PUA Forum
https://www.pick-up-artist-forum.com/

I approached ! now i cant approach anymore :(
https://www.pick-up-artist-forum.com/viewtopic.php?f=51&t=201068		 Page 1 of 1
Author:  sonOfSatan [ Fri Jan 13, 2017 9:12 pm ]
Post subject:  I approached ! now i cant approach anymore :(
I approached 2 girls on the other day, i got their facebook contact, but since i am still to hard case they lost all interest, and one of them has a boyfriend so yeah.
but it doesnt matter, what matters is, i DID A APPROACH! i gathered a lot of courage and i did it.
BUT NOT I CANT DO IT AGAIN!
today i went out after my study session, and i placed a goal to myself: "I will only go back home after i approach a girl"
then a amazing pretty girl starts getting close, as we walk past each other, i BLOCK, i dont have the courage to open. I felt misrable.
Then another hot girl, she was black, like 17 or 18, big boobs, green eyes, and as i was about to open my mouth to open, i just cant do it. :\
I returned home after a lot of time walking randomly on the street and i felt so idiotic.
If i had a wingman things would be easier i guess.

Is this shit normal? :\ I mean, i did it once, but now i cant replicate, sometimes i feel like im improving so slow that by this rate i will only be able to actually open any girl without "fear" when im old.
;\

There are 3 main "fears" that pop to my mind:
If im too near the places where i live or my school, i avoid even trying because i dont want to build a creepy weirdo reputaion (Because im still hardcase noob as fuck,), but when i am away from the palces where i usually go, the ones i call "safe zones" i keep telling to myself "YOU have nothing to lose, if she rejects you you still get experience" and i keep repeating that "mantra" to myself, but when a hot girl appears, i just fucking block! its too frustrated :| the thing is, im obsessed with this shit, and im not he give up kind of guy.
Is it normal for this kind of thing to take so much time to overcome?
Author:  Johnny Utah [ Mon Jan 16, 2017 4:40 am ]
Post subject:  Re: I approached ! now i cant approach anymore :(
Quote:
I approached 2 girls on the other day, i got their facebook contact, but since i am still to hard case they lost all interest, and one of them has a boyfriend so yeah.
but it doesnt matter, what matters is, i DID A APPROACH! i gathered a lot of courage and i did it.
BUT NOT I CANT DO IT AGAIN!
today i went out after my study session, and i placed a goal to myself: "I will only go back home after i approach a girl"
then a amazing pretty girl starts getting close, as we walk past each other, i BLOCK, i dont have the courage to open. I felt misrable.
Then another hot girl, she was black, like 17 or 18, big boobs, green eyes, and as i was about to open my mouth to open, i just cant do it. :\
I returned home after a lot of time walking randomly on the street and i felt so idiotic.
If i had a wingman things would be easier i guess.

Is this shit normal? :\ I mean, i did it once, but now i cant replicate, sometimes i feel like im improving so slow that by this rate i will only be able to actually open any girl without "fear" when im old.
;\

There are 3 main "fears" that pop to my mind:
If im too near the places where i live or my school, i avoid even trying because i dont want to build a creepy weirdo reputaion (Because im still hardcase noob as fuck,), but when i am away from the palces where i usually go, the ones i call "safe zones" i keep telling to myself "YOU have nothing to lose, if she rejects you you still get experience" and i keep repeating that "mantra" to myself, but when a hot girl appears, i just fucking block! its too frustrated :| the thing is, im obsessed with this shit, and im not he give up kind of guy.
Is it normal for this kind of thing to take so much time to overcome?
Ok, so I have experienced this countless times, when I was still really new with talking to women and pua. You are letting these recent rejections effect you emotionally, so when you freeze up you are assuming you are going to get the same result with a completely different woman.

Think about it logically instead of emotionally. All people are different and all interactions between different people are different as a result of social dynamics. Next time you see another woman that is attractive to you, don't be afraid to get back on the horse and try again. You have already gotten on the horse before, so it is definitely possible to do again once you drop the emotional baggage you are carrying.

I realize it is much easier said than done, but I have not only said this, but done as well. I have focused on improving myself as have most of the other members on here. It will take some time to get used to doing this, but it is 100% possible. By the way, the more and more times you fail, the stronger you get and the less you care. As it happens more and more, you will have less and less of a fear of rejection and women as well.

