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Author:  Checkm4t3 [ Tue Jun 23, 2015 3:59 pm ]
Post subject:  Daygame anxiety is terrible
Guys, I need advice with this.

Nightgame - I can approach, I feel more confident with friends around, I am not silly, I will number close a lot of times, note that even with minimum alcohol

Daygame - I completely suck, I wanna transfer to daygame, because nightgame is very exhausting and expensive and in my opinion doesn't require such a big balls. I also want to meet some girls, who don't like going to clubs regulary etc. But my approaching anxiety is really big during daygame. I tried it just once this year with massive unsuccess - i was really nervous, beta, probably creepy. So any tips? I was reading a lot of tips like talking to grannies etc. But something else is not there?
Author:  Eddie Fews [ Tue Jun 23, 2015 4:08 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Daygame anxiety is terrible
Try this quote:
Quote:
“I will act now. I will act now. I will act now. Henceforth, I will repeat these words each hour, each day, everyday, until the words become as much a habit as my breathing, and the action which follows becomes as instinctive as the blinking of my eyelids. With these words I can condition my mind to perform every action necessary for my success. I will act now. I will repeat these words again and again and again. I will walk where failures fear to walk. I will work when failures seek rest. I will act now for now is all I have. Tomorrow is the day reserved for the labor of the lazy. I am not lazy. Tomorrow is the day when the failure will succeed. I am not a failure. I will act now. Success will not wait. If I delay, success will become wed to another and lost to me forever. This is the time. This is the place. I am the person.”


― Og Mandino
Everything is easier when you have a support system(friends) around, but you only truly get good at this when you can stand completely independent and do it alone. The true test of a mans character is not only what he does when no one is watching; it is what he can do when his friends aren't watching. It must not be done to impress, it must not be done for show, it must be done because this is what you truly want to do. Now if you're going to let weak emotion keep you from doing what you want to do then you may have to question whether or not you actually want this. It certainly isn't for everyone. Is it for you? Only you can answer that, but the anxiety doesn't get that much easier. They say rock stars still get butterflies before going on stage, so how much more applicable is that going to be to approaching women while alone?

You'll either do it or you won't man. There is no easy way out of this. Get over yourself and just get it done.
Author:  Checkm4t3 [ Wed Jun 24, 2015 3:06 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Daygame anxiety is terrible
Quote:
Try this quote:
Quote:
“I will act now. I will act now. I will act now. Henceforth, I will repeat these words each hour, each day, everyday, until the words become as much a habit as my breathing, and the action which follows becomes as instinctive as the blinking of my eyelids. With these words I can condition my mind to perform every action necessary for my success. I will act now. I will repeat these words again and again and again. I will walk where failures fear to walk. I will work when failures seek rest. I will act now for now is all I have. Tomorrow is the day reserved for the labor of the lazy. I am not lazy. Tomorrow is the day when the failure will succeed. I am not a failure. I will act now. Success will not wait. If I delay, success will become wed to another and lost to me forever. This is the time. This is the place. I am the person.”


― Og Mandino
Everything is easier when you have a support system(friends) around, but you only truly get good at this when you can stand completely independent and do it alone. The true test of a mans character is not only what he does when no one is watching; it is what he can do when his friends aren't watching. It must not be done to impress, it must not be done for show, it must be done because this is what you truly want to do. Now if you're going to let weak emotion keep you from doing what you want to do then you may have to question whether or not you actually want this. It certainly isn't for everyone. Is it for you? Only you can answer that, but the anxiety doesn't get that much easier. They say rock stars still get butterflies before going on stage, so how much more applicable is that going to be to approaching women while alone?

You'll either do it or you won't man. There is no easy way out of this. Get over yourself and just get it done.
I have to do it.

Weird thing is that in clubs I can find my balls much more easily and I already had some extremely hot girls, but during daygame I am scared from HB6. It doesn't help too much to think about my previous success and level of hotiness of previous girls, which should. I don't know why I have these insecurities and anxiety during the day. It is really weird. But my goal is to do at least one approach in next 10 days.
Author:  Black Phantom [ Thu Jun 25, 2015 11:08 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Daygame anxiety is terrible
I have couple of videos about daytime approaching, and will be happy to send it to you
if you hit me with a pm.

The way daytime game is different from night gamee is in what I call "Social Permission"

In essence, it's easier to approach women during the night, because it is "socially OK", while
it is somewhat unusual for people to see guys approaching women during the day.

That's why have a lot more fear connected with approaching women during the day.

So here are couple of pointers you can help yourself with:

1) Accept the fact that the approach happens OUTSIDE of your comfort zone

When you're walking down the street and see a stunning girl, I am here to tell you
you'll feel VERY uncomfortable.

But that is just the way it is. There is no way around this. Accept this is a fact, and
don't even try to fight against it. It's the way it is.

