So... I often find myself in tough situations;
A few weeks ago I went out on a date with a girl I met online, only to sit around in front of the door girl (person at front that seats you at the restaurant) who was an 8+. Of course my date was only about a 4. I chatted the 8 up a little before my date arrived, but of course I didn't want to blow myself out in case my date was actually hot. I thought about trying to pick the 8 up after eating, but I said screw it. Should I go back? I have no problems coming up with stuff to say.
Yesterday I went out with a girl I know from work, and I chatted up again another door girl (7) a little before my friend got there. I got us a table and sat down. While eating, the 7 passed several times. We had eye sex every damn time she passed my table. Unfortunately, I ordered one glass of wine and since I never drink, I ended up a little tipsy. On top of that I was tired, so my mojo was just in the dumps. On the way out I just said "Have a good night" to the door girl. My mental state was so poor I wasn't able to come up with anything else ... I have an easy in with her if I go back; "I enjoyed our staring contest yesterday and was wondering if we could continue elsewhere..."
There are many logistical issues in these door girls (like customers, they have to work, etc) it makes it hard to demonstrate enough value, because you have to invest at least a good 5 minutes and the chances of interruption are high.
If I were a better PUA, I would obviously not let these opportunities pass. But in both scenarios I'm doing something else (eating/date) and my mojo was low and I tell myself forget it. Does anyone have recommendations or frequently do second pass approaches? I know PUA science says approach sooner .... but my experience tells me second passes can be done.