Anyway, that is my 2 cents. I hope this helps you out.
Author:  R.C [ Mon Jan 16, 2017 7:35 am ]
Post subject:  Re: I approached ! now i cant approach anymore :(
You're afraid of 15 year olds OP?
Author:  GFRESH2DEF [ Fri Jan 20, 2017 11:43 am ]
Post subject:  Re: I approached ! now i cant approach anymore :(
Quote:
I approached 2 girls on the other day, i got their facebook contact, but since i am still to hard case they lost all interest, and one of them has a boyfriend so yeah.
but it doesnt matter, what matters is, i DID A APPROACH! i gathered a lot of courage and i did it.
BUT NOT I CANT DO IT AGAIN!
today i went out after my study session, and i placed a goal to myself: "I will only go back home after i approach a girl"
then a amazing pretty girl starts getting close, as we walk past each other, i BLOCK, i dont have the courage to open. I felt misrable.
Then another hot girl, she was black, like 17 or 18, big boobs, green eyes, and as i was about to open my mouth to open, i just cant do it. :\
I returned home after a lot of time walking randomly on the street and i felt so idiotic.
If i had a wingman things would be easier i guess.

Is this shit normal? :\ I mean, i did it once, but now i cant replicate, sometimes i feel like im improving so slow that by this rate i will only be able to actually open any girl without "fear" when im old.
;\

There are 3 main "fears" that pop to my mind:
If im too near the places where i live or my school, i avoid even trying because i dont want to build a creepy weirdo reputaion (Because im still hardcase noob as fuck,), but when i am away from the palces where i usually go, the ones i call "safe zones" i keep telling to myself "YOU have nothing to lose, if she rejects you you still get experience" and i keep repeating that "mantra" to myself, but when a hot girl appears, i just fucking block! its too frustrated :| the thing is, im obsessed with this shit, and im not he give up kind of guy.
Is it normal for this kind of thing to take so much time to overcome?
3 years ago, i was exactly were you are in your game right now. I've come a long way since then, and you can too. Just don't give up, and keep approaching. I promise you that there is a light at the end of the dark tunnel of hopelessness. Try taking your game a little bit further out of your comfort zone every 2 1/2 months. That's pretty much how i did it. And i got better and better over a long period of time. It definitely won't happen for you over night. But if you continuously challenge yourself by approaching the hottest girls that you can find (even if they are way out of your league)..you probably won't fuck any of them, but your confidence with them will surely go up, and up, and up. And practice plowing (staying in sets longer and longer over a period of time). I can assure you that your game will get real good before you know it. I've done everything that i just mentioned in this paragraph. I've already went through that Hard Case Newbie Hell, and made it out to the other side..into Pussy Heaven lol :D. I never gave up, no matter how hard and discouraging that things got for me. And i was able to do it without any wingmen to assist me during my first 1 1/2 years into pickup. So keep the hope alive brother! Great pussy is just beyond the horizon.:wink: So Keep Going!


I think i'm going to write a journal of my older field reports from when i first started, so you can see how much of a hard case i really was.


-G
Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Fri Jan 20, 2017 3:30 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: I approached ! now i cant approach anymore :(
Build a stronger you.
Author:  xopow [ Fri Jan 27, 2017 6:02 am ]
Post subject:  Re: I approached ! now i cant approach anymore :(
Relaxation would be of big benefit to you..Take a couple months off this pickup stuff, stop thinking about women and stop masturbating.

Also I want to add that instead of looking for information on how to pick up women. You look for information on how to be a man. That's before anything else. I see you get a boost of confidence one day, and then you are worrysome the next. You clearly need to relax. True men are always calm and never let anyone tear them out of their eternally stoic mind. For more specifics contact me young brother...

How I feel as a man...
Personally I don't give a fuck if I were to die tomorrow. Not because I'm miserable and want everything to be over, but because I am so stoic and sure of my pleasant afterlife that I wouldn't have a problem being removed from this earth.

Plus I wouldn't have to get up for work anymore :)
Author:  datingbro [ Sat Feb 04, 2017 11:08 am ]
Post subject:  Re: I approached ! now i cant approach anymore :(
You need more experience of rejections, and try to eat too big cake at once.

