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I believe negging was intended to be a "playful joke" meant with humor.
True. One of the early examples was "your nose wiggles when you talk." Just something to take the woman off guard and demonstrate the guy isn't fawning all over her like every other chode. Done properly it can be effective but as you state it is absolutely not needed.
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As a result I feel its something guys should completely do away with. Once you're in a grove you can make jokes, but it isn't at all necessary. With the proper frame you can be extremely nice, confident, and still get laid as much as anyone else.
This.
OP, rather than thinking of it as "negging" remind yourself to not be afraid to challenge her statements and have opinions of your own in the initial and followup interactions.