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Author:  fila [ Tue Jan 15, 2013 5:17 am ]
Post subject:  300 approaches, nothing
Hey guys,

I cant get laid. No matter what I do I just cant get laid. I have probably done about 300 approaches incl daygame/night and nothing. I live in CT and the girls here are not friendly.

Im a young, good looking guy (6ft tall) and sociable. My friend said its really hard to get laid in New England b/c the girls here have major attitudes and overall not very friendly.

Im thinking about moving to the southern part of US or somewhere internationally (europe, etc)

what are your thoughts on this????
Author:  Seduce [ Tue Jan 15, 2013 5:36 am ]
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do you ever see babies in your town?

if your answer is yes, i guess people get layed in yout area also
Author:  Great-1 [ Tue Jan 15, 2013 5:58 am ]
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david D once said, "work on your inner game and the rest will follow"
Your gonna be good at this its just gonna take a little work don't give up yet! :)
You don't have a belief that you can get girls in your area, that they want to be swept off their feet, taken to a bedroom and made to be women.

Look, guys pickup and fuck girls all the time in your area. Most of these guys are AFCs. YOU HAVE THE ADVANTAGE. Those girls don't wear those tight outfits to not be approached and fucked. In fact they want to be approached but first you gotta work on your belief system. No woman wakes up in the morning and says "gee today I DONT WANT a man to sweep me off my feet and give me the fucking of a life time". Naaa a woman wakes up wishing for that very thing from a husband, bf, stranger, or just someone. If you don't believe that your "that guy" whose gonna get the job done she'll smell the incongruency and you'll blow out....every...single...time! Be confident and believe that you can pick-up and then you WILL pick up its that simple. For now work on your inner beliefs and your approach to the game, its probably just a few small errors

you can do it bro, trust me it can be done
Author:  puaninja [ Tue Jan 15, 2013 12:18 pm ]
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Lower your standards. Try to improve your looks and your game in general. Eventually you will get positive results.
Author:  stevejabba [ Tue Jan 15, 2013 3:37 pm ]
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For a start, you can expect any constructive feedback because there is nothing to base it on.

1:/ Post some representative pics
2:/ Get someone to Video you approaching and post it up.
3:/ More context and information is needed specifically on your belief systems and level of experience (NOTE not the number of "sets" you've approached, the number of women you've actually railed.
4:/ Try reading this: http://www.authenticpua.com/dating-arti ... s-of-game/
Author:  anonymous man [ Tue Jan 15, 2013 7:04 pm ]
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Quote:
do you ever see babies in your town?

if your answer is yes, i guess people get layed in yout area also
I got to england one day and i'm sure i've seen babies :o
Author:  worldrunner [ Wed Jan 16, 2013 10:59 am ]
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PU is a little bit like working out...

You should do it because you enjoy doing it.
If you are doing it to get some specific results, you'll get frustrated.

Getting laid are some of the side effects you might get after a long time of doing PU.
Author:  fila [ Fri Jan 18, 2013 6:38 am ]
Post subject:  Re: 300 approaches, nothing
No bs, I have done 300 legitimate approaches. Every style and method you can think of. Nothing has come from this.

Im thinking about moving to Japan, China, or Eastern Europe (russia, romania, etc) where a tall, attractive white male will be of more value to females.

Too many females in northeast, us have attitude. I know of several puas in my area and no one is having success.

If anyone has lived/lives in these areas please let me know.

All advice appreciated.
Author:  AFC AzA [ Fri Jan 18, 2013 7:00 am ]
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one day... one night everything will click... you just gotta hang in there.

watch real social dynamic videos... especially Owen Cook aka tyler durden. also Julien's video are really good too.
Author:  SuperSajin [ Sat Jan 19, 2013 9:01 pm ]
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Quote:
No bs, I have done 300 legitimate approaches. Every style and method you can think of. Nothing has come from this.

Im thinking about moving to Japan, China, or Eastern Europe (russia, romania, etc) where a tall, attractive white male will be of more value to females.

Too many females in northeast, us have attitude. I know of several puas in my area and no one is having success.

If anyone has lived/lives in these areas please let me know.

