student in Sunday School. Usually she slept through the class. One day the teacher called on her while she was napping, ''Tell me, Mary, who created the universe?'' When Mary didn't stir, little Johnny, an altruistic boy seated in the chair behind her, took a pin and jabbed her in the rear. ''God Almighty !'' shouted Mary and the teacher said, ''Very good'' and Mary fell back to sleep.

A while later the teacher asked Mary, ''Who is our Lord and Savior?'' But Mary didn't even stir from her slumber. Once again, Johnny came to the rescue and stuck her again. ''Jesus Christ!'' shouted Mary and the teacher said, ''Very good,'' and Mary fell back to sleep. Then the teacher asked Mary a third question, ''What did Eve say to Adam after she had her twenty-third child?'' And again, Johnny jabbed her with the pin. This time Mary jumped up and shouted, ''If you stick that damn thing in me one more time, I'll break it in half!'' The Teacher fainted.

Hope you laughed...and if not, Fuck I'm not a comedian!!!

Again There are two logics...the normal one... and the sexual one behind it. They pull you in two directions!!...your brain shorcircuits!!!...your mouth opens!!! and you laugh!!!

Maybe some wise-asses will say that I'm wrong (or just plain not funny) but thats the way I think about it, and the way it works for me.

So in any conversation or story you are telling you have to pour in three ingredients:

1. Enthusiasm (dont over do it)
2. Different emotions
3. Fun

About enthusiasm...you dont want to over do it, but you wanna have a lot of it. The definition of "cool" its something that is neither too hot or too cold. So you need to tone it up or down to the desired level.

Whrn you combine Different emotions with fun, the best stuff slip out of your mouth. You cant tease, tell stories, and in general be an interesting guy if you do.

So let me tell you a story so you can see what I'm talking about:

This is a friend's story...its a great example:

The first day at my first job as a teacher I had to go to this girls catholic school. I was a substitute teacher, and I had to fill in for a friend of mine.

He told me "Go to the school and ask for the janitor, he's ussually right in the school entrance so you probably wont have much troble"

When I arrived, I heared the distant buzz of kids and activity....and panicked!!!

It was my fist day as a real teacher!!! my knees were shaking, my palms sweating, and my mouth was as dry as the one of a death row convict in his way to the chair.

Somehow...I got to the entrance and I found the janitor...I asked him where the teacher's louge was.

"Go straigt for...like 50 ft...then turn left, go up the stairs a couple floors, then go left for another 50 feet, go left again and youll be right in front of it."

Despite the janitor's best efforts, I finally found it.

I tapped the door....toc toc

There was no answer

I tapped again toc toc......

Since I was really scared and nervous, I tapped really soft...no one could hear me cause they were talking inside.

So I saw a doorbell right next to the door, that must be the Teacher's lounge doorbell.

I pressed the button.........

The whole school bell rang!!!!

Little girls came out of every classroom with a smile on their faces!!! Angry teachers everywhere!!!

The only way out of it was to hide in a bathroom next to the lounge.

In there I could hear theachers screaming:

"Who was the funny one!!!!" "Girls!!! Go back to your classrooms now, its not recess yet!!!"

5 minutes later, when everything cooled out I went back in front the door and tapped again, hard.

TOC TOC TOC

"Goog morning, you must be Mr. Carrillo, Please excuse us, some jokers were playing with the school bell...I'm really embarrased..let me take you to your class"

Thats how the three ingredients mix up together.. and with some proper delivery those three are the best way to be an interesting guy.
Author:  Abdul-aAfc [ Sun Sep 07, 2008 4:10 pm ]
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Why do you think Mystery is the best pickup artist in the world. He dresses outrageously
Author:  Bloc Rider [ Thu Sep 11, 2008 12:16 pm ]
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I think being interesting comes mostly down to how well you encapture your audience. If you talk with passion, have good eye contact and do not say um or ah people will listen to you and will find you interesting.

However that being said some people have very shot tension spans so i would not suggest telling stories in full, halfway through if she has a confused look on her face or is not fully into the story. Neg her with "am i going too fast for you" or "should i slow down" and then finish your story. This is audience participation and will make her much more invested in the story.

Remember say 1 interesting thing people say "thats interesting" say 10 interesting thing people say "He's interesting"
Author:  ConvAZN [ Thu Sep 11, 2008 1:31 pm ]
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Interesting is a good place to start. However, it's a razor's edge once you get there, because it's easy to fall into the 'friend' category once you've reached 'Interesting.' As I've lately learned, the moment I become interesting, I must instantly make it clear that I'm also interested in them beyond being a friend. Remember that it's approach, open (catch their interest), build comfort (get them interested in you), seduce, then close. I have learned how to be fairly successful with steps one and two. But the third one, seduce, still eludes me and, quite frankly, I myself am pleasantly surprise when I manage to #close or kclose.
Author:  bradjackson [ Mon Sep 15, 2008 1:22 am ]
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I've always used magic in a way that conveys interesting...without conveying dorky. By using magic appropriately you can cause curiosity which is more powerful than interesting.
Author:  Sculptor [ Tue Sep 16, 2008 1:11 pm ]
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Public speaking and school debating are fantastic places to learn how to manipulate an audience through tone of voice. I agree with Bloc Rider that it comes down to talking about passion. I am an artist and love sharing my enthusiasm with others. My question to RedMole88 is this, if economics is that interesting to you have you found a way to use it in conversation and make it interesting? I've found that the people I find 'interesting' are the ones that have a passion and can make me feel it even if it's for something that I don't know anything about (except mathematics, god i hate that stuff).
Thanks for the list of emotions, I'll try it out as soon as I can.