You have to practice to get small rejections and get that grow and grow.
I practice right now this way, I get the store to store and asking for the job even I don't have any qualifications. This is an easy start and I try to increase my ability to get bigger rejections in future.
Author:  kidfromcro [ Sat Feb 04, 2017 11:32 am ]
Post subject:  Re: I approached ! now i cant approach anymore :(
So,you don't think well of yourself,you're overthinking it,see her,approach her
Author:  galist [ Sat Feb 04, 2017 12:21 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: I approached ! now i cant approach anymore :(
dont look at it as approaching. just make conversation without any goal: no goal, no fail. since you can't fail, there should be no fear / anxiety
Author:  datingbro [ Sat Feb 04, 2017 4:01 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: I approached ! now i cant approach anymore :(
Quote:
dont look at it as approaching. just make conversation without any goal: no goal, no fail. since you can't fail, there should be no fear / anxiety

Yeah.

Just talk and look her body language. And if she seems interested in you, ask her to drink. You should date only those girls who are crazy about you.
Author:  galist [ Thu Feb 09, 2017 10:15 am ]
Post subject:  Re: I approached ! now i cant approach anymore :(
Quote:
Quote:
dont look at it as approaching. just make conversation without any goal: no goal, no fail. since you can't fail, there should be no fear / anxiety

Yeah.

Just talk and look her body language. And if she seems interested in you, ask her to drink. You should date only those girls who are crazy about you.[/quote

i wouldn't suggest looking for cues to change to intent of the appoach.

i'd say smply just have conversations be 5 to 10, whatever amount tht will bring your courage back.

its great advice to deal only those women tht want but, ...
Author:  nyceboi [ Fri Feb 10, 2017 5:47 am ]
Post subject:  Re: I approached ! now i cant approach anymore :(
Quote:
dont look at it as approaching. just make conversation without any goal: no goal, no fail. since you can't fail, there should be no fear / anxiety
absolutely true, I have been practicing mostly at my local bar, I go and approach without any intention but to talk and have a good time, so far I have not been rejected, I think the chicks see me all relaxed and my pure intention of having a conversation and they respond.
when I freeze and I have frozen many times in front of the girls, this is my line...

"I know this look awkward but I had to approach and say hi, Im a little shy Im sorry"

this line has worked for me very good all girls say is ok don't be shy and we start talking.
Author:  galist [ Sun Feb 12, 2017 1:20 am ]
Post subject:  Re: I approached ! now i cant approach anymore :(
Quote:
Quote:
dont look at it as approaching. just make conversation without any goal: no goal, no fail. since you can't fail, there should be no fear / anxiety
absolutely true, I have been practicing mostly at my local bar, I go and approach without any intention but to talk and have a good time, so far I have not been rejected, I think the chicks see me all relaxed and my pure intention of having a conversation and they respond.
when I freeze and I have frozen many times in front of the girls, this is my line...

"I know this look awkward but I had to approach and say hi, Im a little shy Im sorry"

this line has worked for me very good all girls say is ok don't be shy and we start talking.
if it works dont fix it. i wouldn't go with it, but once you open you could bring the conversation any way you want
Author:  iggz80 [ Thu Mar 02, 2017 11:24 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: I approached ! now i cant approach anymore :(
When you say you can't aproach anymore, I would like to tell you that that's normal. We all have good and bad periods, but when you become better in aproaching girls, the difference won't be that big. You will be good or a little bit "less good" in aproaching women.

So practice.

You have some good advice here, I personally would advise what has already been said by GFRESH2DEF (!!) and I liked nyceboi's post with galist quote too.

But being a total rookie (you) I would suggest you to not aproach that hot women in the beginning. And as it's difficult for you to say anything, start just by saying "hello" or even just by smiling at her and just giving a sign of a "hello" with your head (if you don't understand this :D I'll try to explain, I can't say this better now), kind of a "silent hello"...

Eventually, you will be better, and if she responds well - gives you back a "silent hello" with a smile, you may try to start a conversation or just really pronounce that "hello". :wink:

Keep doing this, don't expect anything, and things will go better...

And don't give up... :wink:
Page 1 of 1 All times are UTC
Powered by phpBB® Forum Software © phpBB Group
http://www.phpbb.com/