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| Author: | Bayflu [ Sat Jan 03, 2015 10:42 pm ] |
| Post subject: | How to get a chick among her friends (aproach anxiety) |
Well, I am improving my aproach strategies making practice but I cannot destroy my anxiety while working on a chick in her friends. When I target a chick in her friends, I can not make any strategy or opening. My thinking is puff! Hot can I battle this kind of anxiety? |
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| Author: | tal pergricht [ Sun Jan 04, 2015 1:36 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: How to get a chick among her friends (aproach anxiety) |
hey bayflu, first stop thinking about it as strategies! (: its 2 cool people interacting. 2 ways the girl&group can react, other they accept you or reject you. easy enough. now-they will either think you are awesome for trying and then try to push the girl on you, or will feel so awkward that it will influence the girl so much she wont be able to react to you. for a number 1# you have to try, see the dynamics in the group, how much there vibe is high. how much they are having fun.chances are if they do, they will b more open to new people. if the opposite is true, try to approach the girl as silent as possible, talking only with her and not with the group...moving your body language(and hopefully hers) away from the group. how to improve? well, just get used to that kind of interactions... next time you go out, promise yourself to approach at least 2 girls surrounded by friends! dont go back home until you do. the worst case, she will just go on you...worst case. |
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| Author: | Bayflu [ Sun Jan 04, 2015 8:42 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: How to get a chick among her friends (aproach anxiety) |
Yes, you are right. It is a problem for amateur to thinking about it as a strategy, as in wild nature. When I approach a girl thinking about it as a strategy, I am making feel this and getting raise my anxiety. It is only interaction between two cool people. Thankyee. |
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| Author: | dtrak [ Mon Jan 05, 2015 12:24 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: How to get a chick among her friends (aproach anxiety) |
here's how you get over the fear of approaching a group of girls the step by step process If you never approached groups of girl befor, everything you do should be considered a success You want to practice, just start with small steps, and every set add a little more and a little more until you master it, that is why you must go out and approach alot to get good. 1. Approach target, say hello, how are you or watever you want, if you can do that good. 2. If they respond well and smile(good) then keep talking to the target, if the friends are all paying attention, you want to include them in the conversation(learn how to be a good conversationalist)(ill make a video about that later) so by including them they know you're a cool guy, then you can keep talking to you're girl without the friends getting bored. so yup, thats it. Go in, acknowledge the whole group if they are all paying attention, until they accept you then you can keep talking to your target. So right now, since you have approach anxiety what you want to do is those 2 little small steps. 1.Approach, talk to target 2. Include friends in conversation 3. Do it again and again until you get good at talking to girl/winning over friends/isolating target in a conversation Keep in mind it all happens really quick You go in, hello how are you (to target) Friends are staring (introduce yourself to them) Then keep talking to girl (if friends get entertained with eachother then your okay, if friends are paying attention then talk to them too) keep awareness to whats going on around you So like i said, work on approaching and holding conversations for now. Once you're able to do that then you can worry about seduction. If you dont know how to hold conversations look it up in youtube or just wait for me to drop a vid on that, lol. And just fight through the anxiety, it'll eventually deminish, everyone gets anxiety. Proffessional athletes get anxiety, actors get anxiety, everyone successful gets anxiety, but then they take action and perfect whatever it is they want to do, then they get comfortable and the anxiety slows down, but there will always be anxiety, that means your pushing your boundries and growing as a man. Face those fears and persevere. |
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| Author: | ascend [ Mon Jan 05, 2015 9:23 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: How to get a chick among her friends (aproach anxiety) |
Quote: Well, I am improving my aproach strategies making practice but I cannot destroy my anxiety while working on a chick in her friends. When I target a chick in her friends, I can not make any strategy or opening. My thinking is puff! Hot can I battle this kind of anxiety?
Hey bra, I am having the exact same issue to be honest. I am fine / "okay" approaching single girls. But as soon as there is someone with her or even other people eavesdropping on the conversation my whole concept falls apart.I simply cant think of a way to NOT come off as needy or "attracted" when talking to her. Is there like a guide to transition from an indirect group opener to a "smooth" close? |
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