FORGET ABOUT SEDUCTION - IT'S ABOUT BEING SOCIAL
So right now I want you to imagine you're a girl.
I know, EEEEEWW.
But just go with me here.
You're a girl, and you see two guys.
The first guy is cool, confident, but friendly. When you say Hi, he says hi back and talks to you.
You feel his energy of a confident person, and you naturally want to be around him.
As you're talking to him, he say, "hey, give me your number and we'll stay in touch."
Notice how you'd feel about giving him your number and hanging out - as friends.
Now imagine the second guy. He's somewhat stand-offish, reserved, maybe even slightly shy.
He talks to you, and asks you for your opinion on something.
You're like - Ok, I'll bite...but there's something fishy about him.
You talk to him, and at one point he says, "Hey, um, would you give me your number so I can
call you sometimes?"
What would you think to yourself?
Um, why does he need my number?
Now of course I am oversimplifying this, but you get my point.
When most guys start out, they think this game is about becoming a "seducer".
The PUA industry made certain that you live out the fantasies of the dark player and
playboy.
But when you step out in the real world, the guys who consistently get women, are
socially CONFIDENT guys, who are just out there, talking with people.
And sometimes, those people just so happen to be women.
There is no sneaky manipulative "pull her in" involved.
When I started out, I was in the same mindset.
I used to go out and get my shirt on, and get my player mode on, and try to be
all slick and suave...
Only to be met by REPULSION from women.
But when I shifted my mindset from "seduction" to "being a cool social guy" I
really hit a difference.
When I started approaching women in a natural, by-the-way attitude, and I ditched
my gamey approach, I started getting success.
"Hey I saw you from over there and thought you were cute, wanted to say Hi...what's up?"
And I'd just pick up a conversation from then on.
I was genuinely interested and curious about her. I wasn't needy, because I was coming
from a point of fullness, and not from a point of emptiness.
Answer this question to yourself right now:
Am I FULL - or am I EMPTY?
Really let this question sink in for a moment with you.
When you approach women, where are you coming from?
> Do you want to "get" them and their number, so you feel better about yourself...
> Or do you want to talk to them because you're genuinely interested in them?
I guarantee you if you make this one shift, your entire "game" will change.
ACTION STEP
So right now, make a commitment to yourself that from now you'll go out and talk
to women with the intention of expanding your social circle, and not with the intention
of "seducing" them or getting them into bed.
And as always, let me know - what are your thoughts on this? Did you experience a similar
shift?
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