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Author:  RunTheNumbers [ Sat Jun 14, 2014 11:52 pm ]
Post subject:  Approach Anxiety Cure
Hey guys,

I had a bit of AA and I found that it really helped when I opened sets with 3-6's, big girls, or anybody else I wouldn't really sleep with. It's been getting my game up, those girls are happy that someone is talking to them and not just their cuter friends, sometimes I talk to the cuter friends too - everybody wins!
Author:  overworm [ Mon Jun 16, 2014 5:35 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Approach Anxiety Cure
That's a good approach on your AA issue. And that's a good idea too in order to build confidence. I also suffer anxiety when it comes to approaching people but it has nothing to do with approaching girls, I don't get the fear that a beautiful girl is infront of me but rather I face the fear of the fact that I need to engage a conversation and keep it going whether I'm talking to a guy or a girl. I don't shrink in my pants or look away shyly when a HB look at me, I can hold eye contact and smile when needed and the first impression of me is very Alpha but the conversation part needs huge HUGE improvement. I envy you guys, really.
Author:  RunTheNumbers [ Mon Jun 16, 2014 7:56 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Approach Anxiety Cure
A lot of people will bring up the "3 second rule", where you try to approach someone right away when you see them - and this makes it seem more natural and less like you planned it - but it is hard when you're starting.

If you have trouble starting conversations with any people, maybe you could just have a question in mind or something to get things going before you walk up. Not something really canned, maybe just like "hey, do you know who's playing in the next game after this one?" or something like that.

World cup season is a good time to practice because lots of people will be in bars, in a good mood, happy to talk about their favorite teams, etc. Get out there and try it!
Author:  Mastermind9000 [ Mon Jun 16, 2014 8:51 pm ]
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Talking to dudes and fatties is a good warmup for the night, but approaching HBs is the only way to practice approaching HBs.

Approach them 5 at a time at Starbucks, fry like an egg, and be ok with it. After a few times like that you won't know what you were afraid of.
Author:  Johnny Sparks [ Mon Jun 16, 2014 9:06 pm ]
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I think one of the best ways to help with AA is to have a bag full of canned material / topics / routines (copied or original) you know by heart, that you practiced in front of the mirror while paying close attention to your body language and vocal projection that you can fall back on. It might feel weird doing it, but I promise you it's gonna take loads of Anxiety of when you approach woman, being satisfied by the way you performed in the mirror.

I heard a great pua say once that you should be doing most of the talking during the first few minutes of opening a girl, using that time to demonstrate HV, and a fun, exciting personality. - That means being ready with a bag of conversation topics before you approach. I even recall Style, in his book, the game, doing the exact same thing rehearsing openers and other routines as he did his research.

I'm no PUA but this is my strategy now to get over my AA
Author:  IsraeliDude [ Mon Jun 16, 2014 10:53 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Approach Anxiety Cure
I agree with Johnny Sparks, having a couple of practiced stories and openers can really help.
But i think the real secret is in the mindset, if you believe you have a lot of value to offer and truly feel that the girls are lucky to be interacting with you, everything will fall into place.

Your body language, your wording, smile and overall vibe is really effected by how you feel no matter how many times you practice in-front of the mirror.

I also noticed for my self personally that you lose your game (basically confidence) if you don't practice often and focus on your social side. I was dating a girl for almost 3 years and now i am back in the field basically starting over with a lot of limiting beliefs i got rid of before.

One sweet advice i can give you all, even when you found a girl you decide to go steady with, don't get comfortable. Keep approaching, keep talking, workout and focus on yourself even more.
Author:  Jay (Majik) [ Tue Jun 17, 2014 12:29 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Approach Anxiety Cure
Best way to get over it is keep doing it until you wake up one day and you FINALLY realize "HOLY SHIT! I TALKED TO GIRLS AND I'M STILL ALIVE!!"

It's not going to kill you. Approach Anxiety is a made up term people use to identify with so they feel better about their problem. Just man the fuck up.
Author:  BrandonMarshall [ Sat Jun 21, 2014 3:15 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Approach Anxiety Cure
Quote:
Hey guys,

I had a bit of AA and I found that it really helped when I opened sets with 3-6's, big girls, or anybody else I wouldn't really sleep with. It's been getting my game up, those girls are happy that someone is talking to them and not just their cuter friends, sometimes I talk to the cuter friends too - everybody wins!

Work on complimenting beautiful women without any expectation of getting their number. you'll learn the hotter women are usually more pleasant than the ugly ones ;-)


Also to make approaching beautiful women easier become picky... try to find a flaw about her that sticks out. Maybe she's wearing a lot of makeup... just one little flaw, that will show you that she has her imperfections as well.
Author:  gingerguy [ Sat Jun 21, 2014 4:44 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Approach Anxiety Cure
My opinion is that the best cure for that fear is simply getting blown out. Once you get blown out once or twice, you're going to lose a lot of fear.

My biggest game turning point was when I approached four girls in one night and got blown out all four times. Approaching became so much easier for me after that. The worst had happened, and the worst wasn't bad. I was still alive and I had all my limbs.
Author:  Freddo [ Tue Jul 08, 2014 2:41 pm ]
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Quote:
My opinion is that the best cure for that fear is simply getting blown out. Once you get blown out once or twice, you're going to lose a lot of fear.

My biggest game turning point was when I approached four girls in one night and got blown out all four times. Approaching became so much easier for me after that. The worst had happened, and the worst wasn't bad. I was still alive and I had all my limbs.
This makes sense. Whats the strategy for getting blown out? Just walk up to them and start insulting all of them? Seriously....
Author:  NaughtyNapoleon [ Wed Jul 09, 2014 2:39 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Approach Anxiety Cure
Quote:
Hey guys,

I had a bit of AA and I found that it really helped when I opened sets with 3-6's, big girls, or anybody else I wouldn't really sleep with. It's been getting my game up, those girls are happy that someone is talking to them and not just their cuter friends, sometimes I talk to the cuter friends too - everybody wins!

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