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| Author: | chi31fan35 [ Fri Mar 20, 2015 2:11 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Is this an Example People Are Qualifying? |
Sometimes people say "that's okay, or that's good, fine, cool, interesting," etc. Are these responses indicating someone has qualified themselves to the other person? |
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| Author: | Dragula [ Fri Mar 20, 2015 2:19 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Is this an Example People Are Qualifying? |
To me, it indicates a lack of effort and they are just filling in the black with a generic response it is a bad thing Wouldn't over think it in terms of qualification |
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| Author: | JackZero [ Fri Mar 20, 2015 3:57 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Is this an Example People Are Qualifying? |
Depends on the context. Give an example of why they're saying these things. |
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| Author: | chi31fan35 [ Fri Mar 20, 2015 6:37 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Is this an Example People Are Qualifying? |
Two Examples: Man tries to bum cigarette from me, I say yes. Him: I never bum cigarettes. This is one of the few times. Me: That's okay. Another time that just happened: My patient, unprompted: Yeah, ever since the SPAM, I've been getting out more, going out to eat more, I feel much better. Me: That's good, etc., etc. |
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| Author: | textytext [ Fri Mar 20, 2015 7:33 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Is this an Example People Are Qualifying? |
dude are you a doctor? qualifying is like demonstrating your value or the other persons value to you. it's validation. http://www.bestpuatraining.com/qualification so it's like if you see a pretty woman and like the conversation you say, "You are good at conversations. I like that." Qualifying yourself depends on the situation. You know someone is into fitness, so maybe you suggest that you just renewed your gym membership. so now you have validation in that persons eyes. these are very simplistic examples just to give you the concept. |
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| Author: | chi31fan35 [ Fri Mar 20, 2015 7:39 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Is this an Example People Are Qualifying? |
No, not a doctor, I am in the medical field. So these are justifications, though, right? I used to take PUA classes and my coach said I was justifying my actions, which was bad, but I am trying to make out what he meant. |
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| Author: | TyrannosaurusSex [ Sat Mar 21, 2015 5:35 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Is this an Example People Are Qualifying? |
Quote: No, not a doctor, I am in the medical field.
I see where he was going with that. Yes, those are justifications. And yes, they are weak. Let me give you a few examples... Weak vs Stronger vs Stronger-er.So these are justifications, though, right? I used to take PUA classes and my coach said I was justifying my actions, which was bad, but I am trying to make out what he meant. --Hi, I just thought you were pretty and wanted to come over here and say hello. (Justifying) --Hi, I wanted to come over here and say hello. (Passive) --Hi. Who are you? (Confident) Now, to absolutely break a PUA rule that's set in stone. Consider the reactions to the following three lines: --Hi. I thought you were pretty, so I wanted to buy you a drink. --Hi. Can I buy you a drink? --Hey. Don't move. I just ordered 3 shots. They're for you, me, and the bartender. In the context of mid-game rapport interactions: --I'm trying to get myself back in shape, so I'm pretty committed to running at least 5 days a week. --I'm trying to run at least 5 days each week. --I run at least 5 days a week. I think your instructor's point was that your mindset should be: Nobody usually asks me to explain things. They just say "Yes sir" and if they don't understand, then they scurry off to find someone else to explain it to them. It's really weird when people stop me and ask me to explain/justify. Think about how an interaction could turn to shit if you told a girl you run 5 days a week and she stops and asks, "Well, why do you do that?" Any answer you give is probably going to be weak. The best answer is probably, "Because that's me. It's what I do." The end. |
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