2) The way you overcome the fear is by breathing deep into it and working with it

When you feel that uncomfort and like you want to run away from talking with her,
start BREATHING deep into the part of your body where you feel that fear.

Keep breathing deep into it until you become very present and you accept the
reality of fear. You'll also notice slight tingling sensation in your fingers.

3) Throw yourself in the water

It's like jumping into a pool for the first time. You doubt the idea, you second
guess it - but then you just make a decision and say ,"Fuck it, let me just do
it"

A good thing to do is to imagine what will you do AFTER you approach.

For instance, say to yourself, "I'll talk to this girl, and then I'll go buy
myself some ice-cream"

When you do this, the brain can see the ENDING of something, and makes
your fear less powerful.

And also, if you feel your AA is really strong, I invite you to my test group,
where I'm testing an approach anxiety cure technique - and so far it
worked pretty well.

Details in my signature.

Hope this helps, good luck!
Author:  Checkm4t3 [ Fri Jun 26, 2015 10:11 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Daygame anxiety is terrible
thanks for info

I guess the only way is to go out and take action.
Author:  dtrak [ Sun Jun 28, 2015 3:58 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Daygame anxiety is terrible
At first daygame is scary. Just gota keep coming back.

You want to practice in places with alot of girls and high anonimity so no ones cares what you do.

Work on your game. Open - Attract - Hook - ect.

If you get unbearable anxiety then you might want to slow step it and just work on your opening until you feel comfortable.

Just go up tell them you think their cute and say bye, lol. Once you feel ready to actually talk then talk.

Realize is a numbers game. Realize not every girl will be available. But your job is to approach and find out. Theres lots of singles girls out there. Game on !

Keep approaching and working on your game !

Daygame can be fun and rewarding if you hone your skills.
Author:  DrewDating [ Sun Jun 28, 2015 4:43 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Daygame anxiety is terrible
daygame can be harder to get useto because there are less sets in most places and so its harder to desensitize yourself - my advice to you is to do more preopens/warmup sets before you actually start trying
Author:  WillEdward [ Tue Jun 30, 2015 1:54 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Daygame anxiety is terrible
Like anything else, repetition of approaches will desensitize you to them. The more you do them, the easier it will become. Focus on doing rapid successive approaches or pre-opens that last for less than 5 seconds and then move on to the next set. This will help build momentum and you will too focused on the present than thinking about what could go wrong when you do a bunch of approaches one after the other and release outcome dependency because you are only staying for a few seconds.

The different categories of openers from easiest to hardest are: functional, complimentary, situational, direct. Work your way up from functional (like asking for directions), to complimenting something she has put effort into (not her natural looks), then situational then direct.
Author:  Checkm4t3 [ Thu Jul 02, 2015 3:19 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Daygame anxiety is terrible
Well, so I made my first little step (if I am not counting my big fail from february, which led to avoiding day game until now)

I told supermarket girl I really like that I like her new hairstyle... she was smiling and flattered and it made me to feel good. Hope I will progress soon to be daygame killer, cause nightgame is too exhausting for me right now.
Author:  Karlb [ Sat Jul 11, 2015 3:05 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Daygame anxiety is terrible
When you see a woman you're interested in approach within two seconds. Do this before that little voice in your head has a chance to sabotage you from approaching. The most important part of daygame isn't what you say - it's approaching in the first place.
Author:  Checkm4t3 [ Tue Jul 14, 2015 10:16 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Daygame anxiety is terrible
I agree that three second rule is a great thing which I am using in the night often, but during the day, its very hard. I am doing little steps though. Yesterday, I just told one long legged gorgeous girl that she should be more careful about her handbag while talking to gypsy woman (she was talking to her and they tend to pickpocket during that). Well she was like yeah yeah, and checked her handbag and I move my way. Didn't do more. But it is progress :)
Author:  oceanx [ Tue Jul 14, 2015 11:00 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Daygame anxiety is terrible
Talk to the girl like you already know her.
Author:  Reaver4k [ Wed Jul 15, 2015 4:00 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Daygame anxiety is terrible
I find day game abit easyier to appraoch and talk to, usally if you goto book stores or music stores its easier to strike up a conversation.. Even in coffee shops is not to terriable.

NIght game is difficult, because most bars are A) Loud, B)they want to dance(which I suck at, though, if they try to get me to dance i'm going to say "So your one of those girls, who judge's a mans abilitys in the bed room by how well he dances, wonder how many times women have been disopointed:p") C)Its hard to have a meaniful conversation with somone who's piss drunk..
Author:  HugoMoreno [ Thu Jul 16, 2015 6:33 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Daygame anxiety is terrible
It probably has to do with "fear of embarrassment"

Whenever we feel we are being judged, our amygdala kicks in
and pretty much forces the little voices in your head to start doubting yourself
and you start being "creepy" about the whole thing

As soon as you don't care what other people think (easier said than done)
you'll start being "smooth"
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