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Author:	The Asian Don [ Sat Mar 23, 2013 10:01 am ]
Post subject:	How to approach a girl I've spoken to before(Please help)
This is SERIOUSLY frustrating me....last year in university(in London) me and this girl use to give each other the eyes. Eventually she approached me with her friend in the library. For some stupid bloody reason I became SUPER bloody nervous!!!! I was shaking while we spoke it was soooo damn embarassing. Because of that embarassing meeting I didn't have the balls to go approach her again. But regardless, after that she still showed signs of interest in me. Looking at me a lot, trying to get my attention, trying to act cute when I'm around. I couldn't build up the courage to go speak to her last year, so when we broke up for the summer holidays I decided to start going to the gym and start reading about PUA(YEP, she was the reason I started learning pua lol) I wanted to be ready for when I returned to university. It's now nearly the end of my second year of university and NOTHING HAS HAPPENED!!!!! I'm so pissed off at myself but I just don't know how to bloody approach and there's hardly any chances to do so!! She still shows signs of interest although obviously not as much as before, shes probably thinking to herself "meh, this guy is never gonna approach me...." How can I approach her?! I only ever see her in the library, most of the time with her friends. Yesterday I saw her at the train station, but I was scared to approach(and had no clue how!) It might be a bit weird and look like I'm stalking her. And there's also the dilemma of "should I sit with her on the train?" since we were getting on the same train. In about 2 months time she will be graduating and I'll never see her ever again.....(I'm not graduating yet) Please help me out guys....I don't know what to do. You guys always so "Just go up to her and speak to her!" This is true if it was a cold approach but it's not since we've already spoken before and it ended on awkward terms and were clearly aware of each other. I'm on the verge of giving up on her and this Pua thing, I've achieved nothing since learning it(my fault) and there's no way I can ever afford a bootcamp and I also hate clubbing... I need to help myself, but I don't know how...

Author:	jamesd31 [ Sat Mar 23, 2013 3:11 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: How to approach a girl I've spoken to before(Please help
She did the hard part for you almost two years ago - which is a big IOI. You've been learning PUA tactics, have you ever used them? Like not on her, but in general, ever? If not, go to a club, break that nervousness of opening and during conversation. You need to burn a few times in order for you to not give a single shit anymore and for your game to only improve. I would open with some rapport on this situation, since it isn't really a cold-open (you know each other). Talk about her graduating or some similarity between you two. In regards to the library, you can just spark up a conversation about her being in the library so much (it is college, most students who want to do good do go to the library) but try to figure out from there if she goes out. If she does, then make way to getting her number so then you can "be amazed when you text me and you do not have a book in your face." On the train I would defiantly open her, she is alone probably, or at least less friends, so less pressure on that part. This will give you some alone time to game even more on a personal level. I would sit down next to her and be like "OMG YOU AGAIN?!" and flip the whole "stalking" thing on her. Remember in PUA life, YOU are the prize, and she is lucky to have even talked to you in the first place. Though, honestly, I would go out to the pubs/bars/nightclubs quickly every weekend or whenever and just open random sets, work on just opening and being confident. You have to learn to do this without being drunk as well, so do not drink so much, a beer if you need it to begin.

Author:	Havoc2012 [ Sun Mar 24, 2013 1:16 am ]
Post subject:	Re: How to approach a girl I've spoken to before(Please help
First of all, I think you should consider why you are doing PUA. Is it just to get this one girl? Honestly think to yourself whether you are just having what we call in the community "one-itis", or in layman's terms when you obsess over a girl for a long time that you are basically tricked into having much stronger feelings than you actually do. If you never had a truly deep intimate convo with her, never chatted her up properly or kissed etc., odds are she is just attracted to you and you are infatuated with her. Remember she has definitely been seeing other guys as well so while you may not have done anything with any other girl and fixated on her, its almost certainly not the case. My advice? Game her to break your taboo, see her till she graduates while at the same time playing the field. Then when she leaves you will have shed your cocoon of shyness and awkwardness. Probably even better is to try once, and if it fucks up then forget about her. Absolutely do not get into a relationship at this point with this girl because you need to get rid of shyness and anxiety from women in general and you won't do that from the comfort zone of being with just one girl.

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