PUA Forum :: I've lost any game and confidence that I had just a year ago

OK, so I am 17 and I use to be really nervous around girls. But then I got rejected so much, that it stopped bothering me. I was able to gain confidence with women, even though deep inside I wasn't really that confident. Just last year I had sex with a few very attractive girls, and I also was dating a REALLY attractive 19 year old for 6 months. I shit you not, I use to get a lot of praise for it too, because I was just a average looking 16 year old. I had a little bit of acne, but not bad, but I was also a tad bit over weight, but not much. So everything was going great, until I ended up breaking up with that 19 year old last April. Over the summer, and the first few months of school I ended up putting on 35 POUNDS! I went from barley above average to pretty much fat/chunky. I don't have a huge stomach that protrudes out, but I have a very chunky face that I am super self conscience about.

Because of this I have lost all my self confidence, and I haven't been with an attractive girl since like July. Its driving me insane, I mean I am also trying to lose weight so I can gain that confidence back but I also want to be able to get girls at my current weight. All I can think about when I want to approach a girl is "oh, I'm to big now I can't get her". And this really sucks, especially after my success with woman a year ago.

This is my first post on this site, but I desperately need help. Thanks!

Author:	BlaZeN37 [ Thu Mar 13, 2008 10:34 pm ]
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OK, so I am 17 and I use to be really nervous around girls. But then I got rejected so much, that it stopped bothering me. I was able to gain confidence with women, even though deep inside I wasn't really that confident. Just last year I had sex with a few very attractive girls, and I also was dating a REALLY attractive 19 year old for 6 months. I shit you not, I use to get a lot of praise for it too, because I was just a average looking 16 year old. I had a little bit of acne, but not bad, but I was also a tad bit over weight, but not much. So everything was going great, until I ended up breaking up with that 19 year old last April. Over the summer, and the first few months of school I ended up putting on 35 POUNDS! I went from barley above average to pretty much fat/chunky. I don't have a huge stomach that protrudes out, but I have a very chunky face that I am super self conscience about. Because of this I have lost all my self confidence, and I haven't been with an attractive girl since like July. Its driving me insane, I mean I am also trying to lose weight so I can gain that confidence back but I also want to be able to get girls at my current weight. All I can think about when I want to approach a girl is "oh, I'm to big now I can't get her". And this really sucks, especially after my success with woman a year ago. This is my first post on this site, but I desperately need help. Thanks!

Author:	Mr. Amador [ Fri Mar 14, 2008 12:25 am ]
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Quote: This is my first post on this site, but I desperately need help. Thanks! Read the game, the venusian artist handbook, double your dating by deangelo, jugglers ebook......when you read those books you will see a path out of your despair. If you dont like reading......well you got a problem there. Besides there are really long threads, so you better start reading

Author:	Chiggs [ Fri Mar 14, 2008 2:25 am ]
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any-given-sunday-speech-vt3936.html I was in your same position until that post. I had the video converted to an .mp3 and every morning the first thing i do is listen to it. Read the post, live it for just a day, and see what happens. PM me if you want the link the the .mp3, by the way

Author:	SoCalFamous [ Fri Mar 14, 2008 7:40 pm ]
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Work out, you could either do two things: Burn Calories: by running, swimming... anything cardiovascular (you'll lose weight faster) or Weight Lifting: self-explained. you'll put on muscle, I personnally don't like to look too buff, I'd rather be cut up and have a six pack. Eat healthy. From your current state and until you look the way you want, your confidence will bust through the roof. I was super skinny, I did light weight exercises (but heavier on my arms and chest) now I'm cocky as f***. Or just game her, work on your game and you won't need a body.

Author:	BlaZeN37 [ Sat Mar 15, 2008 2:36 am ]
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I do plan on getting back to my original weight, but until there how do I raise my confidence to approach women?

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Author:	slyasian88 [ Sat Mar 15, 2008 2:41 am ]
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Start getting to the gym immediately. Your confidence will go hand in hand with your weight. Fuck women. Literally. Let's get on it.

Author:	BlaZeN37 [ Sat Mar 15, 2008 7:43 pm ]
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Quote: any-given-sunday-speech-vt3936.html I was in your same position until that post. I had the video converted to an .mp3 and every morning the first thing i do is listen to it. Read the post, live it for just a day, and see what happens. PM me if you want the link the the .mp3, by the way It wont let me PM you... But I would love the MP3 of that speech!

Author:	tyhj [ Wed Mar 19, 2008 1:55 am ]
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lose weight thats it!! also pm or look at my post called importsant information in "sarging techniques" category

Author:	Fusion [ Mon Jul 07, 2008 4:34 pm ]
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I think my friend that your going to have to forget about yourself gaming women for a while. Now I don't mean this badly mate, just bear with me. You are going to have to get to the point in your life where you concentrate on anything that will improve yourself!! There is nothing like learning new things about yourself and pushing yourself to the limits, if only to find your comfort zone with which you'll be able to refocus on your game. Its such an important lesson that I myself had to learn the hard way, that no amount of talking will make things happen, you just have to take a look at yourself and go fuck it, im going to change for the better, not for social status, not for girls, but for yourself!!! I'm sure you'll get back to the point where you were the man!!! Just take this all as a lesson!!! Good luck mate

Author:	rott [ Tue Jul 08, 2008 2:48 am ]
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You just need to stop wanting it so badly. Just go out, hang out with friends, have fun, get comfortable with yourself and everything will fall in place. You're that young, no need to stress about shit.

