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| Author: | Noitartst [ Thu Feb 20, 2014 9:55 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Finding a Congruent Opening Style |
I've aspergers, am quite cerebral, am not interested in being especially crass, and am learning opening via daygame. There any PUA's style that fits me at all? Also, most of the approaches involved asking about the Seahawks (I live in Washington State) or about beards (I have one). Frankly, I'm desirous for newer material, not the least because I've been opening in just one venue, a community college, and am trying to avoid being pegged as bizarre, or creepy. I'm interested in observational openers, and had a bit of success, doing so. In one case, I commented on a girl's glasses, and got slight mirth expressed, and in another, I noticed a girl at a librarian's desk mussing her hair with her left hand, jested about it, and basically got thanked for noticing it. I'm not interested in parlor tricks, really, but wouldn't mind learning a few routines, while I'm at it; where would I learn them? It's a broad category, but some must suit me, surely. Also, when a girl starts showing IOIs right at the beginning of an open, or I open after she's showing IOIs, I should be more direct, yes? If so, how much, not the least for congruency, and also for getting numbers, as opposed to make-outs? |
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| Author: | r0cky [ Fri Feb 21, 2014 3:38 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Finding a Congruent Opening Style |
1. You best openers usually happen when you dont think about them. It doesnt make sense but try it first. 2. The best way i've seen it work is going indirect and then if she seems welcoming go direct. "actually the real reason i came over is because... ". I recommend you watch Justin Wayne's videos on youtube. |
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| Author: | Noitartst [ Sat Feb 22, 2014 12:48 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Finding a Congruent Opening Style |
Ah, so the opener is just to see if she invites, and then kino escalate, in a nutshell? In my limited experience of extended interactions, that sounds about right. Oh, and I'm starting to see what it's said about how openers are overrated, long as you do it Just met an 8 girl today that probably displayed my best game yet, though I didn't get her number. Thing is, I don't yet understand how some very direct signs of interest worked, yet integrating it with the "attract, qualify, comfort," sequence. She reacted well overall to my physical touch, but I couldn't attain enough confidence in her responses to ask for her number. She was wuite willing to qualify herself in conversation, but there wasn't as much tension as there could be, and was afraid to add it, and thus I left. Thoughts? |
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| Author: | Celly14 [ Sun Feb 23, 2014 12:30 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Finding a Congruent Opening Style |
As far as number closing, provided you've set yourself a time constraint and she's already qualified herself, I find that; "I'm really sorry, I have to leave for reason XYZ but I'd really like to do this again" Then offer her your phone on a new contact page, making it easy. It's worked for me! |
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| Author: | Noitartst [ Tue Feb 25, 2014 12:57 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Finding a Congruent Opening Style |
Quote: As far as number closing, provided you've set yourself a time constraint and she's already qualified herself, I find that;
Makes sense; I've thought about it, and think it makes more sense than any, uh, number of other approaches. "I'm really sorry, I have to leave for reason XYZ but I'd really like to do this again" Then offer her your phone on a new contact page, making it easy. It's worked for me! It makes the most sense to me, but I'd like to know the reasons why other are preferred, just for the sake of examining all options. |
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