Cheers
Author:  Mr. Amador [ Thu Sep 18, 2008 1:11 am ]
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Public speaking and school debating are fantastic places to learn how to manipulate an audience through tone of voice. I agree with Bloc Rider that it comes down to talking about passion. I am an artist and love sharing my enthusiasm with others. My question to RedMole88 is this, if economics is that interesting to you have you found a way to use it in conversation and make it interesting? I've found that the people I find 'interesting' are the ones that have a passion and can make me feel it even if it's for something that I don't know anything about (except mathematics, god i hate that stuff).
Thanks for the list of emotions, I'll try it out as soon as I can.

Cheers
Well...Sculptor, the thing about economics is that is really hard to explain them to the masses. Remember Carl Sagan? he made astronomy comprehensible for a lot of people...we need our economics Carl Sagan.

The only fields were normal people gets the passion in economics is when I talk about making money (I charge for that) and when I talk about economic policy.

When someone starts talking about politics (especially to girls) two things usually happen, she bores to death, or a political fight starts....

Got it? Economics is serious business, it can be funny, but you have to learn some stuff first, math among them.

But If you give me some time I can pretty much make economics cool for someone.....

And if you use the basic rules I wrote above you can make almost anything interesting.
Author:  Mr. Orange [ Tue Sep 23, 2008 5:43 pm ]
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Why do you think Mystery is the best pickup artist in the world. He dresses outrageously
dressing over the top doesnt make you interesting, it gives you something to talk about. the whole peacock theory that Mystery adopts, is to make him stand out and gives him something interesting to talk about. he wears outrageous things so that, when he approches sets, they are able to interpose a question about an item of clothing that he has on and he will have a short story about it to make what he is saying more interesting and interactive for the set. 8)
Author:  Trickey [ Thu Sep 25, 2008 11:29 pm ]
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Interesting is a good place to start. However, it's a razor's edge once you get there, because it's easy to fall into the 'friend' category once you've reached 'Interesting.'
I agree and disagree with this. I believe that as long as girls find you interesting they will be drawn to you... but you have to have some mystery about yourself and not lay it all out on the table.

I am thinking it seems more trying to find what interests the girl that is the hardest part. You can throw interesting things out there...
For a bad example: Did you know the average age of first time moms is 25.1? I find that interesting. However conversation goes both ways and thats the trick. Finding something that interesting to you and her. I think finding a way to relate on common ground is the hard part. My question is how do you keep it interesting enough to draw her to you while getting the information you need to keep it going.
Author:  Ezo [ Fri Sep 26, 2008 8:55 am ]
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Peacocking is so much more than just giving you something to talk about or to be interesting.

Peacocking gives you attention, you can flip the preselection, social proof, alpha body language, center of attention and confidence switches before you even approach.
Plus it gives you congruence to your stories. If you run canned material (I dont recommend it) it seems more likely that a guy looking like Mystery has had some crazy shit going on than the average high school nerd.

Peacocking does not have to look good, you can also have the I dont give a shit attitude and that also improves you willingness to walk away demonstrations...
Author:  Mr. Amador [ Mon Sep 29, 2008 10:50 pm ]
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Peacocking is so much more than just giving you something to talk about or to be interesting.

Peacocking gives you attention, you can flip the preselection, social proof, alpha body language, center of attention and confidence switches before you even approach.
Plus it gives you congruence to your stories. If you run canned material (I dont recommend it) it seems more likely that a guy looking like Mystery has had some crazy shit going on than the average high school nerd.

Peacocking does not have to look good, you can also have the I dont give a shit attitude and that also improves you willingness to walk away demonstrations...
Interesting is not wearing wierd shit...that just makes you look...wierd. If it works for you..cool.

But you mentioned "preselection" "social proof" and "center of attention". Those are your goals, the goals of most aspiring PUAs. But a hat isnt a magic pill that gives you all those traits. You need some other stuff going on you need to talk to girls, you need to have fun.

In short, a hat just by itself wont get you laid.

Being interesting it the ability to be engaging or exciting and holding the attention or curiosity. Interesting is also an arousing a feeling of interest.

Peacocking gets you the atention, but unless you open sets and "act" interesting, people would just stare at you....thats boring.
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