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| Author: | Grand_Pua [ Fri Mar 14, 2014 7:18 pm ] |
| Post subject: | 2nd Approach Shy and Anxious. What Happened? |
Hello every, I am new to these forums but have been studying pick up for about a month and a half now. I kind of ran into a bit of a problem earlier today. Before I get into that let me explain how I got there so that you can get a better idea of whats going on. About a week ago I stumbled across the simple pick up videos on youtube and started to watch them. I couldn't believe how easy it was to approach women. I thought to myself if you just take on the task head on no matter what you will be successful, even if you get rejected. Making an effort to get laid only increases your chances of getting laid after all. I go to a decently sized university so I decide to approach there typically to kill 2 birds with one stone (go to class and get women). So first I was approaching guys (non-sexually) just to get warmed up and used to talking to people. I have been really shut off and I used this as a way to open up a little bit before talking to girls. So I opened this nice guy I met named ali. Right after I was heading home, waiting for the bus and there was this cute girl singing to music she was listening to. I opened her, number closed just to see if I could. It was effortless. I really wasn't letting my mind get in the way of making myself known to her and getting her number. Lets fast forward to yesterday. I figured why not try my routine again since I had such success last time. I start talking to this one guy and it turns into a shady conversation. My feet started moving without me thinking because my mind and body sensed this situation was getting really awkward. Next I open another guy and start asking him directions. By the end I forgot to ask him his name and totally flaked on establishing rapport with him like I did with my buddy ali. Anyways I figured meh, might as well go see if there were any females around. I was eyeing this one girl who was staring right back at me. She walks past me and I go to say hi and nothing comes out. He keep walking. I turn around to walk after her and my body just freezes. I start to get caught up in my own head. Don't follow her that's creepy. Even today I was at the post office. A woman and I were making casual eye contact. And I was thinking about opening her but just backed down. I think I am living too much in my head lately, especially after yesterday. Thinking about it now its almost seeming more like a chore than it is fun. Idk fellas, what do you think is wrong with me? Why was I able to number close and now I cant approach another cute girl or just have a simple conversation with another guy? How do I make it fun again for myself? |
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| Author: | glam1990 [ Fri Mar 14, 2014 9:23 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: 2nd Approach Shy and Anxious. What Happened? |
It is all about being in the right mood, known as ''state" in PU terms. I can give u one advice: OPEN OPEN OPEN when u go out. This way you screw the comfort zone--> your state will rise naturally set per set, and at the end you will feel like flying |
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| Author: | Grand_Pua [ Sat Mar 15, 2014 1:05 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: 2nd Approach Shy and Anxious. What Happened? |
Quote: It is all about being in the right mood, known as ''state" in PU terms.
I totally understand Glam. I'm just going to have fun with it and see how that goes. Thanks a lot!I can give u one advice: OPEN OPEN OPEN when u go out. This way you screw the comfort zone--> your state will rise naturally set per set, and at the end you will feel like flying GPUA |
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| Author: | H-Two-O [ Sun Mar 16, 2014 6:19 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: 2nd Approach Shy and Anxious. What Happened? |
Yes being in the "mood" is a big factor bro. But unlike other responses (which were very good responses too) I will tell you what is wrong with you. What is wrong with you my dear is that you are judging your self and thinking about the last encounters and assessing them blah bla blah.. There MUST come sometimes where it wont work. Maybe the girl wasnt in the mood either perhaps she wants to go to the toilet or perhaps she has a boyfriend and she doesnt even want to say "Hi" to other boys..etc.. When I was in Thailand for a boxing camp the coach told me that I need not to be angry or pissed off and that I need to relax and take it easy so that I can perform better and learn more. That advice was for BOXING (Thai-Boxing)!! So what would you say for the seduction game?!! So just relax and enjoy and do what you like and do not over judge your self..Everytime you approach or ask a girl out just tap your self on the shoulder regardless of the outcome you had. Cheers |
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