All advice appreciated.
are you already from east europe background to begin with? New England women hate east europe guys, they tend to go for blonde hair blue eyed no accent type guys. If you have dark hair you might as well forget it they will block you out immediately because they will stereotype you as suspicious just because you are not some joe apple pie who likes watching football and baseball and all that american crap. If you are ethnic though you might achieve a certain level of success with approaching HB's of your respective ethnicity, but white girls tend to be racist towards other ethnicities.
Author:  Heartnet [ Sat Jan 19, 2013 9:19 pm ]
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300 approaches is about less then a month of gaming...
remove the ones that you didnt open properly because you scared them off.
remove the ones that you didnt hook, conversation last 30 sec.
then remove the ones that you talk less then 2 minutes because you dont know what to say.

That not even more then a 100 proper sets.
And you expect to get result as a beginner??

I bet you didnt talk to a stranger for only 30 minutes every day.
If you do that not need to do it with hot girls just average people. (grandma, kids or sellsladies)
You wont be complaining on a forum that you cant get result.

And yes pickup is hard, if its fucking easy. I.E got easy lays after 300 approach from a total newbie with no great social background knowledge. we would be like gay dudes, having over 50 partners every year.
Author:  Heartnet [ Sat Jan 19, 2013 9:45 pm ]
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If you want some stats

Here is some from Gunwitch, pro that has been doing it for 15 years.
Quote:
Not in field for 2 months:

Say 20 approaches, bad weekend trying to get a lay, no numbers (I usually don't work for numbers),

Rejected on opener: 1
Rejected right post opener: 10
Rejected In conversation:3
Cockblocked beyond prevention/chaos:3 (less daygame)
Rejected on venue change close: 3
I fuck up/eject when I shouldn't have: 2
Full approach to lay: 1
Author:  spacemonkey [ Mon Jan 21, 2013 10:47 am ]
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Quote:
one day... one night everything will click... you just gotta hang in there.

watch real social dynamic videos... especially Owen Cook aka tyler durden. also Julien's video are really good too.
I find those guys highly suspicious.
The very small amount of infield footage they show just shows them hitting on girls who look so drunk they can barely string a sentence together.
Even when they tried to prove a point of how daygame is the same as nightgame, the girls in their daygame footage also looked very drunk.
Author:  ZodiacX_X [ Mon Jan 21, 2013 4:12 pm ]
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I don't mean to be a dick, but I'm in Atl and have spent a lot of time around the country including the New England area, what makes you think it's any easier down here? First off, the south east is and always had been very strong in it's own set of values. I do not partake in these values of course. I hate the south lol, but my point is that unless you love country music, rodeos, and sweet potatoes, what's left is EXACTLY the same as NE. The best bang for your buck is going to be the mid west around farms. I have a friend from Alden, IA....it's like a god damn turkey shoot in areas like that (his wedding was like...fucking awesome because of it haha).

This sounds more to me like you're getting down on yourself and getting discouraged rather than focusing on what you need to fix to get it to work for you. Part of the problem with the entire pick up community is that people will read something and assume it works, word for word like it is written, for everybody. That's simply not true. You're going to have to figure out your way of doing things. Tweaking other people's game to find your style is an important aspect of it. It's like taking leadership traits from a mentor.

I say don't get discouraged. And the 300 you used, I would take a close look at them, get in front of a mirror wearing whatever the hell it is that you want to wear when you're out trying to feast on the smorgasbord of vagina in the world, and run them on yourself. Don't psych yourself out, but DO try and pay attention to your body language while you're doing it to help you better understand what's going on.
Author:  GGplayer [ Mon Jan 21, 2013 4:22 pm ]
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After 300 approaches with no results, I'd be pretty frusterated to haha.

If you really are approaching women that often, and seeing absolutely no results then you have to be screwing up BIG TIME because statistically you should have gotten lucky by now.

My suggestion would be to walk yourself through all of the steps of a pick-up and see if there is one area where you consistently fail.

Are you regularly complimented on how you dress? If not, you probably don't make a good initial impression

Do women respond well consistently to your openers? If not, get some new openers and work on your body language.

Can you keep sets engaged for more than 5 minutes? If not, work on making yourself more interesting and sociable, and memorize some good routines in the meantime.

It's a linear process, and if you can't execute each step well consistently, you won't get consistent results

Also, work on your inner game. I'm from Boston originally and now live in Eastern North Carolina, and the girls in both places are equally as horny so that is definitely not your problem.
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