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Author:  hayzie [ Sat Jul 18, 2015 6:19 pm ]
Post subject:  Re-approach this girl on fb or pof?
A little over 2 years ago, I had a one nighter with this girl that I met through a mutual friend. Even though I went home with her, I was still pretty awkward and kinda blew it with her. I sent her a message and friend request on fb. She accepted the request and read my message but didn't respond. About a month later I sent another message, asking her out. She didn't read it for months, but finally did, but never responded. I then stopped contacting her. Since then, our only interaction has been liking each others posts.

I just signed up on pof a few days ago and saw she is on there. I'd really like to try to start something up with her again, hopefully without the awkwardness. I have no idea how best to approach her again though. Should I message or poke her on fb? Should I contact her on pof? I'm worried it with seem stalkerish if I contact her on pof. And what should I say to her? It'd be nice if our mutual friend would help, but she flat out refuses. What should I do?

Sorry if this is in the wrong category. Wasn't sure if the was considered an approach or online sarging.

Thanks in advance for any help :D
Author:  JackZero [ Sat Jul 18, 2015 7:21 pm ]
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Take a hint. She's not interested.
Author:  Noone [ Sat Jul 18, 2015 7:22 pm ]
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Send her a dick pic on both.
Author:  hayzie [ Tue Jul 21, 2015 3:51 am ]
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Geez jackzero. No need to be a dick. In case you didn't read my post thoroughly, I said I blew it. I'm just trying to find out the best way to try to reopen the lines of communication that were there until I got too awkward.

The dick pic thing is funny but not too much help though lol
Author:  DW-Heart-Charmer [ Tue Jul 21, 2015 4:21 am ]
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Send her a dick pic on both.
Lol.
Author:  JackZero [ Tue Jul 21, 2015 4:44 am ]
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Geez jackzero. No need to be a dick. In case you didn't read my post thoroughly, I said I blew it. I'm just trying to find out the best way to try to reopen the lines of communication that were there until I got too awkward.

The dick pic thing is funny but not too much help though lol
She's nonresponsive when it comes to your communication with her. There is nothing you can say to her to make her respond. She's not interested in you but you think I'm a dick for pointing it out because you can't accept it and move on, so be it. Next time I'll let you sit in my lap so you can cry yourself to sleep.
Author:  hayzie [ Tue Jul 21, 2015 6:05 am ]
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Geez jackzero. No need to be a dick. In case you didn't read my post thoroughly, I said I blew it. I'm just trying to find out the best way to try to reopen the lines of communication that were there until I got too awkward.

The dick pic thing is funny but not too much help though lol
She's nonresponsive when it comes to your communication with her. There is nothing you can say to her to make her respond. She's not interested in you but you think I'm a dick for pointing it out because you can't accept it and move on, so be it. Next time I'll let you sit in my lap so you can cry yourself to sleep.
What I was getting at was i wasnt looking for criticism. If she's nonresponsive, so be it. But not making an attempt is a guaranteed way to never truly find out where she stands. I haven't attempted to talk to her in over two years. Suddenly she began regularly "liking" my FB posts a couple months ago, pictures, jokes, stupid statements, pretty much anything. Seems like some possible interest to me, I may be wrong, but you may be wrong too. I was just hoping to get some advice from someone. Not antagonized.
Author:  JackZero [ Tue Jul 21, 2015 6:20 am ]
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Geez jackzero. No need to be a dick. In case you didn't read my post thoroughly, I said I blew it. I'm just trying to find out the best way to try to reopen the lines of communication that were there until I got too awkward.

