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| Author: | chakara [ Sun Jan 13, 2013 10:11 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Should I Make A Move On Her? |
I answer relationship questions for a living, and I thought that I would post some of the questions I receive from my clients, here on pick-up-artist-forum, just to see how divers the advice would be coming from the PUA community. So please leave some feedback. Question: There's this beautiful girl I noticed at a music festival last September. I could tell just by looking that she's pretty young but I couldn't help ogling and hoping. I'm an extremely shy guy so I didn't approach her. But we saw each other a few times around town; she's always with her older sister. I believe the older sister caught me staring at my crush in a shop one day because she came to talk to me, said that they've been seeing me too around town and she introduced me to my crush. I acted like a tongue-tied freak. It was all very humiliating. Earlier this week, I was in a café outside my workplace when my crush and her sister walked in. I didn't want to go over just in case I had already severed my chances with my display last time. To my shock, my crush came over to me. She remembered my name but didn't really seem to have anything to say which encouraged me to make conversation. Long story short, she told me she's just starting a law degree in Feb this year. I studied the same thing which made for even more of a connection. I'm thinking that the oldest she can be is 19 and that’s pushing it with her looks. I tried to get her age out of her indirectly with no luck. I think she might be into me seeing as she came up to me and smiled the whole time, as did I. She even told me she's having troubling settling, being new in town and being a shy girl. Anyway, I was a little intimidated because I could see her older sister was waiting for her so I asked her if she comes to the café for lunch often and after she said yes I told her I'd see her around. Since then I've been leaving my office everyday at lunch to go there, unlike me. It’s just too see her of course. I haven't seen her since that day and I'm becoming frustrated. I should have just got her number but the shyness can be crippling to me. I know I'll see her there soon. I just wish she'd be alone. I really feel strongly about her. I have for a while and am not sure what to do, if she feels a 25 year old guy is too old for her and whether she'd date a white guy (she's black). She's gorgeous and just awesome so if I have a chance with her I don't want to waste too much time. How can I be sure I won't get shot down by her not liking me so I can make my move when I see her? Please let me know of any details I can add. Thanks |
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| Author: | CavScorpion [ Mon Jan 14, 2013 9:55 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Should I Make A Move On Her? |
Sounds like oneitis - which is probably best avoided. Or If you really feel you have to approach this girl, why not spend the next few weeks opening people in the cafe/building some social value in there and lessening your AA at the same time. Seems she was clearly interested - if she's new in town - why not make use of that - offer to show her something as she is new to the area - say you know how it feels to be new bla bla - honestly i'm only just starting out myself so this may not be great advice but just my two pennies worth. Edit: I'm 30 and my LTR just turned 25 - 6 year gap is not too old IMO. |
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| Author: | chakara [ Fri Jan 18, 2013 3:28 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Should I Make A Move On Her? |
Nice advice. |
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| Author: | R.C [ Fri Jan 18, 2013 7:06 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Should I Make A Move On Her? |
You can never be sure that you won't get turned out.ever. It's like shooting a bow. You can never be SURE that you won't miss your target. All you can be sure of is that you'll miss 100% of the shots you dont take. Just be a fun guy.Be relaxed ,be confident. Put positive energy in trying to get her. Fear will only limit your potential and consequently , your end result. |
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| Author: | puaninja [ Fri Jan 18, 2013 7:59 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Should I Make A Move On Her? |
You could tell that story was not written by anyone who's ever been to this forum, because it was the most AFC story I've ever heard. No confidence, no game, anxiety, needy, self-limiting beliefs, etc. So really it's like: "Where to even start?" To address the age issue, she probably goes around telling her friends that guys her age are too immature and she wishes older guys would hit on her more often. So much for the limiting belief that she's ageist. This guy really just needs to improve his inner game and sack up and ask for her number with confidence. Black chicks love older white guys. That's a fact. A number close shouldn't be that hard to pull off. |
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| Author: | chakara [ Sat Jan 19, 2013 3:37 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Should I Make A Move On Her? |
Thank you guys for the feed back it really helps me provide advice to my clients, I was posting my questions recieved, and my answers given but I always had a monetized link on it, I make it my business not to market on this or any other forum, so now I will only post the questions, so if you guy's see Chakara on the post PLEASE continue to help me out with this advice it is priceless. |
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| Author: | kasabi [ Sat Jan 19, 2013 5:31 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Should I Make A Move On Her? |
Goal: He wants to go out with her. Method: Get contact information and ask her out in the process. Strategy: i-like-you-you-like-me-vt79450-15.html It's a start. |
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