Author:	Fusion [ Tue Jul 08, 2008 1:24 pm ]
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Quote: You just need to stop wanting it so badly. Just go out, hang out with friends, have fun, get comfortable with yourself and everything will fall in place. You're that young, no need to stress about shit. Yeah thats one of the most important things about PUA. If its not fun why the hell do it!!! If you take it too seriously and get stressed out bout it, it will show in your body language and fuck up your game more, making you more miserable. When your having fun and a good time, others pick up on that energy and vibe!!

Author:	findra [ Tue Jul 08, 2008 3:02 pm ]
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Quote: OK, so I am 17 and I use to be really nervous around girls. But then I got rejected so much, that it stopped bothering me. I was able to gain confidence with women, even though deep inside I wasn't really that confident. Just last year I had sex with a few very attractive girls, and I also was dating a REALLY attractive 19 year old for 6 months. I shit you not, I use to get a lot of praise for it too, because I was just a average looking 16 year old. I had a little bit of acne, but not bad, but I was also a tad bit over weight, but not much. So everything was going great, until I ended up breaking up with that 19 year old last April. Over the summer, and the first few months of school I ended up putting on 35 POUNDS! I went from barley above average to pretty much fat/chunky. I don't have a huge stomach that protrudes out, but I have a very chunky face that I am super self conscience about. Because of this I have lost all my self confidence, and I haven't been with an attractive girl since like July. Its driving me insane, I mean I am also trying to lose weight so I can gain that confidence back but I also want to be able to get girls at my current weight. All I can think about when I want to approach a girl is "oh, I'm to big now I can't get her". And this really sucks, especially after my success with woman a year ago. This is my first post on this site, but I desperately need help. Thanks! Some good wisdom has been already imparted to you there. Basically, a mixture of : Physical weight loss & Learning good game techniques. Your very young so theres no need to get bogged down too heavily in seduction stuff but a few of the basics will do you good. How to be an alpha male by John Alexander,The Way of the Superior man by David Deida and How to succeed with women by Ron Louis will fill you in on all the basics and should give you a great platform for a wonderful, exciting life with women. Regarding the weight loss, eat a sensible, stable diet, lose the junk food and alternate between cardio (running, cycling etc) and some weight lifting. Also (and this tends to be a controversial topic around here!), stop or cut down on the masturbation as this definitely seems to have a retarding influence on metabolism and confidence (many here will disagree with that though!) Also, you may still be very upset about your breakup and that may be contributing to your recent dough-boy phase. If so, dont worry as your heart will heal. Just give it time

Author:	Tekken [ Tue Jul 15, 2008 12:58 am ]
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Yeah Blaze, listen to everyone. When woman see a fat guy walking down the road and he looks/feels particular UNCONFIDENT like you say you do, they just laugh and pity him. Simple as that. I'm imagining you've seen 'The Pick Up Artist' TV show on VH1. Look at the fat guy. (No offense to any overweight PUA's) but he couldn't number close a single time! He was cool and friendly, but because of his weight, every girl seen him as a potential new friend and not a potential new fucker. Here's the thing though. If you lose your weight, you WILL feel more confident and girls will look at you and think 'damn. he knows how to take care of himself. He looks strong!' but if you're overweight, they will think 'uhh... He cant even take care of his self, whut chance has he got taking care of me?' See whut I mean? You're just a beginner, being overweight is a massive disadvantage immediately. However, if you're a PRO PUA, then, nothing matters. Looks do not matter at all. So what I say is, go to the gym, lose that weight, then practise your game! Once you're good, either let yourself loose and continue gaming with your skill. Or, stay in shape and continue gaming with skill and looks Your choice. Hope you read this.

Author:	Mysterious-Mind [ Wed Jul 16, 2008 4:01 pm ]
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Heya BlaZeN37! I used to be a little over weight and it fecked up my confidence BIG time. Few friends of mine had bodies like models (flat out six packs, strong shoulders etc) and their girlfriends were so bloody hot it really depressed me. I sat myself down and thought to myself, "I can continue being the way I am, or I get the f**k off my backside and I workout like a real man". With a lot of help from friends and determination, within a matter of months I lost the fat on the belly, built up a six pack and now in excellent shape. If I can do this, so can you. I found that working out boosted my confidence sooo much that it helped me a lot in day/night gaming, especially club gaming where body shape kind of matters when hitting the dance floor. Don't dwell on what has happened, just work on it my friend, because anyone can do what they want if they put their mind to it!

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Author:	Marcus87 [ Fri Jul 18, 2008 1:02 pm ]
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blaze u need 2 firs gain comfort within yourself before u can even start gaming women again... once your comfortable with yourself you will eventually b able to sarge with ease and that confidence will conveyed to everyone....