The dick pic thing is funny but not too much help though lol
She's nonresponsive when it comes to your communication with her. There is nothing you can say to her to make her respond. She's not interested in you but you think I'm a dick for pointing it out because you can't accept it and move on, so be it. Next time I'll let you sit in my lap so you can cry yourself to sleep.
What I was getting at was i wasnt looking for criticism. If she's nonresponsive, so be it. But not making an attempt is a guaranteed way to never truly find out where she stands. I haven't attempted to talk to her in over two years. Suddenly she began regularly "liking" my FB posts a couple months ago, pictures, jokes, stupid statements, pretty much anything. Seems like some possible interest to me, I may be wrong, but you may be wrong too. I was just hoping to get some advice from someone. Not antagonized.
Explain where you were criticized. She didn't respond after you got confirmation of her seeing your messages. That's not a critization of you. That is her not giving you any indication that she's interested in talking to you. If she were really interested she would respond.
Author:  hayzie [ Tue Jul 21, 2015 6:39 am ]
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Alright maybe it wasnt criticism but it definitely wasnt anything positive. And what I've been laboring to get at is that there's been no attempt for years on my part and she suddenly started paying attention to me. Do you pay any attention to girls your not friends with or related to or interested in? I know I don't. And I'm not friends with her and (thankfully because is have a whole different issue lol) I'm not related to her. I'm assuming that, more than likely, most, if not all girls are the same way. That's what compelled me to seek out some advice from someone.
Author:  JackZero [ Tue Jul 21, 2015 7:00 am ]
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Alright maybe it wasnt criticism but it definitely wasnt anything positive. And what I've been laboring to get at is that there's been no attempt for years on my part and she suddenly started paying attention to me. Do you pay any attention to girls your not friends with or related to or interested in? I know I don't. And I'm not friends with her and (thankfully because is have a whole different issue lol) I'm not related to her. I'm assuming that, more than likely, most, if not all girls are the same way. That's what compelled me to seek out some advice from someone.
Then we're back at the beginning. With all of the likes she's giving you, explain why she won't answer your current communications? The problem here is that you're thinking like a man and applying man thinking to a woman. I'm not saying that you didn't do the right thing in assuming attraction was there, but there's a point you have to be accepting that her unresponsiveness is a hint that she isn't interested. I don't know how to spin that to make it positive for you other than that at least you know that you don't need to waste your time on her.
Author:  hayzie [ Wed Jul 22, 2015 12:09 am ]
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I understand what your saying, but what you seem to be misunderstanding is that I haven't talked to her, sent her a message, nothing in over two years. I've left her alone and she took an interest in my stuff out of the blue. That's why I was looking for advice on what to say to her. Sorry this got as bad as it did. Problem was i was looking for advice, not someone's opinion on whether or not i have a shot with her and I got frustrated with you because of where you went with this.
Author:  JackZero [ Wed Jul 22, 2015 12:48 am ]
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I understand what your saying, but what you seem to be misunderstanding is that I haven't talked to her, sent her a message, nothing in over two years. I've left her alone and she took an interest in my stuff out of the blue. That's why I was looking for advice on what to say to her. Sorry this got as bad as it did. Problem was i was looking for advice, not someone's opinion on whether or not i have a shot with her and I got frustrated with you because of where you went with this.
I understand what you are saying. I understand that you want something to say to her that doesn't make you look needy or like a stalker. But here's my questions to you. Do you know how to be normal? Do you know how to start a conversation without making her feel creeped out? If you do, that's how you reopen communication with her. Don't go on POF and don't "poke" her. Be normal -> Make her laugh -> Make her comfortable talking to you.

I personally still think you're wasting time. Going from attractive to unattractive makes it nearly impossible to get back to attractive again.
Author:  hayzie [ Sat Jul 25, 2015 5:18 pm ]
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I got you. What I had thought of was just a simple "Hi, how are you?" but it seems kinda lame to me. Really, this girl has thrown me for a loop. Between not responding 2 years ago, not deleting me from her friend list, then her recent "liking" my posts...she has had me really confused. Especially since our mutual friend says she is kind of a bitch so it doesn't seem like she'd do anything she has just to be nice. I could be wrong though.

I can understand why you think I'm wasting my time. Honestly, I've wondered about that myself which is why I came to the conclusion of just one message to see if she responds, if not, forget about her. Actually, you and me going back and forth on this post has made me put in more of an effort than I had planned lol. I was hoping to have a few people throw out some ideas, I'd figure out my approach from that, and be done with it.
Author:  Dragula [ Sat Jul 25, 2015 5:26 pm ]
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I posted a video of funny cats on Facebook the other day, a girls that never lead anywhere liked it.

I am pretty sure they like the video because it had a picture of a cute cat and a magnetic headline.

If she was interested she would say Hi. Girls liking my Facebook status doesn't mean she wants to swallow your dick in one.

When they like ALL your stuff, there might be something though.

p.s. jack is correct.
Author:  wilyone [ Sat Jul 25, 2015 5:36 pm ]
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I would agree with JackZero except for the fact that she is suddenly liking your posts. Not something a bitchy girl does to a guy she prefers would stay away.

Possible that she became interested in someone else 2 years ago and is now single again, so circumstances have changed.

You're already facebook friends. No need to stalk her on POF, it would not be attractive. She might be embarrassed to be seen on there by people she knows.

I think you should start with funny comments to her posts to rebuild attraction. Very slow, don't overdo it or you will spook her again.
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